My brother and I both work for ourselves. we work together but seperate. anyway last week I was helping my brother out when he was in a bind with a big job and could not get all his work orders done. In the middle of doing some of his work, my car broke and was in the shop for 2 days last week and 2 days this week. just got it back Tuesday afternoon. he is mad at me because one of the jobs had to be done by no later than Monday. it did not get done. he knew about my car and he even refused to let me borrow his truck so I could work on Saturday. He threw a fit today and started yelling at me about this, saying I made him look bad... and caused him to lose business. he was yelling and going on about it in front of our kids. I left my parents house to stop the scene my kids and his were watching. How do I handle this? we work together, he is my brother and he was a jerk.
2006-08-10 15:53:00 · 11 answers · asked by concerned mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is not my boss... I was trying to do him a favor because he is my brother... the job that needed to be done is 2 hours away and I was trying to borrow his truck to go on a saturday... I normally dont work on Saturdays...
2006-08-10 16:04:57 · update #1
Romans 12:16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be conceited. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord." 20 To the contrary, "if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head." 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
2006-08-13 17:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your brother so first of all forgive him. I see his point about making him look bad but if he could have help you with the car situation and didn't then he is partially accountable for that and needs to take responsibility and wasn't he asking for your help on "his" work anyway. The biggest thing is yelling in front of the kids. Some families yell and scream constantly and it doesn't matter because it is an everyday occurrence. But it seems that your family doesn't normally do that. So talk it out with your brother and then -together- talk to the kids. They need to know you still love each other, that you are family and that it is not acceptable to treat others like that. Good luck.
2006-08-10 23:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cali Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I think he needs to cool down and apologize for one thing. Obviously, with out transportation you could not get the work done, and you even asked to borrow a vehicle. I am sure other things are bothering him. You didn't deserve that kind of treatment. He truly acted immaturely and like you said a jerk. In a moment of kindness, without the children around, talk to him, tell him how you feel, and how his rudeness and comments made you feel. And also remind him he did all of this in front of the children, not cool. I'm sorry he looked bad. If he was concerned about that, he should have helped you with the transportation issues. Hopefully he will realize he behaved inappropriately and will apologize to you. It's sad but true that most of us treat our family worse than we ever would our friends.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 23:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let things cool off first. Then you will have to explain to him that you did offer to help him out but your car broke down and was in the shop if he did not let you use a vehicle then and you don't have transportation what could you do? Don't offer to help him out in a jam again no matter what the problem is or how he begs you. You have your business to run then you need to concentrate on it and let him solve his own shortage or help problems. There are plenty of labor pools with men needing work he can hire from.
2006-08-10 23:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by georgia_102560 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first be the martyr and apologize for not getting the job done. I would then lay low and in the mean time find other work. Find a job working for someone else, go into business for yourself. Business and family tend not to mix when tensions get high. If his attitude bothers that much then you need to take matters into your own hands and quit working for him.
2006-08-10 23:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't jump to conclusions. sometimes supervisors feel they need to come down on a lazy employee to send a message. you could've got there. next time don't be late - and **don't** ask for his truck!
2006-08-10 22:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his problem not yours, he knew what the consequences are, you were trying to help him out and this is not how you deserve to be treated. if I was you id tell him that and also not offer to help him again.
2006-08-10 23:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by leon11357 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go crazy ghetto on his a$$
2006-08-10 22:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by The Chief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat the **** out of him
2006-08-10 23:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by jayk795 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him
2006-08-10 22:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋