I'm a single mom of a 2 year old. I go to school full time at night. My daughter doesn't listen, doesn't do what she's told and I know she's just being two, but that on top of me having homework and not having really slept in 3 days, its really bothersome. Any ideas that someone could help me with?
2006-08-10 15:37:50 · 15 answers · asked by L♥G 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I totally understand how you feel and what you are going through. Although I was married with a 2 yr old, going to school full time and working full time, my now ex husband was no help with the child. If your two year old sleeps through the night and goes to sleep at a decent hour you can have a nice relaxing drink and go to bed. The terrible 2's is just a myth...my daughter didn't out grow them until she was about 4! And her not listening is not a reflection of your parenting skills so as hard as it is just let it go. If you have not already done so, go to your doctor and see if they can recommend anything to help you out, either medication or therapy, or even a self help book. Just remember you are not the only one to have gone through this and there are people out there to help you or even just listen to you complain.
2006-08-10 15:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut back on some classes if you can. This will free up time for you to take care of yourself. Do nice things for yourself that are relaxing. A cup of tea or a bubble bath after she's in bed. Read a book that you enjoy. Give yourself a facial. Something. Meditation is also a great stress reliever. No need to make a big production out of it. Just sit quietly and breathe deeply for about 15 minutes. Be sure to slowly push out all the air and feel the stresses going with it. Good luck.
2006-08-10 15:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not realize this, but as much stress as you feel, your daughter feels it too. When it is just you two, you share the same emotions. Take everybody's advice here and have atleast one night to yourself. Your daughter is probably acting up because she can feel the stress in the house. One or two nights away from each other will help both of you tremendously!! Chances are she will behave better after a little time away. I know where you are coming from here. I go to school part time, have two part time jobs, and i am a single mother of two (5yrs&4mos). I make it a rule to spend one day or night a month with no children to catch up on sleep and get all my thoughts in order. It will do you both a world of good!!
2006-08-10 19:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. Try to get a family member to take her for a few hours so you can get some z's. When you are around her...play with her and interact with her alot. Yeah she is only being 2 and this is normal. But giving her attention helps. By the way kids will always listen to grandma or aunt better than they will you. If you spend some quality time with her and get some rest then your school work will seem easier.
2006-08-10 17:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Love not hate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom is hard enough but to be a single parent?
Kindly ask for help from your friend/ family/ hire a nanny or drop her off at a daycare center.
I know it's hard to let your daughter "go" but one should never feel ashamed to ask for help.
Take a break. A day off even to energize. The trick is to manage your time well. Organize your priorities. Once everything clears, you'd be able to care for yourself & your daughter.
2006-08-10 15:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I have experienced this..
do not take any phone calls for 3 days
no TV for 3 days
no computer for 3 days
no radio..soft music is OK
just focus on you and her and homework
no cooking -just easy meals-
stay away from the world and take a bath at night..let her jump in and have play time...bubbles!!!
no friends...
Relax...it is after all ...about you and her..keep it that way..block out the world once in a while, the world will go on with out you
2006-08-10 15:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Button Face 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take vitamins, try to do some reflecting to declutter your mind and excercise it helps increase your metabolism and helps your body release some endorphins to give you a natural high.
Try to also tune out for at least once a day for 30 min to an hour. When you do this it helps you get things back in perspective
2006-08-10 15:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by mariezernalynpalmares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Mom is she can take your two year old for the weekend. They you can catch up on your homework and get some rest.
2006-08-10 15:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have someone like a family member you trust ask them to care for your child so that you can study. you can also try to take some of your classes on the internet if that is offered. i know how you feel, i am going through the same thing. i study late at night when she is asleep and i take internet course from my local college. just try to keep studying, your doing it for you and your child's future. good luck!
2006-08-11 06:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember your goals. its gonna pay off at the end. chances are your daughter will grow up to be like you so be a good role model. struggles make life seem worth living.
2006-08-10 15:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by King Kong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋