2006-08-10 15:01:52 · 38 answers · asked by 12good2get 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No..small intimate wedding and one hell of a party afterward is best and alot more fun!
2006-08-10 15:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my wife and I had a small wedding with family and a few friends, a great party afterward. Not too expensive, either, and everyone had a great time. We have gotten many, many compliments over the years for how memorable our ceremony was because we added a lot of small, personal touches.
My personal opinion is that the huge, extravagant weddings that people have now are not about the bride and groom, or marriage, or anything other than the brides trying to impress and out-do their friends. I have seen many weddings where the groom (and the marriage) was almost an after thought. None of those marriages lasted very long, either.
No one went broke or into debt financing our wedding, the reception, the jewelry, or anything else and the day was PERFECT. That, however, was mostly due to my wife's presence. May God bless and keep you.
2006-08-10 15:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by blowry007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that one of the biggest reasons we have such a high divorce rate is because we put too much emphasis on the wedding itself and not on the ensuing marriage. There are dozens of magazines dedicated to having the perfect wedding, but how many help you have a good marriage? All you'll find are articles about how to solve some marriage problems once you've started having them, not how to prevent them.
I say, get some counseling first, learn HOW to be married, and then plan a small but tasteful and FUN wedding and then be totally devoted to each other and have a wonderful life. It's all about the life.
2006-08-10 20:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary at all to have a big wedding. I am maarying my fiance next May 20, and we are just having a small one. There will be about 50 people there and of that about half will be family. But a grand time shall be had by all and most importantly we will be united.
2006-08-10 15:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not necessary to have a big wedding or even a big cake. Heck, not even a 1 1/2-carat diamond ring is necessary!
Important doesn't necessarily mean big, over-the-top, expensive, outrageous stuff. If you two really love each other, celebrate that, not the envy from neighbors and relatives.
Keep it simple, under budget, short and sweet.
2006-08-10 15:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't guarantee the marriage will succeed. In fact, the most lavish weddings are far more likely to preceed a failed marriage because the whole shebang is untertaken as an ego trip far more than as a declaration of love and committment to one another. If it's a relative, such as the future mother-in-law pushing a big wedding, tell her to back off; that sort of pressure on a young couple is very unwise.
2006-08-10 15:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, some people favor "eloping" even when they have the families' blessings. It's cheaper, less stressful, less time consuming, more personal and intimate...Those who elope sometimes regret not having pictures, so I'd say a small intimate wedding without a party might be great. You obviously won't get gifts from all your acquaintances, but those who are close to you will probably still get you at least a house warming gift or more if it's in their financial ability. Also, those who can't afford it won't feel guilty or obliged.
2006-08-10 15:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Have a fun one instead....
Invite everyone you love and have a reception with cake (or cupcakes) and punch at the church, in the park or in your parents' backyard.
Ask a family member to sew the bride's dress (most will appreciate the challenge and you'll have more control over the size and style).
There are a ton of ways to make a wedding happy and small, on a budget. You're not trying to impress the neighborhood, just trying to join your life to the person you love most in the world, with the blessings of God and your family and friends.
Have fun!
2006-08-10 15:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. So many people nowadays focus on having an elaborate, expensive reception - and the ceremony gets overlooked and they forget what it's all about. A wedding is supposed to be about two people committing their lives to each other, not an open bar and free shrimp. No wonder the divorce rate is over 50%.
2006-08-10 15:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by noyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, a wedding is a celebration of your love to each other , it is not about how much or how little you spend on your marriage. Just have family and close friends that is all i done and we were very happy.
2006-08-10 18:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, you are such a WOMAN!! Why would you even ask if it is NECESSARY? Do you think it is some sort of law? Damn, why don't you ask your groom-to be? If he has the nerve he will tell you how ridiculous a big wedding seems to him.
2006-08-10 15:19:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋