me and my sister have been separated since i was little. we met at my age of 20. I am 27 now and she is now 20. we want to know each other but my mother(not her mother) is forbidding it. she will 'kill' me if she knows we've been talking. but she is my only sister. (half)...please help..
2006-08-10 14:51:46 · 28 answers · asked by michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother is still holding a grudge against your father having your half sister. It's your mother's insecurity not yours. These were adult matters you as a child had no control over. Now you are grown and you want to know your mom's grudge. Go for it.
Your sister is your blood. You should not hold anything against your sister. It's not her fault. You getting to know your sister will not take away from what you feel for your mother, unless of course your mother allows it to take away.
2006-08-10 15:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by backroadhome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to do what you want. Your mother is wrong to stand in your way because after both mothers are gone you and Your sister will hopefully have a relationship. Parents should let their children explore extended families and not hold them back because exchanging views on your dad and how life worked out will make both of you better people. Do not judge your parents because often mistakes made were unintentional and it does not help anyone to try and blame someone for what happened. Learn from mistakes and spread love and understanding in life and things will be much brighter for You and those around you.
2006-08-10 21:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not let your mothers bitterness stop you from doing what you want. You are an adult now and are entitled to make your own decisions and choices. She has no right forbidding you from anything...you're a woman now. It is not a matter of you choosing your sister over her....there is enough love in peoples hearts to go around and enough hatred in this world as it is.
2006-08-10 22:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See her, know her, love her. Sisters can be the best friend you will ever have.
I have a 1/2 sister I was forbidden to meet by my Mother and I have no idea where she is now and I am now 31 years old.
2006-08-10 21:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by AuntieKJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get to know your sister. She is your sister after all. I think probably your mom is angry at your dad (I'm assuming he's your sisters dad too) and she's taking that anger out on his daughter as well as him. You'll be sisters all your lives and the two of you should outlive your parents. If you get to know each other, when you're older and your parents are gone you'll still have each other.
I know it will be hard, but I don't think you should do this behind your mothers back. I think it would be easier to let her know that you intend to get to know her than to do it behind her back and have her find out about it, but that's up to you. You know, we spend at least 18 years of our life being taught to obey our parents and then we become adults and get out on our own and we should be able to make our own decisions, but it's hard to go against a parent when you've been taught all your life that you shouldn't. At some point though, you and your mother need to realize that you can make decisions for yourself. Her job was to raise you so that you will be able to use good judgement and make good decisions. It's okay to ask her advice but it should also be okay for you to decide whether or not to follow it. It's a hard road for both of you to find your way down, but it needs to happen. Good luck!
2006-08-10 22:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's up with that? Is your mother bitter that your father had a child with someone else? That sounds like an issue that she needs to deal with; not something she should try to drag you into. If you truly want to get to know your sister, just do it. Be sensitive when telling your mother about it (don't go behind her back. Sounds like she's hurting. Don't make it worse.) Just explain that family is important to you. Whether or not she can accept that, is not a burden for you to bear.
2006-08-10 22:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by MackMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve a meaningful relationsip with your sister regardless of whatever is haunting your mother's past, and she should understand that. You're an adult, and so is she and you both have the right to make separate decisions on life whether or not the other agrees. That's just part of life. You can't make everyone happy.
2006-08-10 21:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by hawt2trawt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go with your own feelings on this one. It is not up to your mom. You are over age 18 and are capable of making your own decisions. Your mother may be upset when she finds out, but if she is any kind of mother she will respect your decision. Mother's have a way of getting over things their kids do because it isn't what they want for their child.
2006-08-12 05:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown up now and need to make your own decisions. Having a sister is something that should be cherished. Im not sure of the reasoning behind your moms ill feelings toward your sister but im sure she has her reasons. If it were me...id take my chances and see her! Good luck!
2006-08-10 22:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too many families have already been torn apart on this earth-- don't let another one be ruined. Don't let your mom do this. You may come to a point where you have to choose between your sister or your mom. I would choose your sister but that is your business not mine. I hope all goes well with your problem and i wish i could help you more.
2006-08-10 22:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by MightyMan50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋