I like this guy. he is a really good friend of mine. i only considered him as a friend but now i dont know! I think I like him...his personality is fantastic and he is such a nice guy and i know would treat me like gold.. but in my mind i cannot imagine us having sex...yeah kissing is ok *we havent done anything yet..he doesnt even know i like him*...but oral or real SEX is A no-no kind of freakishly weird to me...does that mean that i dont REALLY like him? if you cannot imagine making love to him then..its over??? or will this desire come to me later on? ...hmm by the way i've never had sex..but still..i totally imagined doing all those things to my other crushes... i need some advice! thanks!!
2006-08-10 14:44:58 · 18 answers · asked by Feodora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah well...i knew he liked me a long time a go but i kinda of ignored that fact and remained friends with him..while going out with my ex..i dont know..but now im considering him as a bf material..thanks for everything!
2006-08-10 14:52:13 · update #1
It means you dig him as a friend, so keep it that way.
2006-08-10 14:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he feels the same way, considered that ? Personally I have lots of female friends, but don't want to sleep with (most of) them. We men don't want to have sex with every woman we meet or get to know. Sometimes you may meet someone you really like but sex just doesn't enter into the equation. If you believe that you must be sexually attracted to a man to have a friendship, then take some time and think life over.
After you've had a good, regular sex life you may see things differently.
2006-08-10 21:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Richard B-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not weird at all, caring about a person is alot different than just wanting to do it with them...I mean I think that should some after the relationship grows, and hopefully after you are married .
If it is a guy who doesn't understand your concerns, and doesn't respect them, then that is not the guy for you. Just wait until you are ready, no one else has the right to choose for you when to be ready.
And don't be pressured into doing something just because all of america thinks it makes you older, or cooler, or if you don't they think you are chicken.
Being a virgin is not bad, it just means you really care about the person when you finally do get married and stuff, and he isn't sloppy seconds. I have cared about guys and didn't have to sleep with them so it should work out for you. Just be you!!!
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2006-08-10 21:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by <3s_StarsHorseShoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy Hun. You haven't even had a date with this guy. Sex is NOT required in the beginning of a relationship. Just take it nice and slow. Have a date or two, after the 2nd one, if you feel like it, kiss him and see how it feels. If you like it, kiss him again. But remember that you are still not required to sleep with him after that first kiss. You don't have to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. Just enjoy yourself!!!
2006-08-10 21:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the fact that you don't want to imagine having sex with him is because you like and respect him and your relationship as friends more than you did with your other crushes.
2006-08-10 21:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him as a friend. If you slept with him, and then it went sour, you loose both a lover and a friend. This way you keep the friend. Later in life, there is always a chance this may change.
2006-08-10 21:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you cant imagine your self being intimate with a person then you dont like him the way you think you do. so unless your feelings about the intimacy change dont talk to him about your feelings for him.
you're better off as friends.
2006-08-10 21:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by krissy_pod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're OK - You should get far beyond "like" before you think about sleeping with him -- you're OK. By the time you marry, you will have imagined what you can't imagine now.
2006-08-10 22:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me and i never did anything with him and we broke up cuz i didnt like him it was all in my head. So just stay friends right now. Its for the best.
2006-08-10 22:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would honestly think you need to keep him in the friends place, Cause you need all of that for a relationship!
2006-08-10 21:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by bridgett678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the thought is repulsive to you, you probably won't get over it. Otherwise, it may just be hard to imagine because he's your friend.
2006-08-10 21:49:22 · answer #11 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋