Do you think it is right to live with a man before you are married?

Question

I've been told by other people that I am making a bad example for my daughter, by living with my boyfriend. Well should I making him go or not?

Answer 1

i think living together before marrage is a good thing.it lets you dicover what that person is really like before you make that life long commitment.

Answer 2

It puts your daughter at risk of being abused. Also it sends the message that it's okay to live with a man without being married and makes the home environment very unstable. Children need stability and having a boyfriend is not stable.

Answer 3

I personally don't think you should. However it depends on the two people involved, if you really old enough and mature, if you really love each other and if you both want it. I would strongly recommend waiting because sometimes that can ruin the relationship before you get married. And I do think you should marry him before you bring live with you in front of your daughter. That can be awkward for kids

Answer 4

OMG - Do you know what my 92 year old grandma told me. She said she wished things were different when she was younger because these days women could see what they were getting into before getting married. I was so shocked to here this coming from her but i totally agree. You never truly know if you can deal with someone until you live with them. If you wait until you married then you are stuck! So yes it is perfectly ok and probably even the best ideas to test the good out first.

Answer 5

This depends on whether or not you want to set the proper moral example for your daughter. The christian belief system follows the guidlines, no sex before marriage, kind of hard to follow living together.

Answer 6

It's a personal choice, and you are the only one who can (or should) make it. So long as the man isn't abusive toward you or your daughter, I'd say go with what your gut tells you is right for you. Good luck.

Answer 7

I think it's fine!! These days it cost too little to get married and too much to get out! I lived with my boyfriend for 2 years before we got married and we had 2 kids. Don't get married just because you two have a kid together. Do what you feel and don't not worry what others think. It's your life not theirs!!!

Answer 8

I think they are right. You don't want anyone around your daughter unless you are in a permanent relationship. After all one dad is not in the home, and you've replaced him. If he leaves your daughter is going to think something is wrong with her. Dr. Laura's right on this one.

Your daughter is the most important thing right now.

Answer 9

no u dont have to be married to live together first of all ur getting to no him better its kinda like test driving a car b4 u buy it.. u wanna c if things r good when u live with each other so u can live a long an happy life together its all good girl good luck

Answer 10

Whenever there is a child involved in a relationship you have to put the needs and considerations of the child first. If both of you are committed to each other and recognize that the child is an important part of your 'family', than a ring on each of your fingers isn't going to change that. If he is good to the child and truly loves both of you, that is enuf.

Answer 11

I think it is okay. At least you know what you are getting into before you marry. Why worry aobut what other people think? As long as you are raising your daughter right who cares?