she not a hoe and she is faithful, we are in a long distance relatioship not to far from each other. she tell me that she been hurt by guys in ways that i can't even imagine. I really love her and i know she loves me. but she has been going through alot with family problems, cause i been there and i know what she going through shoul i stay with her. she told me she went out with a friend to have a drink (she works alot to on top of that with the stress, she not a alcoholic) she had to much and sex with the guy. but she told me instead of me finding out. what should i do.
2006-08-10 14:20:25 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave her cheatin' azz.she will do it again if you foregive her.
2006-08-10 14:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by retrac_enyaw03 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont want to be blunt but she isnt worth your time if she can find somebody else she likes more (even if it is a friend) and have sex then you need to find somebody else. I can admit that she has good because she told the truth but she isnt worth it for gods sakes boy!!! the only person she should be giving it to is you! I ll her faithful if she did it with another guy. Are you sure she is telling the truth or did she mix up the story. Seriously they had to have been bestfriends to do it with each other, or more. If you guys had a long distant relationship i think shes been with him all along so i dont think she got drunk. It was planned they already knew they were gonna do it. She is seriously the nest Cassie. Have you heard the song "I know them other guys, they've been talking 'bout the way I do what I do They heard I was good, they wanna see if it's true They know your the one I wanna give it to
I can see you want me too...Now it's Me & U. I thinks there ARE Other guys who are curious.have you ever considered shes promincous. I am telling you the truth because i think your a nice guy to care about your girl so much but DROP IT its gonna keep on happening
2006-08-10 14:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one. it sounds like you really love her and if you think you can eventually forgive her I say stay with her. Just make it clear to her that you are hurt and hope that you can regain your trust in her. At the same time tell her you will try to be there for her b/c you know she is going through a lot. Just let her know it's not an excuse to cheat on you.
Meanwhile, you just keep your eyes open and overtime hopefully you can forgive her and begin to trust her again.
2006-08-10 14:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear that you've been so badly treated. I'm sorry to hear that such a sweet guy is in love with this girl. from what you've said,
She told you in case you found out. She didn't say anything about her own failings and culpability. All she did was blame others and threw in drinking too much just in case blaming the others didn't work.
I never in all my days of college drinking ever lost control over myself nor did one thing I didn't want to do - except throw up on a friend.
She is only using it as an excuse.
Do you really want to be with someone who will drink to much to have an excuse to do what she wants? Or who blames stress? Or family problems? Or unknown people in the past who have done unknown things to her?
She is not owning up to her behavior, not taking responsiblity. In other words, she is of very low character.
Do you want a girlfriend of low character? "Cause this is as good as it is going to get. Remember that the point of dating is to learn if you want to be with this person, not to find ways to accept shitty treatment. There are many many many girls who would never cheat. Why put up with one who will?
2006-08-10 14:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You say that you "know she loves you." Well, I think it's pretty obvious that she doesn't, or else she never would have cheated on you. Remember, once a cheater, always a cheater. I'd leave her if I were you. Alcohol is not an excuse...everyone knows what they did the night before regardless of how much they've had. Good luck!
2006-08-10 14:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start off if she cheated on you buddy, then she's a hoe! bullshit on to much to drink, she knew what she was doing, what was she doing with him anyways? I think your just too soft and forgiving and she knows it! stop making excuses for her.Like she has problems and crap, who doesn't? you should be me for a day! And long distance relationship, well i just wanna ask who else is at her door you won't know cause you don't live in the neighborhood! take a ride and spy on her buddy! women are something else they can be worse than men so be careful! but its your life do what you want, but do me a favor in a month let me know if she got drunk again and didn't know what she was doing "again"! take care and wish you luck!
2006-08-10 14:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by fairyjin1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just want to say this: did you ever notice that when guys cheat, they always expect another chance? but when their girl cheats on them they expect the relationship to be over? think about that and the fact of wheather or not you would want another chance if you did the same to her. besides, you just said how good of a person she is. and what shes been going through. if she really means that much to you, you would know the answer and not have to post it on here. you should know the answer without having to post it on a site for totally random strangers to read.
2006-08-10 14:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, it sounds to me like you are trying to make excuses for her. It is not a good thing. If she has that much going on, until she gets herself together, she is gonna hurt you again and again. Meanwhile, you can wait in the shadows until you become bitter at all women or you can move on. But only you can make that decision. But whatever you do, don't downplay the fact that she broke your trust.
2006-08-10 14:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart tell you to do? If you think that you can build up that trust and continue to strengthen your relationship, then go for it. But could you really trust her again? People do make mistakes from time to time, but alcohol is NEVER an excuse for cheating or anything else for that matter.
2006-08-10 14:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn tuff situation
well u gotta give her props 4 telling u herself but i was wrong and if yall r deep in luv give it 1 more shot but only 1~!
if things dont work out just know it was not ur fault ok u r a very great guy and any gurl would b lucky 2 go out with u
wish u the best!
2006-08-10 14:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you forgive too soon, it sends the wrong message that what she's done is alright. There needs to be some emotional punishment so she doesn't hurt you like this again. Tell her you are angry and needs space to think it over. While you're at it, think it over for real and decide if you really want to be with her.
2006-08-10 14:27:26 · answer #11 · answered by success_2_be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋