"Personally I like to let a relationship flow and see where it goes, it never seems to work out when a relationship is artificially "pushed". I have made this mistake in my lifetime, I have gotten too agressive in pursuing a relationship, and ended up scareing away the other person, in short, I didn't let the relationship take it's own course, and let things run naturally. All I can really tell you is that for me, if this or any other relationship is "pushed", it will never have a chance of working out".
What exactly is he telling me? What does he mean by push?
2006-08-10 14:18:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES, YOU are asking the right question at the right time because I know the answer to your question.
LISTEN CAREFULLY- This guy who wrote you this letter or email really likes you, alot, because I understand why he is saying what he is saying in it. I once wrote a letter to a girl and told her how I felt about her, and in a sense I was to PUSHY about wanting to be with HER. Do you understand now what is meant by "PUSHY". PUSHY means wanting the girl so bad that I started to act NEEDY and maybe a little desperate for this girl that I once wanted.
I made the mistake of exposing all of my feelings for a girl, and it scared her........and this guy that wrote you this letter is just saying that he really likes you in a NON-THREATENING way, so that he wont scare you away.
TRUST ME ON THIS, because I know he really likes you. He wants to take this slow, so that you guys can fall in love or whatever. Let it be what it is, dont rush or hurry to fall in love or do anything. OK.
Good Luck.
2006-08-10 14:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks that you are pushing for a relationship. If a relationship is meant to be then it will be, if you force something you never give it a chance to get a firm hold on solid ground, so everything is shaky and bound for failure soon as you hit stormy waters. I am not sure if this is right because I don't know the whole story. But it sounds like he is feeling pressure from you to get into a relationship.
2006-08-10 15:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm I believe he is saying he use to scare girls away by telling the girl he wants to get married and pushing staying together. He wants a relationship to work so bad that he will do anything to try and keep it going. He didn't act like himself. He rushed and said I love you when he wasn't ready. He had sex too soon because he felt it would bring their relationship to a new level. He sounds like a sincere and nice guy. He doesn't want to push marriage or a relationship on a girl. Putting a box around her so she feels like she cant breathe. Like she is going to have to be with him forever right then and there. That's just my view of the situation. I found that talking to your loved one or partner is the best way to get the right answer. Communication is a very important part of a relationship working. Don't just ask us =). Talk to him too! Hope I helped you!
-Sincerely NuTTeR-
2006-08-10 14:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by NuTTeR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is not where you are nor where you want him to be.
He is not willing to take the relationship the way you take it.
If you like him and have a fun time with him and he likes you and wants to have a fun time with you, that's where you are and that's what you'll get from him. Never expect anything else.
Some gals take his words as a challenge, think he's been hurt and needs to be brought around. This would be a big waste of your time and a real disrespect for what he is telling you.
2006-08-10 14:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that what he's trying to tell you is to stop being so eager in trying to have a relationship with him, or more like stop pushing things. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to date you, it just means that he wants to take things slow and see what happens. So just be patient and wait to see what happens. If it's meant to be it will happen if not don't push it. He's right if you force it, the relationship will turn out nasty or boring.
2006-08-10 14:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Puffgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means youwant to much to fast. Men are like a microwave, yeah they can be fast but you can't let your food heat up for 15 seconds and think its ready, even though its fast it still takes time and your still standing there with your fork waiting, and even when you think its done you still have to put it back for another minute to get it how you want it. Give the man some time, if he wants to be with you he'll stick around. Women want to rush into everything like we have timelines when we don't. If you give a man space all he has is opportunity, if its with you you will know, just let him be, he'll be around if you're what he wants. Try thinking more of yourself and less of him, take all that energy you have for him and put it into you, as if you wanted a relationship with you. If you love yourself hard, then he will wonder why and spend time tryin to figure it out.
2006-08-10 14:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by snowflake9540 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basicly he is saying that he would like to take things slow and not rush into anything for reasons unknown. Being pushed means he doesnt want to commit to anything if he is not ready and you are. If he can tell you these things, than more than likely you have a good guy or he might be just be saying what he did because he is a jerk. You have to follow your heart on this one. Just dont get hurt.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-10 14:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trying say don't force him to do anything so quickly. Like have sex, make out, go out on a date, etc...
He wants to let the relationship between you two, go nice and slow. The whole "push" thing, he's trying to say that he's been forced to do alot of things that he wasn't ready to do. So he's trying to say that don't rush him. Let the relationship between you two have a nice and smooth course. And whatever happens, happens. But he wants to feel comfortable about whatever it is. And not feel like he was forced to do anything
2006-08-10 14:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by darkgothicshadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to act deep but he's telling you he doesnt' want to get serious right now; He wants to date other people, and he just doesn't want to be tied down. Be careful because this guy acts intellectual but something isn't right. Not getting too serious too soon is fine, but not being exclusive is ridiculous.
Also I dont' see your relationship going too far because already you guys have communication problems. Just hang out and have fun and see where it goes, but you also see other people.
2006-08-10 14:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thank that he's telling you that you want to take the relationship slow because if you rush into it then that's where the problems begin.
Push meaning that if you are in a relationship and you and your partner isn't happy.
2006-08-10 14:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋