The perfect girl dilemma...?

Question

So, I'm dating this girl and she is perfect, as was our relationship for the first 2 months. However, for the last 2 weeks I'm just not feeling excited about dating her, even though she's done nothing wrong. Do I continure to date her and hope this feeling passes or should I end things now. I want this to work and I'm scared that I'll later regret ending the relationship. However, at the same time I feel guilty because everything is still going well in her eyes and I'll just hurt her more if my feelings stay unchanged.

Answer 1

Listen, this relationship won't end happily ever after if you don't feel as excited about dating her. Ask her for her opinion when it comes to the next step; she appreciate it more if you ask what her feelings are. Then, tell her your feelings and try to think why you don't feel as excited anymore. Good luck!

Answer 2

Don't act on impulse. Weigh things over first before you decide what to do. Give yourself some more time to search your heart and soul where that girl stands. Ask yourself why you have that sudden change in your feelings for her. If she hasn't done anything wrong at all, do you feel yourself inferior to her? I presume that you do and that draws you apart from her.

Well, I would say that you should not feel inferior to any other man on this planet because all of us are equal. A very beautiful but dumb girl is equal to an ugly but very intelligent one; a rich but lonely boy belonging to a broken family is equal to a very poor but happy guy living happily with his family, so on and so forth. So don't think of her as a perfect woman because nobody is. As time passes by between you, I'm sure that you will discover some things in her that will reverse your belief that she is perfect.

If the change in your feeling though is not caused by that inferior feeling, sometimes such is caused by just falling out of love without any reason at all. If after you've given yourself enough time to think and weigh things over about your relationship with her, that's the time that you should decide whether to separate ways or continue your relationship with her.

However, you may just be experiencing your low "biorhythm cycle" which means that every person in this planet experiences this cylce where he feels low or depressed without any reason at all. The high "biorhythym cycle" of a person, on the other hand, is experienced when he feels highly spirited or active and happy as if if every thing in his life is going perfectly well. If you are really in your low cycle, it will soon pass. It happens every month and is longer than the high "biorhythm cycle". So, if you find out that may be it is caused by biorhythym, then don;t let it affect your relationship with that seemingly perfect woman for you. You may regret it your whole life through.

Please try to read books on the biorhythym cycles of a person. I'm sorry that I could no longer remember the title of the book where I read many articles about it. You may browse the internet. Good luck.

Answer 3

I say try spicing up your routine. Its just probably that you guys have gotten into a very familiar rut right now. It happens in all relationships. So don't be hasty to end things because you aren't feeling her as much as before. Try going to a new restaurant or reinacting your first date. Heck even try spicing up things in the bedroom. But don't end things because you are used to having her around. If she really is the perfect girl for you, then show it. Don't run away from something good. Oh another suggestion too try writing down fantasies. Both of you and putting them into a jar or bowl. And each week pull out a fantasy, and act it out and improve on it any way you can throughout the whole week, til next week when you pick another one. Have fun and I hope this helps you out.

Answer 4

Maybe the fact that you dubbed her as "Perfect" in the beginning may be the problem. Although what you was thinking was perfect is actually just normal, just that, not spectacular or OUTSTANDING but a normal relationship and so now your feeling a little like "Hey she's normal like other girls" Not that that's not a good thing because anyone who respects you, treats you good, and makes you laugh and feel good about yourself is a good thing. We all deserve a nice , healthy , happy relationship with someone that makes us happy, right? You might want to give it a little longer because the "NEW" feeling always wears off a little. It doesn't make it a bad thing. Just a settled into relationship.

Answer 5

It just sounds like the thrill of the new relationship is wearing off. I'm curious to know how old you are. I mean, are you at a point in your life that you're starting to get ready to settle down? Do you have a history of this same thing happening? If you're not looking to settle down and you're not feeling that she's the one for you, I'd suggest setting her free before it goes any further. Good luck, there's no real right answer here. It's all what you want in your life....

Answer 6

It is totally natural for the newness of a relationship to wear off. I think you need to hang in there for awhile and see how it goes. Make a check-list of why you feel differently about her. Is it something she said or did or something you did? When you have a good list talk to her about it in a totally non-confrontational way. Never say "you" in the conversation. So never say for instance "you always take the last slice of pizza"(lol). Always use "I". Like "I feel I'm doing something wrong". Can we talk about it. Just for instances of course. But don't just throw out your relationship because things are slowing down. Find a way to spark that excitement again!!

Answer 7

Do yourself a favour dude. #1, think about it some more, atleast for a week, this will help you make your decision more thoroughly without jumping into things. #2 If you decide to break up with her, do it ASAP because you dont want to hurt her in the long run if you lose all feelings for her. #3 If you decide to stay with her and see how things work out, or attempt to get your feelings back on track then do so, and spend alot of time with her, that should help bring your feelings back.

Answer 8

It's confusing as hell, i was in the same boat, you stay with her because things are ok and your worried about how she'll take the break up and your worried about not meeting anybody else like her. But you don't want to be with her, and you don't want to regret letting her go.

I got this same feeling with the girl i just broke up with. only i stayed with her for a year before i got my head on straight. It devastated her, she was and still is a wreck, so make up your mind quickly and don't just stick with it because you think its a phase. Your either all-in or nothing with it man.

Answer 9

I was that girl once, he ended it with me as soon as he had the doubts you are now feeling.
I ran into him 5 years ago, and he regretted ever letting me go......
So, I feel you should give it a couple more weeks, or take the chance of never getting over the 'what ifs".
It can hurt no one, I mean, it's only a couple more weeks, not the rest of your lives !!

Answer 10

Tell her how you feel and move on. The longer you wait the more it is going to hurt her when you guys break up. If you are not excited about her anymore your eyes will begin to wonder. Let her go so she can meet a guy who will love her as much as she loves him.