I have a son that my husband watches when I am at work.Should he just stop helping when I get home?

Answer 1

I think it's quite amusing that all of the women that I read said that he should not. Some even seemed agitated by the question. That's comical to me!

Your kid should not a ball that is passed back and forth. Taking care of a child is a full time job, and is just as stressful as work. Therefore, you both should be spending time with your child. You should spend as much time with your kid as possible when you get home. Having both parents show your child the affection it needs will help in his development.

Just remember your child is not a basketball. Enjoy the younger years while you still can.

Answer 2

Parenting is a full time job. Nobody get's off at 5:00. However, we all do need a break from the daily stresses of life. I used my 45 minute commute home to decompress from my job and to get ready to come home. All I asked was 15 minutes when I walked in the door, to change clothes and use the bathroom. Then I was ready to deal with being home. At that time my husband might take a shower or do something to unwind for 30 minutes or so. Then we would both settle in to make dinner or give additional homework help or whatever needed to be done. We also each had one evening a week when we would go to coffee or dinner with friends after work. Looking forward to a night off really helped. Having a set bedtime for the kids and having them help with after dinner chores also helped us have an hour or two of quiet before we went to bed. Good Luck it is a hard issue. It took us years of arguing and being resentful with each other to come up with this plan.

Answer 3

No, but let me tell you, I was a stay at home mom for two years, and by the time my husband would get home, I would be ready to throw my hands up in frustration and hand them over to him and say, "here, you deal with them" I mean, imagine what it would be like if you were at your job 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, with no adult conversation, always saying no no no. It's very frustrating and hard. And then he would still expect me to do everything after he got home. I'm sorry, but I need a break sometimes! even if it's just to drive around in my car, or go walk around at Walmart and buy a new lipstick, I need quiet time! Time where there is no screaming or whining and crying. You guys should reverse rolls so you he can see how you feel, and you can see how he feels.

Answer 4

No, but you shouldn't expect to be able to completely relax either.

Be open to his needs--he's spent all day with a potentially crying kid. Sick, healthy--he's the full-time dad. You're the bread winner. Congrats.

You both have full time jobs. At the end of the day, you both have to help out. Niether one of you should just quit.

Have you told him how you feel? Communicate!

Answer 5

no. watching children is a job too, so there's no reason why you should come home from work to have to continue work until you put your son to bed. if he's at home with your son all day, then he should realize that it is a job. when he gets home he should still continue to help out.

Answer 6

Your husband needs a break when you get home. Then, after his break, you can take turns with kid duty for the rest of the evening.

Answer 7

of course not! if it were you who stayed home, he'd expect you to let him have his "unwinding" time, and you should get that too. also, you BOTH are working all day, just because he's at home doing it, doesn't make it ok for him to just stop the second you walk in the door. my EX-husband used to do that to me.

Answer 8

My husband does the same thing.

Answer 9

It should be a shared thing..

Answer 10

no he should still help it is his resp, all the time to help when your their and when your not