I have been chatting with a guy for a few weeks now, and he mentioned that he would like to meet me someday.He wanted to call me so, he called me twice in one day.He usually IMs me as soon as he gets online, saying Hi Cutie. The other day he was telling me how he thought noone thought he was attractive. But he is actually highly attractive and has pictures on the net so why he think that? Like I was suppose to feel sorry for him. I said so i guess your not interested in me at all, he replies with , "I didnt say that". What is this suppose to mean? Mixed signals I hate this. What does he want? to string me along, so he IMs me as soon as he gets online, calls me twice in one day,What is this about? And then when i say " so your not interested in me" he says" I didnt say that" . Just someone give me some help with these mixed signals.
2006-08-10 13:42:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't realize how you take what he says. he may mean one thing, but he can't think of the correct way to say it, so he says it a way that could have a different meaning than what he wanted. When he said no one thought he was hot, he was probably fishing for a compliment and it went wrong. he seems to mean well, so give it time, and meet him in persom in like a mall or something. Somewhere very public
Good Luck!
2006-08-10 13:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My view on this is that your response to his message about his looks was off.
I don't think he wanted you to feel sorry for him. I think he was trying to be honest so that you wouldn't be disappointed when you saw him in person. Or else he was talking about how he feels. Why didn't you tell him that you think his pictures are actually highly attractive??
I don't understand your reply to him! (I'm a woman btw)
I don't think he understood it either. What does what he said have to do with his interest in you? If anything I think he was expressing a bit of nervousness, which means it means a lot to him. ( a good sign) Your reply to him actually sounds selfish to me. You turned it right around and made it about you.
You ask me what does "I didn't say that" mean-
Well he really didn't say anything like that. So might he be telling you that that's not what he said or meant for you to think? He may be shocked at your reaction.
I am so curious to know what you think it was suposed to mean. Please let me know.
It is very interesting how much people interpret things so differently. Crossed signals is one of the most frustrating things.
I have learned that we need to just keep on clarifying and asking for clarification. Being able to work out communicating together makes for a greater more satisfying relationship.
2006-08-10 14:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can say I was almost in that kinda situation... I met this guy online... we talked every single day (online) so finally i gave him my number we talked online and on the phone. I was seeing someone so talking to him was just "FRIENDS" ... i found out my class trip was where he was living so I asked if he'd meet me there he did. we met and had a great time. he asked if I'd go home with him and I declined cuz I WAS on my class trip. so when i got home from the trip i called him to let him know i was home and he totally bugged out on me. He was like your a F'n B ** itch and a w * hore.... then he put this chick on the phone sayin it was his GF.. In which he never stated he had one, even knowing i had a bf.... I knew this guy for over 3years and finally met him and was happy to meet him. But cuz i didn't go home to him and his GF he "dumped" me as a friend. STUPID ****.. But yeah... that's just my situation... If I were you I'd definately ask him out front what's going on. CONFRONTING a person is exactly how you get the truth about things. In which he should respond and that'll let you know what's up! :) GOOD LUCK hope you don't get the same deal I did.
2006-08-10 13:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer see something which you're blended up approximately. looks distinctly sparkling to me. Are you helpful the %. are unquestionably of him nevertheless? He appears like an insecure whiner to me which will positioned himself down basically to get you to puff him up, ever spent time with somebody like that? Its demanding as hec!! in line with possibility because you probably did no longer sense sorry for him you at the instant are not his sort of lady because you will no longer feed his bottomless pit of lack of self belief! human beings like that not at all get sufficient no count number how lots you provide them. I additionally don't comprehend why you're able to respond with so which you at the instant are not interested in me, basically does not make any experience. seems such as you're the two very needy and are the two enjoying some video games and are available in this would be a guy you have been speaking to for a pair weeks and you're reacting like its a marriage or something. cool down.
2016-09-29 03:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby have you heard theword mind games that what he is playing with you you only been talking to him for 3 weeks so tell him what you want him to know and if he can't give you a straight answer then say good bye later on you got the wrong person. ps have a good day
2006-08-10 13:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is interested in you, that dosen't sound like mixed signals to me. But he does sound like a loser. Anyone who can't get a REAL date and has to flirt with girl via IM online, is a loser. If he does want you, it's just to get in your pants. Be smarter than that and date guys you ACTUALLY know, honey.
2006-08-10 13:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those are not mixed signals genius. You're reading too much into things, he's asked to meet up someday, and that's your hint that he likes you.
2006-08-10 13:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by Rexy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how old you are. But maybe that's not his picture, of he thinks he's not attractive. But ask him what's the deal with him.
2006-08-10 13:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
meet him once but remember that all guys ask u for sex .more and more.and some guys will pay alot to have a great sex aith you.so some of them dont pay attention to you.they pay attention to have sex with you and just it.
2006-08-10 14:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOesn't sound so good to me. Maybe you shouldn't IM with him for a while
2006-08-10 13:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋