I've been married for almost 5 yrs. now. My husband joined the Navy a year ago, and has been gone a lot. He's stationed overseas, and I can't join him yet. A month and a half ago, I IMed an old internet buddy. I talked to him a lot when I was 17, but at the time he was seeing someone, and so was I. He was a great friend though. A very devoted Christian. I didn't keep in contact with him because my life got real busy, and I didn't have much internet access. But now I have a labtop, and live by myself. Okay, here's the bad part. My husband believes in God, but that's about it. I need to be with someone who I can pray with, read the Bible with, go to church with. Since I've married him, my walk with the Lord has slipped. This guy I'm talking to online, and on the phone, is so wonderful! We pray together, and read the Bible together. I want to be with him! He's great! What should I do? I'm so USE to being with my husband. What should I tell him? I'm so confused. HELP!
2006-08-10 13:42:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't want to hurt my husband. He says I'm the only family he has. But he's not very good at showing me that he cares. This guy I'm talking to (Fredy) is SO GREAT! We have a lot in common, and I've never felt like this before. OH, and there are no children involved. Fredy and I feel like this is God's Will. How could "US" be wrong? We have a very strong desire in our hearts to serve God TOGETHER! To make Christ the center of our lives.
2006-08-10 13:48:17 · update #1
One more thing.. I'm not cheating on my husband! I'm just talking to this guy. He lives in a different state. He's a very good friend. I know there's more then friendship there, but the feelings I have for the most part come from him just being such a wonderful person. It's hard not to love him.
2006-08-10 13:50:38 · update #2
OKAY, noone seems to understand. This guy is bringing me closer to God. My husband and I already got a divorce about 6 months ago. Then, because I was so dependent on him, we got remarrried. He isn't a very good Christian though. I kept telling myself that he'd change. But he hasn't. He doesn't respect me when it comes to intimacy.. (which is suppose to be a wonderful thing), and he to this day still watches pornos even though he knows it hurts me.
2006-08-10 14:02:13 · update #3
God's Word Says, "That which God has join together let not man put asunder" Not once did you say that you Love your husband. And if you do not Love him, as it is apparent that you don't, then God had nothing to do with the joining of you and this man. You did it all on your own. So if God did not join you then you are not married I don't care how many preachers you stand in front of. This is one of the problems in the world today, people go out and find someone and think that just because to say I do that means, they are, wrong. Like I sayed if God did not join you, you are not joined and if God did join you, no devil in hell can tear you apart
2006-08-10 14:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by PREACHER'S WIFE 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well, you are in a mess. I can see that you and your husband deserve each other-you are both stupid. I don't know if you can be helped. You have no business talking to other men while your husband is away. And, your husband had no business joining the Navy after he was married. Why didn't you stop your husband from joining the navy? If you really did try to stop him, but he refused to listen-maybe you have some real "WEAK" excuse to divorce him. If you did not try to stop him-then you should wait til he gets home then tell him you want a divorce-get the divorce and then call your friend back-if he is still interested. But any way-you need to cut it off with Freddy, until you settle with your husband. You see-right now you are just a real stupid person. if you hook up with Fred while hubby is out of town then you get promoted to Stupid Slu-t. Deal with your marriage first. If your husbands comes home early and finds out you and Freddy have been messing around -then you husband may kill Fred and then may have to go to jail for killing a worthless nobody-that would be another shame to add to this cartoon.
Edit:: okay now I see, this is a joke.
2006-08-10 21:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not God"s will for you to leave your husband and be with another man. You say you are a Christian. You should be praying for him, and living your life pleasing to the Lord. God is not pleased with divorces. Pray. Ask God to give you strength, and Grace to get through this. running away with another man will not solve your problem. The devil always makes it look better on the other side. If you belong to God, and go with this man, God will be chasing you. Stay in church. Read your Bible. Put your Faith, and Trust in the Lord.Keep living for Jesus. Never give up on your Husband.Have Faith. God can save him, and change him. I beg you friend, Don't give in to the devil.Stay with your husband, and keep praying for him.
2006-08-10 21:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by concerned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oy .... there is Love, and there is commitment. You have made the commitment to your husband. There is nothing wrong with loving two people from the soul, but you have a commitment to the one. I think one of the reasons you are feeling what you are feeling is that your husband is away. If that were not the case, if you were not lonely, then you would have a more balanced look at what you are doing. I doubt if God wants you to violate the commitment you have. However, that is between you, your husband, your God, and this other guy.
2006-08-10 20:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you must get the courage to break off all contact with this other friend till you sort it all out. If you don't you will not be able to make a good decision with out his clouding your judgement. This is between you and God. Please hear me thru. If you continue to "see" this other person it will damage any relationship you might think you have with him as well. The question I have is, have you told your friend you are married? If he is such a devoted christian he will see that you get counseling from a woman. Mans weakness for women will win out over morals every time. That is why the Bible says to flee temptation and that passage is especially true for men. I know, cause I am one. Remember all the pastors who have committed adultery over the years? They were really strong Christians too. Beware! The devil is a lion on the prowl for lives he can destroy.
2006-08-10 20:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by child_of_the_lion 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a life time commitment before God.I would first ask my Lord Jesus what I should do. I believe he would tell you to love your husband
with all your heart and not place yourself in a position to compromise your morals.Trust in God he will carry you through.I pray that our Lord
will turn away satins arrows and keep you true.
In Christ in Love,
TJ57
2006-08-10 21:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by TJ 57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a very serious thing. It is so important for two people to be sure they are equally yoked before marrying. I mean your husband is your husband, for better or worse, and as long as he isnt cheating on your or beating you then you should try to make things work. Honestly,this close and intimate friendship you have with Fred is only going to cause more problems.
2006-08-10 20:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by h nitrogen 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are the typical hypocritical christofacist fundie. Looking for a way to get what you want instead of PRACTICING WHAT YOU SCREACH, i mean preach. You are one of the worst, using your religion to justify cheating on your husband, remember: to covet and to lust are sins and considered to be adultry.
Here is the saddest part, I scanned the other answers; no one else pointed this out verbatum.
2006-08-10 21:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by KLU 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if you remarried, you are married. So it is cheating if you leave your husband for another guy - whether you have sex with the other guy or not. But I'm not judging YOU, just giving my opinion. I know where you're coming from. It's hard.
Best,
G
2006-08-10 21:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matthew 19:31 beginning:
Christ speaking:
32-But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall MARRY her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Matthew 19-09 Jesus speaking:
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, AND shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
When we marry we take an oath before God.
Until DEATH do we part.
2006-08-10 20:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by Rhonda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋