I need tips to give to parents when first leaving their children for one hour at church. I have been a pre-school teacher for 27 years and have some great ideas. But I am giving a talk and need some more ideas.
2006-08-10 13:32:28 · 13 answers · asked by hvachelp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One thing you may want to remind parents of is that the child stops crying once they are out of sight. That the crying is to get the parents attention or sympathy, Remind them that you have been doing this for 27 years and no child has ever been scarred for life with you (or something along those lines). New parents are nervous if the child cries because they don't know if their child is afraid of the person or just being seperated from them. New parents often feel guilty about leaving their child with someone they barely know. Invite parents to get to know you, spend a day at the daycare, talk to you in length, if you have the time. Just offering will make parents feel that you have nothing to hide, and that you are a trustworthy person.
2006-08-10 15:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always believed the very best way is to be as non-chalant and casual as possible about it. Give the child a quick peck on the cheek and say a cheery, "We'll be back." And then briskly walk away without looking back. The child picks up all the queues from the parent on this. If there is any anxiety on the part of the parent, the child will know. They are tiny experts at reading tone of voice, facial expression, body language, etc. Parents need to be really good actors and actresses on this issue, and it will give the child a sense of security that will get them through those first intense moments. After that, they are having fun and they don't usually notice the parents' absence until they are startled by their return.
2006-08-18 06:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a child doesn't separate properly from their parents, there will be this "obligation" that the child will always feel. I see it in my sister and her daughter ( 21 yrs.) ...the daughter (who lives a few hours away) has to talk to her mother 2-4 times a day (thats why she bought the cellphones), and I sense the daughters unhappiness when she comes into town. The child becomes the victim when the parent "leans" on the child for attention. I wonder if my niece will ever have a normal adulthood? I sometimes wonder if parents who are going to over do it, just find a way. (Some disfunctions are tough to break) I give you credit for recognizing this as a problem and I wish you the best.
2006-08-10 14:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely &..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's amazing how children can manipulate the parent in to believing that they don't want to play in the nursery with the other little kids. They turn on those crocodile tears.....and just as soon as the door is shut the crying stops!
Parents should assure the child that they will be back to get them and hug/kiss then leave them with the worker. Parents shouldn't make a scene but reassuring over and over. It's a PAVLO dog routine. Children will get used to the nursery/childcare and the crying will be less and less each visit!
2006-08-17 23:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents need to smile, act like it is no big deal, say bye and leave. No lingering. No saying, "Mommy's going to be gone for a while but you will be OK." Just LEAVE already.
It is great you are giving a talk like that. New parents can always use that type of information. Good luck.
2006-08-17 03:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a child cries, most of the time it's just for a little while. A child who doesn't cry at drop off - might still feel the separation anxieties later. The key is to leave and say a quick good-bye...and to always say, "I will be back."...and upon arrival to say, " I'm back- just as I told you."
2006-08-10 14:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 20:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do it is to just leave 'em. Sneak out. I would love to hear what your tips are too! I know a lot of parents who have that problem too. It's not the parents who can't separate themself, it's the child who cries as soon as they don't see the parents' face.
2006-08-10 13:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may explain that it makes it easier if they just leave and not stay around to baby them. I know with my children i tell them that they will be staying in the nursery and talk to them about it before i get there. Once i am there i take them in sign them in and i leave. They know i will be back in an hour to pick them up and they know there will be more kids there age to play with.
2006-08-10 13:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the kids aren't use to being away from there parents then the will naturally cry. tell the parents the will be OK after a couple of times not to feel bad. its a natural thing that a kid goes through. I know my girls did.
2006-08-18 06:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋