how do i get him to trust me again?

Question

we stared going out may of last year and he thought that just cause i had guy friends that i was cheating on him and this girl that i got into a fight with started spreading roomers on me and everything and im pregnant with his child and we roke up but we still have something together i need your advise to get him to trust me plz help no negatives plz. he is all i have

Answer 1

Hmmm...in reality, the only thing that will make him trust you will be if he chooses to do so. The only advice I can think to give would be to talk to him and tell him the truth. If anything, ever, happened with you and anyone else, any little thing that could be considered cheating, tell him that, and tell him you are telling him because you made a mistake but now you want him to trust you, and you are being open with him to show him how much you want him to trust you. Then, if he gives you a chance, don't lie to him about ANYTHING, not even what most people consider little white lies. Absolute honestly is essential to gain absolute trust, it sounds like. But, if you didn't do anything, tell him that too. Be open in your feelings for him and let him know how much you love him. If you are only trying to stay with him for the pregnancy, though, and he didn't trust you when he had no reason not to, it might be a good idea to open your eyes and look for other ways to cope. If he isn't willing to work with you, you will have to proceed without him, but if you try, you will make it work. Just have faith that everything will work out.

Answer 2

Communication is the key to any and every relationship. Sit down with him, in a calm voice and a calm demeanor...explain to him you get along with guys better than girls, it seems, therefore you have more guy friends. These guys wouldn't be friends if you were having sexual relations with them. Tell him that girl is a biotch and is trying to make herself feel better by hurting you, (a common practice of women).

Let him know you are carrying his baby and there is no strange dick entering your body as long as that is so, you love him, only him and if you didn't, you would've left a long time ago. If you wanted to be with someone else, you would be. This is all nonsense and he needs to realize your love for him and trust you.

If you've never done anything to betray his trust in the past, then there should be no reason, even a rumor, for him to not trust you now.

Good luck and take care of your baby while he/she is in your body. If this relationship is to ever get abusive...the best thing for both you and that baby, is to leave...immediately! You only NEED yourself.

Answer 3

If he really cared for you and wanted to start something back up, then i don't think he would've listened to the rumors....he would've listened to you.


There really is no easy, fast way of doing it. you can't force him to trust you...and trust takes time...so i would go about life and if your paths cross again in that way then hope he has gotten over the jealousy and actually trust you.



But this guy doesn't trust you even when you didn't do anything to break his trust, then i would say that this guy is no good for you, you gotta be able to have your friends whether they be of the same or opposite sex....Boyfriends may come and go, but friends can last forever.

Answer 4

Sounds about typical of a young male. you have to be ms pristine while he can go out with anybody female and have sex and thats ok.
Both of you are going have to sit down and have a very uncomferable talk about your pasts. As long as you have been faithful to him while dating. Its none of his busniess who you saw and what you did. unless you picked up a std.
Your so called g.f. probiliy has plenty in her past that she would not want you to spread around about her. Mabey she wants you boyfriend for herself.
a DNA test will prove that the child is his and not someone elses.
getting the trust back is going to be a uphill battle theres no getting around that.
did you trust him when he had girl friends while or before he met you?
Then he should trust you with boy friends. both of you need friends of both sexes to become whole people.

Answer 5

I really hate to say this but trust is something that is really hard to get back once it is gone, and if they can trust you again then it will never be as it was before and without trust there isn't much of anything b/c trust is very inportent in any relationship. Good luck!

Answer 6

it is really hard to have the patience that it is going to require to keep things o.k. but if you guys are your perfect soul mates things are going to work out in the long run.. just explain that what you did you know was wrong and you know that you cannot change the past but you can make the future better.. and when he seems to be slipping ketch him and tell him that you cannot fix what is wrong if you don't know what is broken?!?! all the best and may you get all the strength that you need ...to keep what you need...not what you want,,, get it??? also #1] no matter how long 1week 1month 1 year the truth will always come out just allow no matter what to let the truth be YOUR FAVOR!!! GET IT???

Answer 7

hey thats a difficult desision but obviuosly u didnt do anything so it kinda stinks that ure sorta kinda paying 4 someone elses lies.i suggest u tell him everything that u just wrote and try and explain that u did nothing wrong let him know how u feel about him u said hes all u have tell him u dont wANNA LOSE HIM FOR A STUPID REASON LIKE SOMEONE STARTING RUMORS.HAVE FUN AND GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Explain everything to him. Tell him you need him and that he's all you have left. Just don't act too clingy or desperate but still show how much you love him and still want him
Good Luck

Answer 9

Well it sounds like he said she said stuff, he shouldn't listen too it anyway. But if u r pregnant take the perternity test and prove that it is for him and if he is all that you have then stop hanging out with all guys unless he is with you.

Answer 10

It takes time and love to build up trust.