how do we get our 5 year old to sleep in her own bed and not with us?

Answer 1

Ask her what it is she does not like about her bed/his bed. Then change it and get a sticker chart for everytime they sleep in their bed-you reward them, or they reward themselves by putting the sticker on it, and every week let them pic new stickers so that they have insentive to keep it up.

Answer 2

It's not going to be easy. She should never have been sleeping in your bed to begin with and now she has learned two things. 1) it is the appropriate thing to do. 2) she will think she is being punished. You have to be firm. Put her in her own bed. Tell her that she is not in trouble but she is now old enough that she is going to sleep in her own bed. Read her a story. Let her go to the bathroom and give her a drink and then don't give in. When she gets out of bed put her back in it and don't let her into yours.

Answer 3

Sometime tough love is the way to go here. At 5 years old, you have obviously been giving in for far to long. The longer you wait the harder it will be, but you need to cut the cord.

Wasting your time with waiting for her to fall asleep or sleeping with her till she falls asleep is just going to drag things out.

Next time don't wait so long, all four of my kids were sleeping on their own between 6 and 9 months.

Answer 4

Be consistent. Enforce a regular betime routine ending with her in her own bed, and if she leaves her bed to come to you, gently but firmly put her back in her own bed until she learns. A night-light or favorite stuffed animal may help if she's afraid, but don't get into the habit of sleeping in her room with her, or she won't learn to be by herself.

Answer 5

Put her in the bed. Turn out the lights. If she leaves the bed or cries, just put her back again. You need to be firm about it, but you can do things to help the transition like read her a story, etc.

Answer 6

let him/her cry them self to sleep.

there'snothing wrong with letting your child cry for up to 15 minutes. they do it because they know you will respond.

my son was 9 mos and had his own bed, and had his own room by the time he was 2. you have to break them off early, or they will cling for life, and make it miserable later on in life when they know they will get what they want by throwing a fit.

as long as your house/appt is child proof. try locking your door when you sleep, dont let them in, because that will happen too. wake up in the middle of the night, and cralw into your bed.

Answer 7

You just have to make and enforce the rules... And at this point it really is that you have to stick it our until they wear down and accept that they need to stay in their bed.

If you keep allowing the behavior of them crying and crying, and you give up and give them what they want, then they'll that as if they cry long enough you'll cave. You need to stick it out until as long as it takes.

Yeah, sometimes it sucks cuz you don't like to hear them cry, but you just gotta let them do it and get it out of their system. If you do this long enough, you'll have succeeded in enforcing your rule.

But as someone else already said, you are the parent, you make the rules, you shouldn't let the child who doesn't have the logical brain that you have (yet) make the decisions for you. and I also liked the person that said that they won't die just because you said no.

Answer 8

I dont know my son who is 4 is still sleeping with me. I dont think its all that bad.
But maybe this might help.
Tell him that if he can sleep in his own bed that you would get him something real cool from his room , like a new blanket.
But if it is a fear that he has find out what it is and deal with it with your love and understanding.
Good luck.

Answer 9

You could try sleeping with her in her room for a few days... Otherwise the best way is tough love and not letting her sleep in your bed

Answer 10

Explain to her what she needs to do pick a date let them get use to the thought and stick to it.. Do NOT let them back in after that date and tell them you are proud of them in the morning and brag on them a little. Reducing the attention a little each day...Most of all Kids need consistency when you make a rule or say you are going to do something stick to it when they know you consistently stick to what you say you will find less arguing because they will learn to listen to mom & dad.