I am due to get married at the end of the year but recently have found myself thinking of my exes with some regret. I've never been one to look back but now certain songs have set me thinking and I've been dreaming about some of them too.
As I have only ever slept with my fiance I figured maybe that was it and that I'm subconsciously thinking I've missed out in some way.
Any advice on how to get it out of my system?
2006-08-10 13:06:04 · 16 answers · asked by kookie_chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're not going to miss out. If you really want to be with this man for the rest of your life, it isn't going to matter that he's the only guy you've ever slept with.
You can't get it out of your system. You have to be honest with yourself with your with fiance. Talk to him about it. Talk about how scared you are of being with him.
Dreaming of them isn't going to mean anything other than you are having second thoughts. It doesn't mean you aren't going to get married. It just means you are scared.
Is it normal? Sure!
JUST you have to be honest with your husband-to-be. It's unfair to leave him in the dark.
2006-08-10 14:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you are going through pre-wedding nerves, I am getting married for the second time in October and a few weeks ago went through major doubts but with the help of all the Yahoo answerers have calmed down and am really excited about the wedding. As for the exes, you probably have an idealistic view of them and remember all their good points. I bet if you met up with them again they wouldn't be what you remembered and you would be glad you have your fiancee. It is because you feel that you are losing your freedm that you are hankering after the past. You are not missing out by only sleeoing with one man, it's a fantastic basis for your marriage. Good luck
2006-08-11 04:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are about to change your life....forever. There is always some apprehension as the time grows closer.
Looking back, isn't entirely bad. You are able to see where you made mistakes, how you should have handled things differently.....This is called learning . Apply it to the new life you are about to begin.
As far as your dreaming, because of the reflection you've been doing, this is still on your subconscoius when you go to sleep, so it is natural. Don't be too concerned.
And don't EVER feel badly that your fiance/husband is the only man you ever slept with.
2006-08-10 23:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been married or even close but in my opion it is always good to rember your past in order to have a future. Now rembering is diffrent then wanting. If you want to find your ex'es and do what ever then you have some thing to think about. But if your just rembering thigs I see no problem. It is a big step getting married I would be nervios to but if you love your fiance and trully want to spend the rest of your life together then it will get out of your system by it's self
2006-08-10 20:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by gismo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stop listening to the songs that remind you of your ex. You and your fiance should have your own memories.
There has to be something really appealing about him you can focus on. You surely must love him enough to marry him.
Right now, you're probably nervous. Just think about everything that's good and loving about him, between you both. You'll be just fine.
2006-08-10 21:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just remember the good times but also remember why your exe's are just that.
Your finacee is as good a lover as you are and the secret to being superb lovers is to talk about what you want from the physical side of a relationship.
Get a bit drunk some time and swap fantasies with him, you may just find something that really rings the bell for both of you.
2006-08-11 19:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common to think about previous relationships when something in your current one bothers you. Think about why you broke up with your last partner. I mean really think about it. Hopefully you'll realise that your fiance has all the things you need in a man that your last one didn't.
If you are still having doubts then talk to your man about it. Or at least postpone the wedding untill you know you are absolutely positive.
2006-08-11 15:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by StolenAnjel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange isnt it?? Im experiencing the exact same thing at the moment..personally I think its a phase every woman goes through..kind of like the end of an era end of ur single life so to speak...u reminisce of what might have been..comparing them to ur now guy....but dont 4get to take of the rosetinted glasses and remember the reasons for splitting with ur exes...maybe take some time away from ur fiancee just to think this through maybe our minds are telling us something??
2006-08-11 07:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by mousecurtain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ....well.....tricky one..but...i was in a similar situation some years ago. but went thru with the wedding, have now been divorced 3 yrs. whilst engaged i kept thinking of other men, and couldn't really see myself only sleeping with the man i was to marry.
i am now planning my 2nd wedding, i know ! But my feelings are sooo different. Now i cant see myself with anyone else & dont even look at other men really ! Good luck whatever u do x
2006-08-11 07:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by justine m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i have just recently just got married and i am only 19, and the only things bad i could think of is if it was the right thing as i am sooo young, but then i realized if you love someone and you want to marry them then do it. you have to listen to your self and thinkk if it really want you want. and if its not tell him straight away. although me and my husband did go though some bad times where things were getting on top of us and we use to argue i never once though 'what am i doing' .
it shouldnt matter if he is the only one you have slept with. you obvisously feel comfortable with him.
all the best
2006-08-11 04:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋