I have two lads aged 11 and 8 they are both very intelligent doing well at school, the eldest is very confident tends to lead the pack at school but the youngest is the opposite he tends to get walked over ! How can i boost his confidance i have tried taking him to karate !!!!!
2006-08-10 12:11:27 · 16 answers · asked by crazy joe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The youngest is less confident because the eldest is so confident.
Without splitting them up totally, you've got to find a club or something where your younger son can develope his own confidence and identity.
2006-08-10 12:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by jimbo_thedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the younger son and did very well both in class
and on the sports field. Perhaps it is the opposite with
your youngest. Give him confidence in himself showing
that he knows less because he is younger but when he
reaches 11 he could know more than his brother if he
tries a little harder. Never punish him for knowing less.
If you have done so in the past, now is it is time to
correct his lack of confidence. Spend more time with him,
be a pal and a father. Play games that he appreciates.
Remember he is counting on you more than on his pals
who possibly may be the eldest boy‘s pals which will make
him feel out. Allow him to show off his natural abilities to you
and do not show disappointment but help him as you possibly
did with your firstborn. And foremost, show him all the love
that you have for him and praise him when he deserves it.
2006-08-10 12:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant build confidence overnight, it has to be done gradually. Find something he likes doing that involves other children his own age, let him bring people home for tea, encourage him to get out more visit the park or his local community centre which arrange activities for children to take part in. What about after school clubs? Does he go to any, would he be willing to give them ago. Ask your eldest child to introduce your youngest to his friends and arrange for them to play together. How about getting your child a pen friend, somebody who he can write to regularly and share his feelings with might just bring out that extra boost of confidence he needs. Good luck, whatever you do.
2006-08-10 12:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kimber1984 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just more naturally confident than others, I have sons that are similar to what you are describing. All you can do to boost his confidence is give him loads of love and support and encourage and praise him in all he does. Taking him to Karate wouldn't make a difference, it's something that comes from within. He is still quite young and with your love and support I'm sure his confidence will grow, give it time.
2006-08-10 13:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by TB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should try to find him something he enjoys that doesn't involve his brother. Don't fret too much its just the way he is. My son is the opposite, socially he is very very confident but when it comes to his ability at school he totally lacks confidence. Its only normal for you to worry about him but all kids are different and just because he is not as confident as his older brother does not mean that he is any less successful as a person.
2006-08-13 01:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by gypsyeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no healthcare professional yet i'm a mom to an very almost 5 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous little boy. i could say proceed praising him and lifting him up. do no longer supply up on him is the main factor, and whether he would not desire to pay attention it, reassure him he's remarkable in such various techniques. basically be there for him, and consult from him. See what's bothering him and notice in case you may help him paintings by using it. Do you have a Pastor who can consult from him, or something in touch with baby's Ministry who can consult from him? in case you do no longer do church, then perhaps in elementary terms a family members buddy who's a physician and knows a thank you to get by using to toddlers? reliable success, i hate to understand that somewhat boy has such poor self-nicely worth ((HUGS)))
2016-12-11 11:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some children are just shy and they grow into shy adults. Nothing wrong with that at all. As long as he knows he's loved and supported, he will be fine. It's good to get him doing other activities, but make sure they're things he wants to do as opposed to you thinking it will help his confidence.
2006-08-10 12:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getter then karate would be something like
ADDITIONAL
SAM ABOVE IS DEEPLY DEEPLY WRONG
SHYNESS IS EXTREAMLY BAD, IT APPEARS SWEET TO MUMS SO THIER KID LOOKLY LIKE IT NEEDS LOVE...
IT DESTROYS LIVES...
HE WILL NEVER FALL IN LOVE AND SEE ALL THOSE HE LOVES GO WITH OTHER GUYS AND BE CONSTANTLY BROKEN HEARTED AND GROW UP TO LIVE ALONE WITH ONLY TRIPS TO STRIP JOINT AND ENCOUNERS WITH PROSTITUTES FOR AFFECTION...
WITH FEW FRIENDS... THATS WHAT SHYNESS DOES IF YOU DONT END UP COMMITTING SUIDICE OR A SCHOOL SHOOTING.
www.kravmaga.co.uk
find one near you...
This is the martial art of the fbi and isreali army, covers stuff in bars behind tables, in cars, knives, head locks, strangles etc...
Also forget ball sports... Stry skateboarding , snowboarding, skiing, surfing, kits sports etc...
Those sports are supportive not like you get picked last team sports.
Plus he can say hey you want to do jumps this high? who you calling chicken.
Get him lessons with comedians in putting down hecklers...
Teach him how to torture ie get someone in a hand lock beggining to let go whilst he extracts an apology very publically.
Fake tattoo, piecing wild haircut especailly if it gets him in trouble... that way he can get cred... (can still study and has not hurt others).
Also show him how to use his knowledge to pull pranks... Ie he is a bit young for the covert pokies/american pie style remote control camera in the girls locker room prabnk
But you get the idea?
Like becomming a pirate dj or something less wild but basically allowing him to show hey being smart means he can come up with some good pranks and then he is useful... Nothing too bad or disruptive or bullying.
Ie he needs to dirty up a little in a good way...
ie a good doctor could do snaeaky stuff to see a ward stays open...does not mean he is bad.
Bit young for girls but in the next few years that will be a major one being able to pull girls...
Hey maybe he can be usefull.
(in a couple of years... now nobody would care) Get him very well sex educated, all the stuff they dont tell you in sex ed. then send him in to educate class mates and be the guru...
At 8 not sure of the equivalent to that...
Also rent out the film Cool runnings (real serious here)
Look for the junior and tough guy in the bathroom with the morror scene...
Karate lessons alone won't help...
What he really needs is the lesson taught in that bathroom, over and over...
Real serous go rent it out its best to see it to understand.
Oh and see if there is somewhere he can learn the new zealand haka... ie what their rugby team do and learn it in a group...no point on his own
2006-08-10 21:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you tried judo it help both my boys but in my case it was the oldest who lack confidence as he was being bully at school... before he started i explain the situation to the teacher .... as he learnt he did many small tournaments and all children got a medal or cup no matter where they came it helped a lot... if that's no good for him try football or swimming or anything that your child is good at
2006-08-14 08:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by carol p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him pick an activity and if it is something he does well, encourage his continuance. Do not involve the older brother, there should be no competition.
2006-08-11 04:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by brenda c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋