well my mom hit me and i have to move with my grandma and grandpa... they dont like him and they live to far for me to even see him when i want. i cant stop crying and i miss him a lot and i dont know what to do . i cant see my mom ever again and i have to help my grandma b/c she broke her hand. i want to leave but i cant b/c of her and my grandpa is a *****. he cant see me at my grandmas b/c its too far for him to come but i want him to. what should i do??? please help me i cant stop crying. i just got here like 3 hours ago and i cant stand it already
2006-08-10 11:54:58 · 24 answers · asked by Jocelyn W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my mom is in jail!!! and she is getting out today
2006-08-10 11:58:29 · update #1
Ok hit her back . .
2006-08-10 11:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The emotions are playing hard because you have been through a lot of trauma. You have been abused, your mother is in jail, you have moved far away from home, and you will not be albe to see your mother again.
It's going to take a while to adapt. It sounds to me like you are in an uncomfortable situation with the grandparents as well. It sounds to me like the boyfriend is the only thing that brings comfort to you.
Your level of feeling of not being able to stand the situation are all of your emotions working at once, not just missing the boyfriend. When traumatic things happen, things become dramatized and feel much worse than what they really are.
Is there a way you can call him? Can you e mail him? Sit down and talk to your grandmother.
There may be a good reason why they do not like this guy. Grandparents are wise people. They have seen a lot and they have a pretty good judge of character.
Ask your grandmother why they do not like him. Let her know what is troubling you.
Listen, I wish you all the luck in the world. Feel fortunate that you are away from the physical abuse. I hope that things work out and that you get the counseling and the love that you so need and deserve.
2006-08-10 19:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that your mom is abusive to you. You are obviously too young to have your own place. All things happen for a reason. Just stay with your grandparents and make the best of it. It is probably a better environment for you. As for your boyfriend, if it is meant to be, it will work out somehow. Maybe it is good for you to be away from him right now, too. Can you talk on the telephone? This may seem like the end of your world, but there is a silver lining under every dark cloud...keep that in mind, okay?
2006-08-10 19:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Author Al 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it, sweetie....it is the way it is. Spend the rest of the night crying and feeling bad and tomorrow make a decision about your life. You can decide to be mierable or you can decide to make the best of it. You are too young for a boyfriend so just give it up!!! Help you grandparents, have a positive attitude and enjoy going to a new school.....it is all up to you. It may take a while but you will see the light!
2006-08-10 19:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy do we need to talk. Where do I begin....I was 14 when I shiped out to live w/ my grandparents... becuase my parents were drunks and drug addicts.. I got molested while I was there and came home to a father who didnt belive me. My dad and I were very close so that only hurt more. My mom was the drunk.. Now I am 29 and they are both gone. My mom sobered up when my dad was dying of cancer and afer my son was born we had a good relationship but she died at my house almost two years after he was born today. So my adivse to you is no matter what try to love your mom she is the only one you have.boys will come and go....if mom is any kind of human she will come around.
2006-08-10 19:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Corie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont u wait until ure grandmas hand is well and talk to ure boyfriend about living with him, tell ure grandma that u love him and u need to be with him, but if u feel way to bad about the situation i would then dont do it but if u love him go for it when ure grandma is better, because if u love him then u should be with him but u can also visit ure grandparents too if that will help, well hope everything turns out well, good luck!
2006-08-10 19:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by becca21605 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy, relax, breathe and calm yourself first. First, try to find a job or make some new friends so that you have a reason to stay out of the house. Once you've saved enough money, you can get urself a flat and move out. Then, if things are still good with your boyfriend, he can move in with you as well.
And as for your mum, u don't have to see her if u don't want to.
2006-08-10 19:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel for u why did ya mom hit u n why cant u see her no more? i dont think parents should stop their kids from seein someone i mean they can supervise or suggest things but unless the person is abusive or into drugs or just a person who is gettin into trouble with the law its not they place to get involved i feel for u wish u luck how old r u? if ur 18 they cant stop u.
2006-08-10 19:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must have been a reason why your mother hit you. If your still underage, sorry to say but you have no where else to go but take it like a woman. But if your not underage, then move out. Get a job, and move out. But about the guy, get over him. That is the best solution.
2006-08-10 19:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My heart goes out to you; I'm sad that your mom hurt you and also that you're forced to move away from your guy. Is there any particular reason your grandparents don't like your boyfriend? Unfortunately, at this time, I think you'll both have to accept that you won't be able to see each other.
Take care of yourself...
2006-08-10 19:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not worth stirring up the family for. The two of you will split up eventually and what will be left for you??? Guys are a dime a dozen. Enjoy your youth instead of wrapping yourself up with some guy that pretty much will forget about you anyway. Live your life - not for some guy.
2006-08-10 18:59:37 · answer #11 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋