My dog is really really really scared of certain men. We got her from the pound and I guess her previous owner( guy) beat her. So, whenever my dad gets even the slightest bit mad at her, and uses the a slightly louder voice, she pees and pees! Then, he gets even madder, which makes her pee even more. Does anyone know how I can make this stop or at least get better? Please help!
2006-08-10 11:26:31 · 36 answers · asked by Maggie L 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
WE DON'T YELL AT HER! SO PLEASE STOP TELLING ME NOT TO! By the way, she is a really big big big dog.
2006-08-10 11:34:27 · update #1
Dear Maggie,
I haven't read the answers you have so far, but I had this problem a long time ago, I found this on the Internet, I hope it's helpful. First, is the way to explain what it is and then the way to deal with it.
Submissive wetting or urination is a normal way for dogs and puppies to demonstrate submissive behavior. Even a dog that is otherwise housetrained may leave dribbles and puddles of urine at your feet and on the floor when greeting you.
Submissive urination is the ultimate show of respect and deference for higher rank. It occurs frequently with young puppies who have not yet learned and perfected other social skills and means of showing respect. Submissive urination in adult dogs is usually a sign of insecurity. Often unsocialized and abused dogs will submissively urinate. Other dogs that engage in submissive urination may simply have not been shown that there are more acceptable ways to show respect, such as paw raising (shake hands) or hand licking (give a kiss). Submissive urination may be present in overly sensitive or mistreated dogs because they feel the need to constantly apologize. This state is often caused by excessive or delayed punishment which frightens and confuses the dog without teaching him how to make amends. The dog resorts to the only way he knows to show respect and fear, by submissive urination.
When your dog urinates in this manner, it is best to just ignore him. If you try to reassure him, he will think you are praising him for urinating and will urinate even more. If you scold him, he will feel an even greater need to apologize by urinating. Either reassurance or scolding will only make submissive urination worse.
Treatment of submissive urination must be directed towards building your dog's confidence and showing him other ways to demonstrate respect. The quickest way to accomplish this is by teaching your dog a few basic obedience exercises. A dog that can earn praise by obeying a simple routine of "Come here, sit, shake hands," will soon develop self esteem and confidence. A confident dog who can say, "Hello, Boss" by sitting and shaking hands does not feel the need to urinate at his owner's feet.
I hope you print this and let your Dad read it. Another things dogs are is very receptive. They can sense who is a good mood, bad, scared, mad, etc... and react accordingly.
I hope this helps. It is not meant to be judgemental or lashing out at you, it's just a guide on how to overcome this "P" problem you have at home. It certainly helped at our home,
Regards,
Raylene♥
2006-08-10 14:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Raylene 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Poor love, she is terrified. Dont raise your voice to her at all- all she understands is that shouts mean agony, and she is a helpless victim. Its sweet of you to take a dog from the pound, and some have awful histories. Just love her a lot, its about all you can do. I would however, have a word with the vet in case she has a weak bladder. This could have been the cause of her being beaten originally, and the beatings would make her more and more nervous and so she peed more. How sad. Some bastards should be strung up by their cohones.
2006-08-10 12:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your dad not to yell at her any more! I can't believe you got this obviously abused dog from somewhere that didn't explain about her behaviour and the best way to treat her. It's very irresponsible of them.
Your dog needs lots of loving tender care and affection. Make sure she's well rewarded when she does the right thing and eventually, she'll become more confident and maybe even stop peeing altogether.
Explain the problem to your dad and work out together how you can help the poor thing.
Good luck (and hugs and kisses to your dog xx)
2006-08-10 11:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a problem that could only get worse....
The dog pee's when she hears the louder voice..if your not careful it will become an association problem..and every time ANYONE raises their voice, she will pee..
Your father, and everyone in the household must refrain from shouting at her and losing tempers. No dog will respond well to this..you must be gentle but firm and speak in your normal voice with pleasant sounds.
To get her to trust your father, get him to feed her at meal times and be responsible for one game and one training task. If the dog does anything to please your father in these areas, he must praise her well...IF she upsets him, he must leave whatever game/training task he is doing with her and walk away. Most of all he must not yell at her.
I'm afraid your dog trusting 'men' may never be overcome...I would never attempt to put your dog in a situation where she only has a 'man' to turn to if she doesn't feel SAFE..
You can only try to resolve her trust in men, starting with your father...patients, patients and more patients..
Good luck x
2006-08-10 11:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by nishkapup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just a nervous reaction. your dad shouldn't get mad at her as it is making it worse! dogs pee as a puppy would to say 'im only a puppy i wont hurt you'. This will not get better until you learn to accept she is scared of men and do something about it. She should always be given treats by men and cuddled by men and fed by men and played with by men if she is fearful of them. This way she will associate good things with men and slowly overcome her fear. But dont get mad at the dog. She is just doing what is in her instinct to do!remember she is a rescue dog and all new men are an unknown quantitiy to her so she is bound to be nervous anyway
2006-08-11 06:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by wolfstorm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert, but I would say that maybe you should make it a nice experience when your dad and the dog come in contact with eachother. For example, maybe your day can give her a treat everytime she comes to him and doesn't pee. Maybe if you walk her just before your dad get's home and then have him be really positive towards her and reward her then she may not have the need or the anxiety over their encounter that causes her to pee. Maybe if he spends more time playing with her, she won't always relate to him as being scary.
2006-08-10 11:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by hel_lno 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even a dog that is otherwise housetrained may exhibit excitement urination by leaving dribbles and puddles of urine at your feet and on the floor when greeting you. It's normal for some dogs to urinate when they become excited.
Excitement urination usually occurs in puppies and is caused by lack of bladder control. The puppy is not aware that he is urinating, and any punishment will only confuse him. Since he does not know why you are angry, the excitement urination will quickly become submissive urination in an attempt to appease you. As your puppy matures and develops bladder control, the problem will usually disappear. However, in the mean time, it is probably a good idea to do something to help keep your puppy dry.
The best treatment for excitement urination is to prevent your dog from becoming overly excited in the first place. You can do this by exposing your dog to the stimulus that excites him, over and over until it no longer excites him. Most likely, your dog gets excited and wets when you return home. If so, simply ignore him for several minutes. Don't even look at him.
Then leave again for a few minutes, return and ignore, leave, return and ignore. Keep doing this until you can see that your dog is not only unexcited, but is actually getting bored with the whole thing. If excitement urination is a problem when visitors arrive, have them do this too. When your dog has calmed down and is no longer excited when you come in, then very quietly and gently say hello. If any signs of excitement or urinating appear, quickly exit and repeat the coming-and-going routine. A rapid sequence of heel-sits will capture your dog's attention and channel his excitement to the game of heeling and sitting instead of urinating. Remember to ignore all excitement urination and never scold or get angry at your dog when it occurs.
Submissive wetting or urination is a normal way for dogs and puppies to demonstrate submissive behavior. Even a dog that is otherwise housetrained may leave dribbles and puddles of urine at your feet and on the floor when greeting you.
Submissive urination is the ultimate show of respect and deference for higher rank. It occurs frequently with young puppies who have not yet learned and perfected other social skills and means of showing respect. Submissive urination in adult dogs is usually a sign of insecurity. Often unsocialized and abused dogs will submissively urinate. Other dogs that engage in submissive urination may simply have not been shown that there are more acceptable ways to show respect, such as paw raising (shake hands) or hand licking (give a kiss). Submissive urination may be present in overly sensitive or mistreated dogs because they feel the need to constantly apologize. This state is often caused by excessive or delayed punishment which frightens and confuses the dog without teaching him how to make amends. The dog resorts to the only way he knows to show respect and fear, by submissive urination.
When your dog urinates in this manner, it is best to just ignore him. If you try to reassure him, he will think you are praising him for urinating and will urinate even more. If you scold him, he will feel an even greater need to apologize by urinating. Either reassurance or scolding will only make submissive urination worse.
SORRY didn't realize raylene got it before me. this is a great site.
2006-08-10 17:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by halfpint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is nothing you can do if the dog was abused before he will not stop it's a natural reaction. I have a dog that does it that never has been abused he is just a whizzer. Tell your dad that the dog is intimidated by the loud noise and his natural response is to pee. Have your dad spend extra time petting the dog and loving on him, in time the dog will get use to your dad and might just might stop.
2006-08-10 11:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by sisinlovewithyou 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just take MOST of these answers in, but the fact that you had her from a pound suggests that you care about dogs, just be patient and caring and the dog will get to have confidence in you. You must tell your father to understand, if he does not, then take her back as you are not helping her at all. If its any help, i have a Kerry Blue dog, which weed every time my wife came home, she was so excited she just weed every where. we where concerned , but eventually with using logic and care she stopped.
Just give her time and patience, she has had a hard life!
2006-08-10 11:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bill D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Submissive peeing is hard to stop.
Try not to yell at the dog. If you do and she pees do not yell more that will make it worse.
Just clean it up and go one about what you were doing.
Some grow out of it as they get older. Some who have come from abusive situations take longer but as she grows to fit into your home and feels more comfortable hopefully it will let up some.
Hang in there and try not to blame her. They are just scared and they are showing submission to the aplha dog by peeing.
2006-08-10 11:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by tlctreecare 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋