I've been dating this guy for about a year and half . The other day some random girl emailed me at work asking me if we were dating. I didn't answer her email I just forwarded it to my bfriend. He told me not to worry about it. He said it was just somebody just playing games. So the next day the girl emails me again and she cc'd another girl too. The email basically said that she was sorry for emailing us and that she only did it because she just wanted to know the truth. So now I'm trippin' because I'm like who is this other girl that she cc'd on the email. So this other girl starts emailing me and asking me if me and this guy are dating. She ends up telling me that my guy told her that he loved her and all this other stuff. So of course I ask him right away instead of doing this back and forth with these broads. He tells me that he did see one of the girls a couple times but he stopped seeing her and that it was probably her and one of her friends doing all of this.
2006-08-10 10:51:35 · 27 answers · asked by Lil Ma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is probably not being 100% truthful, but those other girls probably aren't either. It's very hard to decipher the truth in situations like these. You could get a copy of "Never Be Lied to Again" by David J. Lieberman. It will tell you signs and mannerisms to look for when talking to someone to see if they are being truthful.
2006-08-10 11:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by golddiggalova 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did he date the one girl that he admitted to seeing? Are you two exclusive or is he free to date other people?
If you really trust your boyfriend then you should believe him, drop the subject and continue as you are. But if you have a reason to not trust him then you shouldn't.
These girls could be playing games and it's great that you haven't responded to their emails. This is between you and your man, and you don't want to get involved in a love triangle. So don't talk to the other girls.
2006-08-10 17:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be telling the truth or maybe even a partial truth. What has me wondering is "how did she get your email address in the first place?". Is this someone who has access to his email address book and if so, how long has she had it and why; all of a sudden does she email you? Story just doesn't sound complete to me, but only you know what's in your heart and mind. None of us can tell you what you should do.
2006-08-10 18:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What!! Kick him to the curb. In essence, he did not come clean the first time you asked. Honey, if he lied once, he will lie again. How old is this guy, and does he deserve the benefit of the doubt and how long have you been together? I have been in this position before and asked the other individual out for coffee and we compared notes, both ended up dumping "him"...and I ended up being good friends with "the other man".
2006-08-10 18:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly it is about fifty fifty on face value. The other woman could be doing something out of spite (especially if she is doing this via email instead of confronting you). But I also know where there is smoke there generally is fire. How much time do you spend with your man, and does he ever make excusses why he can't see you? That is a huge indicator. If you trust him, give him the benefit of the doubt, but moniter his actions.
2006-08-10 17:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Alex B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he 's lying because why would some other female e mail you and ask if you two are dating ?? So there is some thing fishy about that and it is not just his lies so i would say you need to lose him!!I Your heart says he telling the truth your mind might say the opposite and might your gut feeling you cant always go by what he tells you because if you do you will get hurt and to top it all off he may be the one lying to say he cares about you when exactly if he did he would have told you what he told her long time a go get what i am saying?
2006-08-10 18:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry girl i know you probley love him very much but no i would not believe him. things dont add up. why would she barley be emailing you if they had been talking in the PAST why would she randomly email you asking questions about you and him. NO if it were me i would get her number and call her. be nice about it and act like you dont care. and maybe even that you want to be friends and get info out of her. and then get his story again and if they dont match up. i would believe her because she has no reason to lie to you but he does! good luck! hope this helps
2006-08-10 17:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by miz_kaila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you should give him the benefit of the doubt, but reserve some for yourself. Don't love him fully, because in the end, if he is truly seeing this girl, then you won't get hurt too deeply. Anyway, always remember that boys will be boys.
2006-08-10 17:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by mad scientist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you WANT to believe him? I don't think I would let that get to me...You should "rate" yourself higher than those women doing that to you..did you ever consider that it could all be a "plot" to break you two up? Women are devious and if a woman is "scorned" as this one sounds....they will go to all extremes to hurt their ex's new girlfriend...Rise above it...Give him the benefit of the doubt...if he betrays your trust later in your relationship...then you have your ammo to dump him..
2006-08-10 17:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gutt feeling. I wouldn't believe him. That just sounds to weird. He's cheating for sure. Dump him there are too many nice guys out there that will treat you right.
2006-08-10 18:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋