my boyfriend is spending a summer semester in england. before he left, he said we should see other people if we want because we'd apart for so long. i was very hurt, and probably should have been done with him. i felt like he just wanted to be able to advantage of whatever oppurtunities would come his way. well, as it turns out, i get the feeling from his phone calls he was as big a hit with the ladies as he had hoped and would like me to forget his proposition. i, on the other hand, was introduced to a freind of a friend who is gorgeous. some have suggested i go for just to get back at him - but, if anything, i've avoided doing anything because i felt bad or that it was unfair. this weekend is my last oppurtunity. i've always been a a good girl, and it's exciting to think that i could so be a very bad girl for just a night. i'm so tempted, and yet have reservations .. . . . help me tip the scales one way or the other!
2006-08-10 10:47:00 · 30 answers · asked by x o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go for it girl.... He said you should see others and he sure as hell is doing
Who knows - you may fall in love with someone else and realise this guy you call your boyfriend isnt worth your time
2006-08-10 10:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, in the first place, I wonder why you would still want to be with your boyfriend who wanted an 'open' relationship while he was away. What does that behaviour hold for the future? A lack of commitment and the possibility of infidelity? How long have you been together? I would seriously look at that relationship first unless it was a joint decision and judging from your question, it wasn't.
In terms of the other guy, why are you asking a bunch of strangers whether you should cheat??? Only you can know the real answer to that. In a way, your boyfriend has given you 'permission' to do it, but I get the feeling you yourself would not be happy to do it. If it's just to get back, I think you'd feel guilty and maybe remorseful in the morning but if you think you can have fun and not feel any guilt, well it's up to you. I know I'd be pissed off with my boyfriend - I'd dump him and get with the other guy!!!
2006-08-10 10:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by puzzledfemale! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on whether you catch a disease or get knocked up. These things often end up having repercussions that last much longer than one night. If you think you can be someone you aren't and have it all be gone and back to the way it was in the morning you are deluding yourself. Why? Because YOU will still know what you did and YOU will see it everytime you look in the mirror. If you truly are a good girl that will weigh heavily on you and change who you believe yourself to be. This isn't about your bf or anyone else, just you and who you want to be. You are the only person you really have to live with. I'm not telling you not to do it, go for it if you want to, I just want you to realize that it won't be for just one night.
2006-08-10 10:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your conscience can handle it, and at the same you will enjoy it, then go ahead my girl. BUT, if you want to do it just to get back at your boyfriend, I'd suggest you wait until the time is right. You won't succeed in hurting him, you will only hurt yourself. So if you're not ready to face the consequences of your actions, and you're having doubts, step back and don't jump into the fire. I am sure you will find a better man later on. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 10:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by mad scientist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, one night can have consequences for the rest of your life.
If this weekend is your "last chance" then you probably don't have anything real to persue here any way.
As far as your CURRENT BF goes... I'd have ditched him when he said about seeing other people. That's always just an excuse for the guy to play while he is away. He's not worth your time either... at least in my humble opinion
2006-08-10 10:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Peter M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok if your boyfriend said yall should see other people so he could play the field, there are NO double standards, you get to play the field too. that is his own fault if you would have been just fine being exclusive with him while he was gone, and he just wanted to see what girls he could get in england. you had better go out that that gorgeous friend because your boyfriend is just manipulating you to make sure he gets what he wants and keeps you at the same time. forget that- do what you want, tell your boyfriend you two should remain non-exclusive until he returns, and that you have a hot date this weekend! boys are so dumb it hurts my brain!!
2006-08-10 10:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by think1ill2start3a4new.life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give ur head a shake does it rattle U would not be hurting him but urself have more respect then that .No guy is worth getting a bad reputation 2 get back at an ex.Ur 1 night of doing something may follow u through the rest of ur life.
2006-08-10 10:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-29 03:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by dunkelberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a bad girl but be aware of disease make sure you have protection around my cousin just got herpies from a one night stand because of no protection me I have had a share of one nighters and have allways had protection and have always been fine so other than that HAVE FUN GIRL god knows he did. AND I would make him get a std screen before I touched him just incase it isn't worth the risk anymore ;-)
2006-08-10 10:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will regret NOT being a bad girl when you have that opportunity and that regret will be greater than the regret you have if you do. And, being a bad girl is GREAT. As the Army says, Be all you can be. And, no pain, no gain. Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all. Get my drift????
2006-08-10 10:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Tony T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well revenge is not the answer, Don't do something like that with someone just to get back at your boyfriend. If you want to be with your BF still then don't do it. But if you want this guy do what u want. Pray about it. Jesus loves you.
2006-08-10 10:52:28 · answer #11 · answered by I love Jesus! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋