we have been together for 17 years. my gut just tell me to get out now.why do some men just dont want to get married ?
2006-08-10 10:45:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK 17 years out of your life . has it been worth it? and if he hasn't asked you by now he wont.sorry to be so harsh. my dad stayed in and awfull marriage to my mother but he stay because of us (the kids). I wish he had just left her and taken us with him.
2006-08-11 09:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by myangel_101211 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Ann!
I ask myself that question "Will he ever marry me?" a lot lately, however, in my case, I've only been with my bf 15 months. In my opinion, I treat him pretty good; cook for him, he owes his own home so I clean a little around the house.
17 years is a mighty long time to wait for a man to make a decision to marry you.
How old are you?
Marriage is just a legal document bonding you together.
I think your gut just took to long to alert you about moving on.
Would you be ready to be single? Does it really matter if you would be married? Remember 17 years is most of your life.
If you did move on, what then? What plans do you have?
Well...Good Luck with whatever decision you make.
2006-08-10 18:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by ROADY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been together 17 years, so marriage would seem doubtful unless you started going together when you were, like, 10. I imagine that the two of you are living together - so in his eyes, the has all the benefits without the legal obligation. If that is the case, moving out might get his attention, but then again, you'd have to stand firm until YOU get what you want.
2006-08-10 17:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would ask yourself why you've been with him for 17 years, think about if you've been expceting him to marry you since the first. If not he's probably not interested, and you seem to be ok with it. Its not like you have to be married. It is pretty much just an empty title for you (if you've been together for 17 years).
Why would you want to lose it now after that long of a period unless there was something else that was bothering you? Will marriage as a title solve that?
2006-08-10 17:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by wing_gundam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know.You're scaring me.I have been with my guy for a year and a half and he says he doesn't ever want to get married.I was hoping eventually he might change his mind, but you say you have been waiting 17 years.That's a long time.My boyfriend thinks it will mess everything up, which I have seen happy couples get married and then be divorced within a year.I don't know, maybe we should just keep things the way they are.As long as we're happy.
2006-08-10 17:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by j_911_rhoads 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut. 17 years is a long enough time to figure it out. If your gut says leave, then you should be running. He will never marry you or would have done it years ago.
2006-08-10 17:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by mixemup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its been 17 years than he wont marry you unless you leave him! Leave and then most likely he will be willing to get married. Some men are scared of the M word ebcause everything will change.
2006-08-10 17:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by chicata25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 17 years, if you want marriage with this guy you are going to have to leave him in order to shock him into it. It can always backfire on you, though. Is marriage worth it? I am going through my second divorce and it isn't fun. Do you have kids with him? Marriage has a funny way of ruining a perfectly good relationship.
2006-08-10 17:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 17 years it's pretty much time to tell him straight out that he can either marry you or say goodbye.
If he is too much of a dumb @$$ to appreciate a woman that will put up with his crap for 17 years, who needs him.
2006-08-10 17:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have been together for 17 years, then you have obviosly had sex...we all know! So...why would he want to marry you, when he is already living like he's married? You should give him an ultimatum...he either needs to marry you, or you will leave...sorry!
2006-08-10 17:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Britt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would he marry you and he already have the comfort of home he has everything now and a marriage liscene would only make it legal and then there is common law marriage in some states where if you been together for 10 yrs or more they consider you marriage smile ps: stop giving the comfort of home life
2006-08-10 17:55:51 · answer #11 · answered by poda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋