Why would a Christian want to date me?

Question

I am curious, I am an atheist. I will always be at the VERY least agnostic. I have received invites from a devout Christian. I am not going to convert-EVER!
We would always have that conflict. I don’t like constant conflict.
Is it the lure of changing my mind?

Dear St Toad, Unfortunately I think you are right
Dear Jim, As always you are so very kind.
Dear LUDD, I am such a tool! LOL!
Dear Betoquintas, Thank you for calming me handsome that was a first!
Dear Bud, That was one of the nicest answers, Thank you.
Thank you all so much for your insight.

Answer 1

I as you know, am an agnostic, a Pastafarian, and a married man.

For the following reasons I would want to date you:

1. You are intelligent.
2. You are funny.
3. You are loving.
4. You are engaging.
5. You liked biology in high school.
6. You like me.
7. You are friendly.
8. Even thou you thought you were an atheist, you were able to read some things on yahoo answers, and now consider yourself an atheist-agnostic, which is something that means you are now just as open minded as you were before but now are interested in allowing different views to be admited into your mind, so that the different thoughts can bounce off one another.
9. Your charity of job choice, a nurse, helping people.
10. Helping the 18 year old nephew.
11. I've only known you two weeks, imagine how many reasons I will have to hyopthetically want to date you after two more weeks.
12. How you make me feel about me.
13. How you feel about yourself when you talk to me.
14. To save you from a world of lawyers who say that your world view is nonsense and allow you to have someone who is interested in you and hearing you.
15. The cartoon picture of a bright young girl with green eyes.
16. Katherine is one of those names that does it for me.

Answer 2

I think that Christians would want to date you because you are a very attractive woman. An added benefit would be that you are an intellegent woman who speaks her mind... very attractive feature.

But your right. A Christian would be making a mistake in dating you and you him. There was an old jewish law that forbid a farmer from having a mule and a horse pull a plow together... or an ox and a donkey, etc. Why? Because they walked differently, had different gates. Eventually the yoke they used to pull the plow would rub on the shoulders of the animals. If left unattented and if they continued to try to pull the plow the sores would fester, become diseased and, in some cases, would cause death to the animals. This is where the term "unequally yoked" comes from.

In a relationship you need ot be with someone who is similar to you in many areas and thinks almost exactly the same as you in core issues. Otherwise you would have constant conflict which is not good for anyone.

Although I know that dating you would be exciting and interesting in the beginning, in the end it would probably result in much heartache.

I wish you well and hope that you someday take another look at what Christ has to say to you. You say that you will NEVER convert. Something I have learned is that NEVER is not nearly as long as I thought it was.

Answer 3

Hi Katy Kat,

if the question is why would a Christian want to date you- i'm sure there are a lot of good answers and it's up to the individual. Just because a person is not a believer does not mean that a person does not have a lot of attractive qualities.

i think you're being very wise though because there would be conflict and there are some major life issues (such as kids- do they go to church or not, etc.? that can be quite divisive and in those situations esp. the kids suffer... Plus it sucks just not to be able to share the most important things in your life with your girlfriend/wife...

Hope that helps,

Nickster

Answer 4

Many people find the lure of a challenge inviting. You don't define how agnostic you are though...Believe in no being and only random chance? Or do you believe that we are somehow interconnected (all things) and that our energy lives beyond our bodies.
In either case, Christians will attempt to convert you because they see it as doing something good for you.

Answer 5

The picture you have posted probably doesn't hurt anything either but why would you want to set yourself up for that kind of conflict for any reason??? People can have differences but that one is pretty major. I think you're right though, it might be a challenge of trying to change your mind!!! Be true to yourself, you sound like you really know who you are.

Answer 6

i've been in sorta a similar situation... you might just want to ask the guy directly if he wants to date you for the reason of wanting tp possibly "convert" you...
or he might just being simply curious is all....

either way, i wouldn't personally do it...
it WOULD create conflict. maybe not CONSTANTLY like you seem to think it would, but it would definitely come up more then once or twice.

good luck :)

Answer 7

No. It's because they have a burden for your lost soul.
All they want is to see you experience the wonderful, Blessed walk with Jesus that they have. They want you to know the Truth. They want you to go to Heaven. They want you to know God., etc.
Their heart cries because they know you will spend an Eternity without God, as it stands right now. Doesn't matter what you presently believe.

Answer 8

Well, I want to get in your pants too and I don't have the problem of being surrounded by virginal, stuck-up, Jesus freak women.

So imagine how a guy who is surrounded by them feels when he meets a cool chick like you (see Jim_D's list, I think he's in love with you). Their brains are probably ready to explode.

That or they want to convert you and use your hotness to convert other people. They want to wield you like a tool. Beware!

Answer 9

Only my opinion....I think most men would view you differently morally. Not that you evil or anything. You would probably need to find someone who is more like you for a long term relationship.

Answer 10

Well Christians and athiests can have relationships. it is possible. The world famous Physicist, Stephen Hawkings is married to a christian. he is athiest.
As long as you both repect each other's beliefs.