my boyfriend & i have been together for almost 2 1/2 years, were both 18, i moved to fl so were tryin the 'long distance' thing. its been okay. we broke up about a month before i left, he was having problems figureing out what he wanted; so i broke up with him. we talked everything out and we were good, but lately things have been shaky. we go through good and bad times. i often seem to annoy him, nag, and just irrate him. i have some major insecurity probs-so i guess that why i always question him. im really confused about the relationship itself. i dont want to lose him, wev had some great times, i dont know if this is a phase..some days he says " i need space" i wanna be the best gf i can for him. so do i back off and go with the flow. how do i get over my insecurites; there really hurting the relationship. but im afriad he donest want to be with me, doesnt care, love me ect.. i constanlty need reensurenece; guys help! how do you guys think? what would you do?
2006-08-10 09:58:56 · 5 answers · asked by marissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm glad I don't have the worries you describe anymore. Does it help to know you will get more secure with age? I dated a lot of guys before I got married, and none of them liked a "clinging vine." So, I always had a full calendar.Yes, back off and go with the flow. And know this- you are supposed to be in control. You could spend your time elsewhere if you wanted to, right? When he says he needs space, that's probably what he means, so give it to him. He's letting you know where his boundaries are, so you need to do likewise. Do what is best for you, and since you have moved away, you need to meet new people anyway. Concentrate on your life! Good luck.
2006-08-10 10:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try just living for yourself for awhile and concentrating on school. Give him some time to grow up and mature a little. Life is a long time to be taking on somebody else's problems all the time.
2006-08-10 17:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the both of you. If he "wants space," that means he may be interested in ending it. You're still very young...there's plenty of time to find someone who will be your perfect match. My advice, don't sweat it. If it doesn't work out, there are PLENTY of people out there for you.
2006-08-10 17:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by ajy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just end it. Distance is one of three major factors that affect relationships. Some guys don't know how to end reltationships. That is probably why he is acting weird.
2006-08-10 17:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by jarvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him does he still like you? If he does stay with him, there is no shame in that.
2006-08-10 17:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋