I don't want to just go to his house all the time...you know women we like to entertain our men at home in our own surroundings....
Trust me, my dog is not thinking about that man....Help me if you can.....thanks
2006-08-10 09:57:50 · 20 answers · asked by girlegyrl 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I agree with the others who said keep the dog and ditch the dude.
Some very good points made were that the dog has been with you and is loyal to you before you got with your boyfriend. Your dog is willing to get to know the guy but the guy isn't willing to get to know the dog it sounds like so definately choose the dog over the guy.
Here's what you should do I think:
Tell your boyfriend that the dog and you are a package deal and that he can have both or neither. IF he's never met the dog, tell him all the cute things the dog does and try to educate him to the truth about Pit Bulls- that they are loyal loving friendly dogs when raised by educated non-sadistic people. Then encourage him to pick a time and place for a first meeting with the dog where he'll feel most comfortable. Set it up to succeed. My dog for instance can be bribed with food by just about anyone so when I introduce her to someone I want her to like, I have her do tricks for food for me and then after she's a bit calmer I have the new person give the trick commands and the treats. If your dog likes to play frisbee then that's what you should do the first time they meet, and have your boyfriend throw the frisbee after the first few times.
IF however the boyfriend has met the dog and the dog did not exibit scary or aggressive behavior, your boyfriend is either too chicken to try again or too prejudiced. In either case I'd give him a final choice; get used to the dog or it's goodbye.
IF the boyfriend has met the dog and the dog did something that scared him, don't give him the ultimatum yet. Be encouraging. Explain the dog's behavior and keep telling funny stories about the dog. Let him know that the dog is staying with you no matter what and that you'd really like it if he'd try to be friends. Find a way for them to meet so that the boyfriend feels safe. Give him websites to look up about the truth about Pit Bulls and tell him about famous people who have owned them. Be very encouraging. If you can't after a good while get him to agree to try again despite his fear, THEN give him the ultimatum: you and the dog or neither.
Good luck!
2006-08-10 10:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Expose the new boyfriend to the dog slowly. Maybe go to a park together so the boyfriend feels like it's neutral territory. Let him see how the dog is around other men to show that the dog is OK being with guys.
Some guys :) like to fix problems for women so you could think about something in your house that you'd need his help with and tell him he's the only one who can fix it and you really, really need him to help you. :)
If he's not comfortable around the dog, the dog could sense his nervousness and act weird around him and make your boyfriend more nervous. Don't push it. Short exposures should help him to see that the dog is not a ferocious, man-eating beast.
2006-08-10 10:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by stimply 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this may sound harsh but......if your new boyfriend does not like your dog, that does not bode well for a future relationship. He may otherwise be a great guy, but what if you really hit it off and want to move in together? Would you get rid of your dog?
If he isn't willing to even try to like your dog, I'd suggest not investing any more in the relationship. Your dog was with you first, you know she is loyal to you. The guy is iffy at this stage.
2006-08-10 10:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by DaBasset - BYBs kill dogs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Soooooo.....if you had a huge Harlequin Great Dane (the most vicious breed of Great Danes...these dogs are huge!) it would be cool???? What about a German Shepard of which are used for police work....????? PLEASE A dog is what it is based on how it is trained. But they say dogs, well animals can sense bad people or things....maybe there is something he dont want the dog to sense! LOL! No wait, maybe you should get another man to protect you & your home instead of a dog....HAHAHA Maybe he would be more comfortable with that! LOL! GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-10 10:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by nmaponte 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk with him about it and let him know your dog is nice and won't hurt him. Have him come over and let him meet and pet your dog. If he still refuses to come get rid of him not the dog. Because the dog will always be there for you even if he isn't.
2006-08-10 10:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if your boyfriend is that ignorant and isn't willing to learn and accept, then you probably don't want to be with him. You got a dog and when you got her, you made a committment to her. This isn't a case of you having an aggressive dog and your boyfriend wanting you to get rid of her.....you have a sweet dog that hasn't done anything to him...it's his own ignorance and intolerance that's preventing him from accepting her. If he can't grow up then he's probably not someone you want to be with.
2006-08-10 11:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by k 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop juding pits by their reputation they are great dogs dont put the dog out for him let him know he has to accept the dog.. it is nice and i am sure you wouldnt let it stay in if it was gonna tear him up. Your dog is your best friend men come and go love that pit
2006-08-10 10:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by tashafleming25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a Wuss. Ditch him. Any man that is afraid of a dog he's never met, or had tried attacking him, is weak. Those kind either turn out to be either mommas boys, or they beat those weaker to feel better about themselves.
In any case, you need to decide what you want and stick to it. Don't cater to other people fears or wishes. Only you are responsible for yourself and your decisions.
2006-08-10 16:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by quietwater 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont get rid of the dog. maybe you can put her in another room when hes around,,,,,,,,,,although thats not fair to the dog.
visitors
this is my dog this is his home,
from which we hope he'll never roam.
hes a faithful friend, we love him best.
This is his home, you are a guest. If dogs to you
are just a peeve, then by all means, feel free to leave
2006-08-11 03:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by blackqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would say either put the dog in a room and close the door until he can get comfortable with the dog and see what a good dog she is, put up with just going to his place or come to a compromise.
2006-08-10 10:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by aznprincess51 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋