how can i be a better christian ?

Question

i wanna treat my mother with more respect and and not be soo angry when i talk too her but were both stubborn when we both communicate i was abused when i was little and i know that i have too get over things but shes allways tried showin me love i dont know why im abusive too her but not the the point of physical abuse im talkin about verbal and emotional i wanna be a better son 4 the future and i allways feel bad when i yell at her

Answer 1

You can achieve all that without being a Christian or religious, and later set yourself up as a model person to follow. Religion has nothing whatsoever to do with your wishes, which have to be admired, good on you.

You’ll probably get a lot of religious spam to your question, and that alone should alert you to the fact that religion is the last thing you want to use in attempting to become a better person.

You need to get to grips with your own thinking and why you think you are the way you are. Get away from everyone and just think about and your past, your likes and dislikes. If you’re angry about stuff inside, talk to someone who you respect as a friend or professionally, about how to free yourself from the effects of hurt.

Once the ball starts rolling for you, the rest of your plan will automatically start to happen. Not because of religion, but because you’ve got the brains and attitude to try.

Answer 2

I am proud of you that you realize a problem exists. I am assuming you might be a teenager. We have all been thru it. Some of it is growing up and having your own opinions. Do you feel she allowed the abuse, or is somehow responsible? I believe since you are a great Christian, I would find a Christian counselor and both you and your mom go for a few sessions, just to have someone else help you thru some of the tough spots. A lot of your anger will calm with age, but you can't be sure of that. God Bless You. I had two sons, and we had our fair share of "screaming matches". They are grown now and beautiful young men.

Answer 3

Well I think you have two separate issues here. Christians are people too. And it depends what you have been taught about Christianity. Christ was here to teach us that we are all one, all a part of God and you cannot be separated from Him by your actions or belief.

Know that His spirit is in you. And in your mom and you are really actually the same. Nothing you do or say, changes that.

But also know that certain feelings release certain peptides from your hypothalamus, which attach themselves to the cells in your body. Your cells are physically affected by these. And your cells can become addicted to them.

You are the creator of everything around you. Every thought you have is a real energy. What you think will come about. What you think and believe will change you. If you have already decided what you want, then you have overcome the hardest part. The easy part know is just telling yourself that is what is. Brainwash yourself into who you are, talking as if you already are that. It is inevitable that it will become.

Keep track of your thoughts. They are powerful. Take out all the negative.

I had to teach myself to stop thinking. I had to write everything I was thinking to see what I was creating in my life.

Your heart is perfect. You have just covered it up. The abuse you faced as a child is not who you are. You are a very powerful being, as God, and that part of you is much stronger. You are indestructible.

Answer 4

Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. Psalm 119:9

This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the tings that ye would. Galations 5:16-17

Heed the Word. Allow the Holy Spirit to work in you. Allow the character of the Holy Spirit to come through you. You are a new man in Christ. You no longer have to hold on to any sin or past. Live for Christ, He died for you. Find a New Testament Bible believing church and grow in Christ. You will also find Godly fellowship and support. The Word will equip you to handle this situation. The Word will make you whole.

Answer 5

First of all, I want to let you know that God is for you, He is on your side, in your "corner". He wants to help you be the best person you can be. The power that created all things can enable you to be more than you ever thought you could in terms of being kind, merciful, loving, patient, obedient, forgiving, all those things that you wish to be.

My suggestion is to find a good bible teaching church and study the bible. Much like materials a builder will use to construct a building that has a solid foundation and will stand firm, the word of God is the material He uses to transform us into the image of His son. You have Jesus Christ with you, always. To talk to, to pray to, to ask for strength from. Remember, He never returned evil for evil. Always try your best...and you don't ever need to think you're alone or not loved. God loves you, and is there for you, forever.

Answer 6

Hi Myspace_boi,

To love like Christ we need to stay attached to Christ. Christ taught us that He is the vine and we are the branches, apart from Him we can do nothing (John 15:5). We bear sprititual fruit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, longsuffering,...) as we stay connected to Him. Sounds like you can definitely use all those things in your current situation with your mom.

If you are both believers that is a good common ground, and you hopefully will be able to communicate your desire to better your relationship as well as possibly some of the frustrations. And most importantly you can pray together and take active steps to work on this together. It seems like it's not just a one-sided issue...

If she is not a believer, than all the more you must pray and really demonstrate the love of Christ to her, to not only get along with her but win her to Christ.

Some things to consider are this: God gives two commands (in both Colossians and Ephesians) to parents and children. Children are supposed to obey their parents (except in areas which are displeasing to the Lord) and parents are supposed to encourage and not cause their kids to lose heart. (Each one is individually responsible to God- so even if the parents fail to do their part- the kids must to do there's and vice versa).

Proverbs tells us that a gentle answer turns away wrath. And James 1:19-20 tells us that we are to slow to anger, quick to listen, because man's anger does not produce the righteousness of God.

I would also encourage you to join a fellowship of believers who can pray for you and encourage you in this area.

Bless Ya- Hope that helps,

Nickster

Answer 7

You do need Christian brothers to talk to. Pray for the right church with the kind of folks with whom you can be real, as well as for your emotional change. The influence of good church family can be amazingly transforming.

God restore you with healing of your heart and mind and leading to the church for you. May His Spirit intervene between you and your mom. In the name of Jesus, amen.

Answer 8

What does that have to do with being a Christian? Jesus said that he doesn't want you to follow him if you don't "hate" your parents, so I would say that you ARE being a good Christian.

Now, if you want to be a better person to your mother, you need to find that within yourself, and stop asking invisible men in the sky to help you.

Answer 9

Go to your mother, apologize to her for treating her badly and ask her to get you some help. Counseling or therapy or talk with church counselors, anything. You have a conscience, that is good. You are recognizing what you are doing is not good and it needs to be repaired. Give your mother this gift, heal yourself for her.

Answer 10

God tells us, to forget about the past, tomorrow is a new day, and everyday is always a new day. God is waiting for you, to arrive at church. If you don't leave your problems with God, he won't take care of it. But if you leave your problems with God, he will take care of it. Trust me, for I do the things that are right. For a prophet knows that you will later soon give your life to christ. Go to your room and pray in that secret place. Remember God is in that secret place, pray and pray and pray. When you pray, your voice will be heard before the Lord's ears. And your prayers will be answered.

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