anyhow, we've tried talking about it, time out, cleaning up his own mess, bribes, spanking (not beating), and now taking away his toys. He knows when It's coming and just absolutle refuses to cooperate. When I ask him why, he laughs and says it's because I'm funny ( I guess my reaction).....any ideas????
2006-08-10 08:09:18 · 13 answers · asked by andrea b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My best friend recently went through this with her 3 year old daughter. My best friend was at her wits end, they tried everything, sitting her on the toliet and encouraging her, promise to buy things (only what they could afford), I even offered her money if she would poop on the toliet for me and she refussed. She would poop in her pants and then she stopped altogether.
Their solution was simple enough: they returned to pull-ups and explained that only big girls wore underware and since she was pooping in her underpants then she would need to wear pull-ups. They then decieded not to make a huge fuss over when she did poop in the pull-ups, they just changed her and sent her on her way. After a little bit she came in and announced that she had pooped on the toliet. A big round of congrats happened.
All they can figure is that she was trying to express her ability to control the things around her and refussing to poop was the one thing she had complete control over. After they stopped making all the fuss she just did it on her own.
I hope this information helps you. Good luck, remember it's just a phase and will pass with time.
2006-08-10 08:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by twinkletoes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I am helping to take care of a seven year old child who does almost the same thing, number one not number two. Since this child is community raised everyone in our group makes a point to exclude him from everything and make a big show of our dissatisfaction with the child's behavior. We've told him that "obviously you a baby, do you want to wear diapers because babies wear them and since you can't go in the bathroom you are obviously a baby" We make it known clearly that it is NOT acceptable and NOT a funny thing. I hate to say it but you have to make him feel as gross as his actions are. We've finally got the potty thing down pretty good now, he's had only one accident in the last week or so and we think its mainly because of his fear of returning to school. Just because we know that may be the cause doesn't change our reaction to the behavior because we don't want him to think that it is acceptable under any circumstances. If you want more info feel free to email me.
2006-08-10 08:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well some times children just dont like doing poops in the potty. Speak to your health visitor and she will give you some ideas on this one. Try sitting him on the toilet and say big boys do it in the toilet. He might go then. Good luck
2006-08-10 08:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you have to wait awhile...let him poop in his diapers....the more you fight with him the more he will fight back....
OR tell him a story that his father poop in the potty when he was only three years old..so he might compete with dad!
OR tell him that other boys pooped it the potty by themselves!
tell him potty time is fun because he can take a bath and play with his toys after!
sometimes when you force them they will not do it so let him poop on his diapers! less hassle especially if you go to restaurant and they have to poop...TOUCHING THE TOILET ETC ETC.....I sooner they stay in DIAPERS! AFTER AWHILE They WANT TO VISIT ALL THE public TOILETS I
2006-08-10 08:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by +++++ SPOOK ++++ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter was the same way she would not use the potty for anything....so we was at wal-mart one day and she saw a dora the explorer potty seat, she wanted it so we got it hoping it would help....i told her that she had to be a big girl and potty on dora she loved it now she goes without useing dora.
2006-08-10 08:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you just described my grandson. We tried 'everything' too, then one day he started going on his own. He too 'knew' when it was time, but he told us that he was scared to go. There were many times that he had to be taken to the doctor because he would not go - at all - for days. He wouldn't even go in his pants, just would not go. This behavior started when his toys were being taken away, just FYI. He was being disciplined when he pooped in his pants, so he just stopped going - period. Take heart, this too shall pass, just takes time - lots of it.
2006-08-10 08:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What exactly is the difference between spanking and beating?
One M&M candy for No. 1, five for No. 2.
2006-08-10 08:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just don't react totally ignore it and let him stay in it. If he comes near you just tell him to get away he smells, and leave it at that. But try very hard to just ignore it.
he is only doing it for the attention kids will do anything for attention even if it is bad attention the way kids see it is attention is attention they will take what they can get.
2006-08-10 08:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have included a few awesome links for potty training I hope they help!
2006-08-10 09:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to a gastronalogy place.... i spelled that wrong but oh well. i have trouble too. just go to that place but first set up an appt. it will help.
2006-08-10 08:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by chocolatecat592 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋