just got out of a 4 year relationship.we had ups and downs but lately more down.i have cried for the past couple of weeks even when we went on vacation. yet i see no remorse in his eyes like i used to.we have no children but this is the man i fell in love with. yet does a broken heart hurt this much?.lately he has accused me of cheating. no evidence given and I have not. he has always been jealous yet i thought it would be better since he already finished college.i did not cry just a little sad.is this normal? what do i do know?how do i move on?i don't think i want another relationship for a while
2006-08-10 08:09:05 · 9 answers · asked by Amry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
F-- Him! He had no reason to accuse you of cheating, and there is NO ROOM in a great relationship for jealousy. If he is constantly accusing you of cheating, you have to wonder why. Guilty conscience? Maybe something he went through before? Anyhow, not your problem. It's going to suck for you for a while, but just keep going to work or school or whatever, lean on your friends, take a vacation, go shopping, whatever. I'll bet if you were to check in on his life in 5 years, he'd be in a relationship with some other poor girl who will feel the same as you do now.
You don't need to jump right in on a new relationship, but when you do feel ready to date then go ahead and do it! You have nothing to feel bad about, jsut work at getting past the lonliness.
Be strong, and don't you even let me hear that you took him back or went with him for any reason ever again. You'll only hurt worse.
GRRR!!!
2006-08-10 08:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by ShavenLlama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts do hurt,but they go away after a while.It sounds like he is cheating(a sure sign is when they start to accuse you with no reason to).Maybe since he is out of college now,he wants to try someone new.Let him.I know it hurts,but if you really love him you would want him to be happy,even if that means not being with you anymore.Let him make his decisions about his life and you do the same.Now is the time to work on yourself.Figure what it is that you want in a man.What you will put up with.Don;t take the break up so hard.It has nothing to do with you.Learn to accept the experience as a learning one.Concentrate on yourself,so that you don't take any emotional baggage into the next relationship.Keep your head UP,and Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-10 08:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been through the same thing! i know how you feel and what you are going through. The last thing that you need to do is start dating again. make new GUY FRIENDS. go do things to get your mind off of this guy. stay away from places you and him went toghter or places that will bring back memories. adn as for him saying that you were cheating to be honest that is usually just a cover up ( he was the one cheating). Good luck girl .
2006-08-10 08:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with anyone too soon. You would be on the rebound and rebound relationships rarely work. Do what YOU want to do for a while. Spend time with friends. Watch what YOU want to watch on TV. Eat the foods that YOU want to eat. Simply put, take care of yourself for a while. You will know when you are ready to date again.
2006-08-10 08:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sabina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
superior with the aid of Kelly Clarkson particularly helped me. i attempt to steer away from any songs that communicate about the 'remorseful about,' yet enable's be effortless, each and every so often you want an offended music, so "My supply a D*mn's Busted" with the aid of Jo Dee Messina, or some thing with the aid of Miranda Lambert will do the trick there. steer away from Taylor quick--she spends way too a lot time speaking about adult men that she will be in a position to't have. and then, it is continually effective to have those tacky, experience-good songs too. a million D's "What Makes you acceptable," Michael Buble's "have not Met you yet," "too a lot nutrition" Jason Mraz (particularly any of his songs are good, random, yet they have a good, positioned-the window down and force variety of beat), "purely the way you're" Bruno Mars--truly some thing that receives you out of the droop section is what i take advantage of. :) i do not tie right down to at least one form both.. If that is nice, that is happening my playlist.
2016-11-29 20:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to lose this baggage, NOW.
It is like picking up poop and sticking it in your pocket....it will begin to stink and other people will notice.
You have all the power here, not HIM.
Be glad he will become somebody else's problem now.
Forgive him for his shortcomings and insecurities.
Get back at him by living well and bettering yourself. It will show him (and yourself) that he was not big anough or significant enough to destroy you.
Take the high road and never act out of spite. Move on to people who act like they say they feel, and actively make you #!.
Thank your ex for showing you what to avoid inthe future, and for the fewfound wisdom from the experience.
Hold your head up and take crap from no one.
2006-08-10 08:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just spend time with family and friends, do things that *do not remind you of him* and try to let go. its hard, but it can happen...
...but there's a maxim regarding broken hearts, that is quite, quite true: "time heals all wounds"...
2006-08-10 08:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by classy_gui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to end relationships,Time has a way of healing things....I know this....so give it some,You will be fine, I know.....
2006-08-10 08:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by outback 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he cheated. guilty dog, barks first.. ya know
2006-08-10 08:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by bigblock_475_hp d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋