hey people i need some advice from the women!?

Question

i am 29 yrs old and i live with my aunt cuz im trieng to get back on my feet from a recent break up. I have 2 kids and i pay child support for 1.I love both my kids deerly and take great care of them, but my daughters mom did the child support thing out of spite! im very lonely and depressed cause i feel like im never gonna meet anyone who wants to be with me cuz of my situation 29, living with my aunt 2 kids and child support for one. im lonely, depressed and miserable. can some ladies tell me what women think of men in my situation honestly?

its the child support sometimes i feel like woman walk away from men who pay child support cuz it takes away from his finacial situation and they assume because theres child support theres drama in his life with the kids mom. and yes i support my son but my sons mom acknowledges im a good fater without child support i do for him without child support or withou her having to ask. i love my kids with all my heart!

Answer 1

If you find the right woman she won't care about the child support. My husband pays support for 2 kids and that was never a issue when we met and fell in love. You will find someone who loves you and all that comes with you.

Answer 2

First...*but my daughters mom did the child support thing out of spite!* ..Is wrong on your part ! YOU are totally responsible to pay childsupport, and it shouldnt be a choice it is a necessity. At 29 you need to find a good job that pays well, and be responsible. Everything else will fall in place once you accomplish that. I was a single Mother with 3 kids 1,3,4yr old at the time of my divorce AND I was only 21 when I got divorced. I had to live with an Aunt til I got on my feet and found a job and moved out on my own. I met my new husband after 10 yrs of supporting my kids and me WITHOUT thier Fathers help! And then I made a life for myself. Get out of the *oh pity me* thing and get your act together !!!

Answer 3

Honestly, the first thing I would ask about your situation is why aren't you providing support for the second child?

Your living arrangement doesn't matter, your past relationships wouldn't matter but knowing that you were responsible enough to provide for *both* kids would be a serious plus. Plenty of guys have kids from previous relationships; it is how they handle those situations that tell a woman if he's a good guy or a deadbeat.

Answer 4

Paying support is better than being a dead beat dad-- that shows responsibility... even if it means you have to temp. depend on others to assist in your living... be a roommate or aunt, its not bad... means more than living on the street.

But gain some confidence, it might seem like that end of the world, but its not.

You must look at the bright side if you have visitation of your girls... if are they are involved in activities/groups you will be surrounded by woman, some single ones possibility - that in itself is something is rewarding... you get to be the 'cool dad.'

Answer 5

i think once u do all u can to work on taking care of ur kids, and making sure u take care of urself as well, there will be someone who sees that and respects that about u. u need to prove, to urself, and to the world, that u are Capable. WILLING and CAPABLE to do what is right, get out of a bad situation. keep working on your confidence in urself.. obviously this situation is making u feel bad about urself. i don't blame u, but u have to be strong. fight for what u want. work hard, earn some money, try to get out of being dependent on ur aunt.. as long as u try, your efforts will be rewarded. also, be confident that u are a Good man. seek out what is right and wrong, figure out how to learn to treat yourself and other people w/ respect. once u truly believe that u are a Great, Sufficient, Stable Man, u will be able to attract Great, Sufficient, and Stable Women. then u can filter out anyone who is not good, especially because u need someone special to your kids as well! u gotta have high expectations.. not because u are selfish, but because u've put in this work to continually make yourself better, and worth it. if u are worth it, she will be worth it. and u will not settle for someone who is not worthy of u.... find something that is positive, healthy, and makes things Better. until then, like i said, keep working on urself, ur kids, ur relationship w/ ur aunt, who is awesome for letting u stay w/ her. never get stuck into the negatives of life, and always strive to be the best. :) that way, u will find the best.

Answer 6

i could a minimum of call the accepted practitioner's place of work and clarify to the nurse what has been happening. i could see a women folk's accepted practitioner no longer the kin accepted practitioner for this. yet i'm helpful that the nurse will say you have to be seen top away. that's greater proper to circulate and get it over with then to maintain putting it off.

Answer 7

I am happy to hear that you at least are paying child support. You can still have another relationship, but just remember that your first obligation is your children.

Answer 8

Women think different from men but if i meat a guy i liked i would not walk away from him because he has children ...Thankfully my husband didn't walk away from me & I had 3 boys. We now have 4. If someone walks away just because you have children how good of a person are they? Would you want your children around someone like that???

Answer 9

it just shows that your a loving father who is trying so hard on your life situation and trying to get eveything the way it used to be and you need someone to support you mentaly and finantually!!!! and thats okay!!! you'll find someone! dont worry!!

Answer 10

i think that you're just doing the best you can with what you have. stay strong and continue to be there for your children. don't focus on your ex. she's a waste of energy. good luck.