I've got his address,his number is x-directory (so i can't find it). when i was born he didn't want nething 2 do with me and for the past nearly 18 years of my life hasn't tried 2 conact me/my mum but i've got to a stage in my life when i need 2 know him, where that part of me comes from and the history behind me.
2006-08-10 08:00:45 · 16 answers · asked by finsheehan6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Write to him. A very brief note saying much what you've said here that you have reached a stage in your life etc. Tell him you are not looking for anything except information and peace of mind.
Then see if he contacts you.
If not you could send a further letter saying how sorry you are that he doesn't wish to acknowledge your existance. If you get no answer to that there is nothing else you can do without giving yourself far too much hurt.
Good luck
2006-08-10 08:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Storm Rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Would Write A letter Explaining How You Feel ,Maybe Ask A Friend To Help You With The Letter, I Say This Because Sometimes When I Write A Letter It Sounds Wrong.It Also Helps To Have A Friend.
I Wish You Luck
Keep Smiling
2006-08-14 02:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently met my bio sibs (3 out of 6 anyway). It was a good meeting. I think that you should really begin by writing a letter to him. And most importantly go into this with an open mind and be real. Try to keep expectations on a realistic level. He has already shown that he was not interested before so hope for the best and expect the worst. Simply imply in the letter that you are first and foremost interested in your family history (such as ethnicity) and that you are at a point in your life where you like to have some answers.
Best of luck to you and hope all goes well.
2006-08-10 08:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by lips74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by writing a letter; and do it from the heart. Chances are he has thought about you a lot and you never know the circumstances under which he didn't contact you. I waited near enough 30 years myself; it is worth it but try not to go in to this with any preconceptions; that way you can protect yourself a little. Remember, a lot could have happened in 18 years so try not to build up your hopes too high. Where you come from is important, but who you are now means much more than that!
2006-08-10 09:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by madfairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 07:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the idea about a letter is a good idea. If he chooses to peruse a relationship that is great, but if not you will have closure. Unfortunately you can not make somebody love you, some men never connect with children from their past. But, do not let this defeat you! You have a God in heaven who will never forsake you and will be BETTER than any earthly father can be.
2006-08-10 08:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by thomassonfamily4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by calling him and asking him if it is ok that you meet him because there is a part of you that needs him right now and take it from there I can't see him turning you away now that you are a grown child. I wish you all of the luck in this situation if you need someone to talk to I am here for you.
2006-08-10 08:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer would be the same as Storm Rider
Other than that I think you will just have to get on with your life not knowing, unless of course you can find someone in his family to fill you in on anything you would want to know.
Good luck
2006-08-10 09:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, Id write him first and explain who you are, giving contact details. If he doesnt make contact in say 7 - 10 days, call him but you really have to leave the ball in his court so to speak. Good luck!
2006-08-14 01:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just in case he isn't interested in meeting you, I'd say ask him some of the questions you feel you want answered; they shouldn't be controversial or accusatory. For example, you might ask for help in filling in your medical history, if he has any special talents that you might have inherited...and casually mention you'd love to meet him if he wouldn't mind,but that you don't want to impose and are willing to wait if he isn't ready. Good luck.
2006-08-10 08:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋