my 3 year old girl is hyper?

Question

how can i raise her? pls give me some serious answers im so desperate she is not listening to me n running away, touching everything all the time. she is doing everything she is not suppose to do

Answer 1

All three year olds are that way. She is not hyper, she's just a normal 3 year old. You need to find a discipline tactic that works for you and stick to it. Be firm, but loving and above all be consistent. I like the book Positive Discipline A to Z. Check it out at your local library. If all else fails, talk to her pediatrician. Good luck.

Answer 2

She needs a spanking on the backside. She doesn't listen to you because she doesn't fear/respect you. Why would she stop doing something just because you tell her? If she has no fear of consiquences, then why should she do anything that she doesn't want to do, or visa versa.
Think about it, it's just human nature. What keeps you from not paying for stuff when you go to the store? The fear of what might happen to you if you get caught. Some people don't steal, just because they know it's wrong, but they had to be taught that it wasn't acceptable when they were young, and guess what, they wouldn't have learned that if they didn't have a reason to listen to there parents (i.e. respect/fear of consequences).
One thing you must remember, is that you are there parent not there friend. You are here to raise them into responsible upstanding citizens, not make them happy.

also, you should disipline your children whith some logic. When they directly disobey you, or they do something that put themselves or others at risk, is a good time to bring out the paddle. Yelling and screaming at them doesn't work either, tell them once and if they don't listen then spank them. Also, don't argue with them, you are the parent and they are the child, no matter how much they think they know, you know more. A lot of times a child will act up just to get a reaction from the parent, if you quit reacting like a crazy person, then they will usually lose interest.

Answer 3

Although I only have a one year old, I have family and friends with children your daughters age. Here is some of the things that they do that worked for them.

1. They stopped yelling at their child and spoke in a clam, soft voice. The child had to stop what they were doing to hear what mom and dad were saying

2. They stopped making a big deal out of little things that would not cause the child to be in danger. Example: the child stopped going poop on the toliet, then stopped altogether, so they went back to pull-ups, didn't make a fuss when the child pooped in the pull-ups, just changed them and after a few days the child went back to pooping on the toliet regularly because they were not getting a reaction from the parent.

3. Explaining the danger, reason etc. in words that they would understand at their age.

4. Removed objects that were being touched up higher and explained to the child.

I think you will just have to try a bunch of things until you find something that works for you. Good Luck

Answer 4

Smack her hands. Make sure you are not giving her things with caffeine in them. She could be hyper from the things she is eating and drinking alot of. If it's just a discipline problem then discipline her. Children need structure. It' not healthy if they have none. Be consistent. Smack her hands & tell her no in a stern voice. You can't say "no sweety" & expect her to listen. Pretty soon you'll find yourself with a well behaved & happy daughter if you are consistent. If you aren't nothing will work. Oh & yelling is not good. All that will do is make her an angry, nervous wreck & your household miserable! When she does something good make sure you praise her for her behavior also. Best of luck. God bless.

Answer 5

3 year olds have a lot of energy. They want to explore everything around them and test the limits. This is normal. Set firm limits and stick to them. Positive attention also goes a long way. Aside from that, consult your family doctor regarding your concerns. They should be able to put you into touch with someone qualified to make an assessment as to if your child is hyperactive. Good luck!

Answer 6

Time out. If she doesn't stay, pick her up yourself and put her back every time. It will drain the crap out of you, but it works. Count to 3, slowly, and then time out. Slap the hands, not too hard, if she is too touchy, but always give a warning first.

The #1 thing is consistency. If you are willing to buckle down, do it, and don't back down. Now is the time to make it work. Just imagine 10 years from now. Yup, hello?! Come on, you are the mamma, and you are bigger than her. Establish that now...or you'll be in big trouble later!

Answer 7

Really at that age she is curious about everything and learning. Try to be more tolerant of her actions and not restrict her too much. Children need limits and discipline but they also need space to learn. You may need some time to your self. If that is the case try to send her to a preschool for a few hours a week. You may be delighted to hear she is completely different at the school. She will start to change at home too.

Answer 8

Your little girl and 4 million other children. Children are curious, have lots of energy, and love to explore. It is thier nature.

Put your valuables away. My wife and I have 2 little girls and nothing on the shelves, tables, end tables, or anything. It keeps them out of trouble and keeps your nerves down.

Keep them active. Play with them outside. Go to a playground. Go to the local swimming pool. Go to a zoo. Go somewhere and wear thier little bodies out. It puts them to sleep early and gives you a break.

Do you have a strong discipline program? You gotta have time out. When they misbehave you have to tell them they will have to go to time out if they don't stop. If they continue, put them in a chair and make them sit quietly for 5 minutes. If they squirm or cry loudly, let them stay there longer. Make them sit down always. Eventually, they will quit crying and calm down. You then have to explain to them why they were there and why it will happen again if they misbehave. Eventually, this will work. You have to be steadfast and not give ground. When they misbehave, tell them the consequence. If they continue, straight to the time out chair for 5 minutes. They will get it.

Enjoy this time. They are so cute and sweet when they are little. Our daughters misbehave alot, but they know the consequeces. It keeps them sweet more times than not. They are so much fun and full of life. Enjoy it with them. They'll grow up so quickly and be gone from you. You'll miss them greatly.

Answer 9

As a parent with 2 adhd children the best thing you can do is watch what you feed her. Red dyes and sugar are a bad combination, secondly crack down on her behavior with a firm voice but reassure her that it is her actions that are bad and not her. Lastly if all else fails take her to a pediatrician

Answer 10

first you have to demonstrate the correct behavior. i don't spank (except once when she ran out in the middle of the road.) i do everything i can to speak clearly and calmly and kindly. i use time-outs and countdowns regularly.

(shoot, i put myself in time-outs sometimes.)

if i tell her we're leaving if she does whatever, i leave, even if it means carrying her screaming out of a grocery store and leaving the groceries there.

clear, natural consequences for her actions. but if you don't have a grip on the concept, you can't teach it to her. "if you can't be sweet and nice and listen, you're in time out and i won't play with you. when you're ready to be sweet and nice you can come back out."

i always keep my girl in a cart at the store - it's not fair to expect her to stay next to me and not run around. she's three, you know?

and most of the time we spend outside she has plenty of room to run around. when we're inside, things are kid-proofed so that she can't get into anything that will hurt her (hopefully - i always wonder, though...)

good luck. firm discipline doesn't have to be cruel discipline. and it can still be very effective.