It has been bothering me for some quite time. I spoke to my boyfriend on the phone today. We talked about different things but I felt quite upset about the phone call. He didn't sound so happy to hear me and he didn't show so much enthusiasm? I mean he wasn't bad to me but he was just not showing me that he is happy to talk to me? I asked him a couple of times if he was ok and he said that he was and then when I asked him again, he got irritated with me and he asked me in an annoyed way if there is anything he said that would make me ask him all the time if he was ok? He said to me that I also sound strange. I saw him last weekend and he was the sweetest guy to me, today he sounded as if he is not the same guy. He was coming back from work when I called so maybe he wasn't relaxed enough but it's not the first time that I feel like this after phoning him? I want to tell him about it but I am scared to make a fight out of it as I don't want him to think that I am complaining.
2006-08-10 07:51:49 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if it's a guy thing but how can he go from being so sweet and loving to sounding so distant on the phone? How can I talk to him about it? I always end up being upset as I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me or he is not happy to talk to me. When his friends call, I feel like he is having a laugh and he is much happier? I am feeling sad about it. I can't help feeling unappreciated and rejected?
2006-08-10 07:54:21 · update #1
Maybe he had other things on his mind. He might be having problems at work. Don't nag him about it. Sometimes people are just tired and hot from working and those types of question, just get on your nerves. Relax, and let him do the same.
2006-08-10 08:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels scared because you're too needy and desperate. You can't just dump your feelings on a guy and think it will make him feel inspired to return those feelings. It will likely scare him off.......slow down and open up at his pace. make yourself less available and find lots of other things to do. If there is no challenge to win you over, he will likely lose interest and move on. NEEDINESS SUCKS THE LIFE OUT OF PEOPLE, AND DESPERATION IS UNATRACTIVE. No one wants the responsibility of making you happy or giving you self-esteem. That's YOUR job! Get happy, build yourself up by mastering skills and accomplishments, (it makes you more interesting) and he will want to share that with you. Don't follow him around like an eager, excited puppy dog. Respect his time and his personal space. Quit acting like he owes you something.....If he is really into you, he will pursue you and it will show. You can't make him like you, you will annoy him if you try.
Be more unavailable and and show his that he has competition for your time and attention.......be more of a challenge, less of a pushover.
2006-08-10 15:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend sometimes does that to me. i keep asking him if hes ok n it doesnt really seem like it helps and he gets mad. he also sometimes seems happier when his friends call but i guess its just because theres is a different relationship with friends and girlfriends. sometimes it just he has a bad day. tell him that ur just concerned and u care about him. my boyfriend says i complain too but its not that im complaining i jus want to kno whut hes thinking, sometimes their jus stubborn i guess. if he sounds like he doesnt really wan to talk try to wait for him to tell you something. u cant keep it inside trust me i kno it is not a good feeling. jus try to make the conversation a little more relaxed and make him want to talk. good luck i hope i helped a little
2006-08-10 15:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋