2006-08-10 07:34:57 · 23 answers · asked by sandrasmoak52172 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It will help your daughter to have a good relationship with her father. That's an important part of life. You should encourage that.
And, you should ask him for child support. He should have been helping all along, but now is as good a time as any. Take his sorry you-know-what to court and get some assistance. If nothing else, he can pay for her to attend college. You've done everything else.
The two issues are separate, but not entirely separate. One question your daughter will have for her father is why he never did anything to help. And, it's a legitimate question that he will have to answer if he wants to have a relationship with her.
Good luck to all of you!
2006-08-10 07:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you have been doing just fine for 15 years without him...but what does you daughter think about the whole situation???..at the end it is her decision if she wants her dad to be around not yours...you can't decide that for her, not now that she can make some decision on her own....yeah it could be fair that he would pay child support and if you want you can still do that, file for child support and get a big check for all the years he hasn't helped you financially and then what???...does that solve the problem??...talk to your daughter and hear what she has to say
2006-08-10 07:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by La Trole #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend needs you to inform him to back off and keep in mind that this newborn has a bio dad. with any success, the bio dad has had time to imagine about it and is in a position to settle for the responsibility he did not settle for earlier. you comprehend him astounding - do you imagine it is a passing fancy or do you extremely imagine he will attempt to proceed to be and play an element contained in the newborn's existence. perhaps the boyfriend is afraid that you'll back have an interest contained in the newborn's father? If the daddy is going to courtroom, he must be granted visitation rights. have you ever saved in contact jointly with his mothers and fathers so as that the newborn is conscious of both gadgets of grandparents? His mothers and fathers must be in a position to provide you some perception into his plans.
2016-11-29 20:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by adlai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he wanting to come into the picture after all that time? Is it some change he's gone through, is it guilt, what? Why wasn't he around before? As for paying, maybe he is...in a different way...he's missed out on the best times, her growing up. No money could ever repay that, what a thing to have missed.
2006-08-10 07:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back he doesn't deserve you or her for that matter! 15 years is a very long time for him to be out of the picture and I would be asking him why he suddenly decided to come into the picture and I would make it clear that you aren't dropping any child support order that there is and you aren't dropping any back support that is owed. I would be very skeptical of him. I would let him see her and spend time with her but I would be careful because you have no idea about what his motive is for coming around after so long.
2006-08-10 07:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SIMPLE!!! Just tell him to back off, by threatening child support & back child support!!!
As a woman I would do this in a second to protect my child... just tell him that if he wants to see her you will have to file child support claims with the Attorney General's office (from now and the last 15 years of back child support due with escrow fees and various state penalties). Then he may see here only one weekend a month depending on the court...
However, if he leaves and never speaks to her again you will not pursue child support with the Attorney General!
I would do the samething to keep my daughter or son away from there deadbeat dad!
You have the upper hand use it! He will go away and you will have your daughter to yourself!
If he does not go away he will have to pay dearly!!!
2006-08-10 07:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by bone_daddys_waitress 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well from the childs point of view she may hate him she may want nothing to do with him maybe you should talk to her about it and think of a way to say it i am going through this my father ditched me and my mom when i was 2 motnhs old i almost died and he wasnt there he never wanted me told my mom to lie and tell me lies about how he was doing good my mom never lied he sad he would come back when i could understand well last year he contatcted me his only son and said he had been sorry i tod him "leave me the **** alone i dont need you i havent needed you yet" i still to this day hate the man but i will give him a chance to redeem himself we talk but he knows im not happy with the way he is i think you should talk to you daughter and ask her is it ok with her how does she feel about it i hope i have helped you in some way im 15 and have the mind of an adult you should know i have gone thorugh it sop my advice is viable
2006-08-10 07:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by yokoshima 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More importantly, how does your daughter feel about this? Does she want to be in her Dad's life. Screw the money. You've done fine by yourself for 15 yrs, you don't need his money. What's the key is your daughters feelings, and I'm sure you'll agree, you can't put a price tag on that.
2006-08-10 07:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well go after him for child support also you can go for back child support the courts will make him pay and also try to get full custody of daughter the courts will give it to you since he hasn't been around for 15 years he will either go to jail or pay for child support its a win win for you
2006-08-10 07:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by mario c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That how my real mother was, she wanted to be in the picture but she wanted my dad to pay for everything. so she didn't stay in the picture, but ask ur daughter if she wants him in her life cuz maybe she wants to see him or not its ur choice!
2006-08-10 07:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by I...love...me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋