I was put up in Foster care age of 9 months, i was adopted by the same lady that i was in foster care with , (my mom) then she passed away when i was 8 yrs old, ever since ive been living with my sister (not birth sister)
i just started reacearch on how to find my birthmother this week.
I lost my adoption papers so i need to find out how to recieve them.
How long did it take you to find your birth family?
2006-08-10 07:31:02 · 2 answers · asked by lovesugarkisses 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
well, my mom ran into the military and to another country to get away from my dad (he wasn't dangerous, she was just selfish and stupid) i never saw my dad. I found out that if you have their social security number (i found it on my birth certificate) you can write a letter to the SS office and include a letter to your parent sealed and postaged. they will take their last known address in their records to forward the letter. This process took me less than a month. he responded the day he received the letter.
it all depends on whether you had an open adoption on whether or not you can locate your birth parents info.
as far as regretting it, whether or not your birth parents receive you with open arms. i can say this. you won't regret it. if things don't turn out where they want to be in your life now, it's okay. you made yourself available. i found my dad and now i no longer talk to him. but i don't regret it. Because now i know. You are the one that reached out. you may not get all the answers you want. but if someone is not willing to reach out halfway, they aren't worth being in your life.
good luck!
2006-08-10 07:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sumtimes it is regretted
2006-08-10 07:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Piffle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋