sister-in-law who has done some things to me and she constantly tries to break up me and my husband-what can i do. I get really mad at her and i want revenge, but what can i do?
2006-08-10 07:22:57 · 50 answers · asked by gee-geeofmo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Don't let her see you get mad. pray for her (remember that doing that is piling heaping coals on her head--I get the reference wrong). Try to stay away from her if possible...I know that revenge can be tempting, but do not stoop to her level.
2006-08-10 07:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by tonya j 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister does what she does for reasons I know you can't imagine. You, as a Christian, feel conflict because you want to fight back but feel that is "unchristian". Being a Christian has nothing to do with what you do or your deeds but what you believe and accept on faith but living a Christian life and being a good witness about Christ has everything to do with what you do and how you act. Also as a Christian you have the Holy Spirit within your body co-existing with your spirit and what you do does effect the Holy Spirit and God's ability to communicate with you and bless you. Having anger or desires to exact revenge is a very human feeling and natural for someone that feels the actions of someone doing a very unloving thing. With Christ and God there is Love for those that hate and abuse you. Ultimately though she is your Husband's sister therefore what you say or do will not cure that situation. You can however share with your Husband your feelings and hurt and if he loves you then he will intervene and put a stop to this activity. Share with him your feelings and what it's doing to you and ask him if he can do anything. As far as your communications with your sister-in-law make them direct and strong. If you have to tell her your feelings and desires and that you recognize or perceive what she is trying to do. If your husband loves you then he will back you. Confront her and tell her you love her with Christian love and therefore will not be controlled by anger. If she is not a Christian believe me this will infuriate her far more than anything you could say or do in revenge. If she is a Christian then you should approach it, in love, and tell her that what she is doing is not scriptural and in Love as two Christians should interact with each other. Last pray about this and turn it over to the Lord for his guidance and help.
2006-08-10 07:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the Lord first, talk to your husband second and tell him what is going on. She is throwing out bait and you are rising to the occasion. Stop and you will not be as much fun. Some people think this is a way to have fun at someone else's expense. She is having the time of her life upsetting you. Whatever is a nice answer. If your husband really loves you don't worry about it, this won't happen. When you see her coming say a short prayer for her and start humming a hymn. She will not stay long if she hates the Lord.
2006-08-10 07:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say what kinda things your sister in-law has done to you, or how long you've been married, or if your husband is a Christian as well... so its kinda hard to advise.. I would pray about it... pray that God guide your sister inlaw to do the right thing.. pray that God remove your feelings of anger and revenge.. and pray that God guide you when you talk to your husband about what is going on and how you feel... then pick a quiet evening at home and talk to your husbad about what your sister in-law is doing and ask him what he thinks would be the best way for you to handle this... if you talk to him with the attitude that you want his advice in handling his sister, instead of a complaining attitude he is more apt to listen and be less defensive... I hope this helps... and good luck!!
2006-08-10 07:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by monie99701 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get revenge. I'v read a story similar to yours written by a woman that was married like you and she had a problem similar to yours. You can win her over by always being nice and gentle and friendly to her. One day, she will change her heart. Also, keep praying. Both you and your husband should pray. This worked with that other woman. She was always nice to the other person no matter what. And she showed that she cares about her. Then finally, they both became friends.
2006-08-10 07:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mizz Clever16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romans Chapter 12, 'Vengeance is mine I will recompence said the Lord.'The devil is only trying to bring you back to where you were. The Lord is depending on you to pass this test because greater is in you than that which is in the world. and remember each trial will help you to win others because the teach you how to be patient and to depend on the Lord. I know how you are feeling but let the spirit of God comfort your heart. Now this is how you deal with the problem. Do not stop fasting and praying about it. Talk to God as if he is a human sitting before you. Remember always , the eyes of the Lord is up on the righteous and his ears are open to their cries. Call on him now. It may seem as if he is not hearing or the problem is not being solved but even when it seems as if he is late , he is always on time.
2006-08-10 07:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by joebaby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by no means am i christian, but revenge is not the christian way for sure. i personally have no religion i follow but i was dubbed catholic when i was born so it was not by choice. but i will give u the unbiased opinion i give my friends when they are about to do something like that. i tell them to be the better person and let karma take its rounds. u will soon see that if u ignore her and not show her that u are emotional distrought over this she will start to see how strong u are. and the situation with your husband girl let me tell u he has seen that woman his whole life and if she doesnt stay outta his business (marriage) he will tell her of soon enough because it is his sister not yours just remember that.
girl i swear i have so many things goin on when a female starts her drama, i give them no time of day. its better for u when u are standing in front of god with a clean slate instead of being judged for those little things.
2006-08-10 07:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by browneyes_60706 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk about this with your husband. Is he aware of the situation? If he is, and has not come down firmly on your side, you might want to consider leaving him. If he agrees with you, then it would be best to cut off all contact with the sister-in-law, at least for a year or so.
2006-08-10 07:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible teaches us to love everyone...not just those people who love us back...but our enemies also. I know this is a very difficult thing to do, but we look to Christ who provides the perfect example. Christ loved everyone and He died to save everyone, even those who persecuted Him. So when you want to get mad at your sister-in-law, ask God to help you to love her in spite of the things she has done. Do not render evil for evil, you will only block your own blessings. Instead, show her kindness and love. It may take a while, but eventually she'll stop trying to cause trouble for you. Also, you can be confident in the fact that your marriage is in God's hands. If God has ordained your marriage, no one can break it up. Therefore, you don't even need to get upset when people try.
2006-08-10 07:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anna Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
vengeance is mine says the Lord
tell your husband how you feel give specific situations- the fact that he is her brother he may be able to talk to her about it he may need to tell her to butt out.
Tell God how you feel tell Him what you want, he already knows so why try to hide it? Ask that His will be done give Him not just the situation but the emotional bags your caring and then when Satan starts to tempt you with those thoughts- the ones you know are not God's will, start praying pray for someone who hasn't accepted Christ, pray for a specific ministry a certain person and pray as long as it takes and as often as it takes. You may need to ask God for help adjusting your heart and attitude so that you can pray effectively
2006-08-10 07:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋