Well see my mother had this BBQ the other day where she invited the family over. And my Grandparents came. I had already eaten a few hot dogs and hamburgers, but Im a big girl and am 20 years old, so you know a girl has to eat. Anyways Grandma had requested she get to taste my mom's strawberry shortcake. But so many people loved it that there was only one slice left and it was between me and my Grandma. My Grandma smiled and asked if she could have the slice, and I said "No" because my mother made it and I hadn't had any dessert yet. So Grandma offered to split it but by then I had already started eating it and since I take big bites I had eaten most of the slice already. With my mouth full of cake I tried to offer her the 1/4 that was left but my Grandmother said "No thank you" in a bitter way and told my mother how selfish I apparently had been. My mother yelled at me but I yelled back, claiming it wasn't my fault Grandma didn't want the 1/4 of cake that was left! Should I feel bad?
2006-08-10 06:53:36 · 34 answers · asked by mrs sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because it was rude, no offense...
2006-08-10 07:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by bijjiggitty 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Actually, yes, you should feel very bad, and you owe both your mother and your grandmother an apology.
First of all, your grandmother was a guest that day, and common courtesy dictates that the guest's needs are always taken care of before those of the host, and as your mother was hosting the BBQ, you are included under the "host" umbrella. As such, you should have offered the piece of strawberry shortcake, even though it was the last one and you hadn't had any yet, to your grandmother.
Second, not only was your grandmother a guest, but she's your grandmother, and as such, you need to treat her with respect, and part of that respect would be to offer the cake to your grandmother, and not stuff it into your face and then offer her the crumbs with your mouth full.
Third, being a big girl of 20 years old, you should know all of this already, and the apology you owe to your mother is for embarrassing her with your display of gluttony.
2006-08-10 07:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by OldSage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You so need to grow up. Your 20 years old and have eaten a "few hamburgers and hotdogs" I eat 1 hamburger and if it has been a while since I ate I may eat a hot dog. You should have given the cake to her. She is your grandmother. I'm sure there were other desserts there. YES you should feed really BAD. How selfish are you?!
Oh I know the answer VERY!
2006-08-10 08:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tara R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the phrase, RESPECT YOUR ELDERS! You are a big girl and a girl has got to eat. That is the saddest thing I ever heard. How self centered are you anyway? Grow up and get a life. You live with you mother more than likely. She could have made another one and then you could have eat-in the whole thing by your self. You need to make a strawberry shortcake for your grandma take it to her and tell her you are sorry and you don't know what you was thinking.
2006-08-10 07:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The polite thing would have been to share it 1/2 way or give her the piece. You live with your mom so you can have the cake more often than your grandma can. Plus, who wants to eat a piece of cake that someone already ate off of? Your grandma shouldn't have talked about you behind your back if she was upset with you, so you have a right to be frustrated. And your mom's feelings were probably hurt because you hurt your grandma. I would probably just forget about it now and if it comes up again, offer your grandma the first bite.
2006-08-10 07:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should feel bad.
Come on. I'm a big girl too, and that's just no excuse.....not to mention it makes the rest of us look bad. It was your grandmother for crying out loud! When you can't give your cake to your grandmother....it's a sad day. I don't care if she is mean and bitter and selfish....she's still your grandma. My grandmother is angry and mean.....but I would still give her what she wanted...within reason.
Next time, go out of your way to make sure that your grandma gets what she needs before you do. It's only respectful. And, just because you're a big girl, it doesn't mean you "gotta eat".
2006-08-10 07:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your track record you sound like you are lucky your Grandma didn't beat the crap out of you for being the way you are. You should be completely ashamed of yourself and if I was your mom or your grandma I wouldn't invite you to family get togethers. I sincerely hope you are just a pathetic mess that wants attention from strangers on the internet and that you don't really act like that because you act like some kind of inbred idiot. Shame on you and grow up.
2006-08-10 07:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel some guilt if I were you.. Your Grandma knew you wanted some of the cake and was willing to go 50/50 with you. It was better to have half the cake then to eat most of it and have your Grandma be upset.
But that is just me. I would feel bad....especially my Grandma
2006-08-10 07:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aww don't worry about it...you see GRAndmothers are selfish, I'm having a big problem with mine...she likes to take money from both her sons and makes herself look rich, she's like a little baby, and now she's requesting $300 a month...my parents have to pay for the nursery home, and it's not fair. cuz we wanted to buy a house but...say goodbye to that..
well your mom will get over it, it's not like you didn't offer any to your grandma, your grandma was kinda rude to say no of the 1/4 of it, it's as if she's doing it on purpose to make u feel bad...that's how grandmothers are, and I know this for a fact cuz when my grandmother came from europe, she had to sleep in my room, and I didn't want that to happen because she smelled so bad, and I hated the basement, and I wanted to sleep in my own room, cuz I didn't want to move all my stuff away. well my mom said nooooo make her sleep there and she got pissed at me and yelled at me, and I said no, and my grandma said please, and then I was like ok...watever, so then she said NO NO it's ok go go sleep in your room, and she was faking being offended, I think that's wat ur grandma did. When my grandmother went back to europe, my room was disgusting, smelled like old lady armpits, and when a guy came in my room to say hi, it smelled so bad and i was embarassed, I had to wash all my sheets, I made my mom do it.
PLUS:
who knows, you could of saved her, who knows if she has cholesteral or not, just tell your mom 'I'm sorry I didn't want grandma to eat it cuz im concerned with her health'
2006-08-10 07:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by JOLIE69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm, yeah she has a right to be mad. You were being a selfish piggy. If you had already eaten that much then you didn't need dessert-plus that's your grandma for cryin' out loud who knows how many more shortcakes she'll get to eat
2006-08-10 07:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by Wish 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ummm yeeeah you should feel bad, and even though you wanna blame the people who took more than one slice, it's kinda your fault that your mom yelled at you. Next time, don't take the last piece of anything. Split it first, and go say sorry to your grandmother.
2006-08-10 07:05:57 · answer #11 · answered by musicrazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋