She told me that she hasn't eaten in over 3 weeks. And if she does, she just throws it up. Im the only one she has told, she hasnt even told her boyfriend of 2 years. Should I tell him? She said she eats in front of him and her family so it isnt suspicious but then goes and throws up right away. Should I tell him? I will not be the one to tell her mom, (her dad died when she was 8), because I want her to be able to trust me. In case anything like this ever happens again, she has someone to confide in.
2006-08-10 06:31:04 · 10 answers · asked by kristen4562 3 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
She is not fat AT ALL. she is 16 years old, and about 5'7, and only 130 pounds.
2006-08-10 06:32:03 · update #1
what will happen if she continues to not eat?
2006-08-10 06:39:21 · update #2
you NEED to tell her mother. right now she is the only person who can get her the medical and psychological help your friend needs. your friend may be mad that you told, but in the long run she will thank you. anorexia and bulemia do so much more than just hurt your body. if you dont tell someone right now she will just dig herself deeper into the hole she is creating for herself. your friend is sick, physically and mentally. and she needs help. please do not hesitate.
2006-08-10 06:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct, she is has an eating disorder. This is a serious problem and is a mental condition. You must tell her parents.
Remember Terri Shaivo, the woman who was in a vegetative state for so many years and her husband wanted to pull the plug on her while her family wanted her to continue in her non-life? The reason why she was in such a horrible condition is because of her eating disorder which caused her to go on a liquid diet, which caused a potasium imbalance which caused heart failiure which caused her brain to cease normal function.
I don't know if you're friend would end up like Shiavo, but you should know she has a serious problem that needs treatment. Her parents should know about it and it is your responsibility as a friend to tell them.
2006-08-10 06:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she continues to not eat, she will die. Its that simple. She is already doing harm to her body, and some of it may not be fixable. You need to do something and you need to do it NOW.
Since she's only sixteen, there's really no use in telling her boyfriend. He won't be able to do anything you can't do. At 16 she is old enough to go to a therapist and have everything confidential - and maybe old enough to get to a therapist somehow without her parents knowing? Many therapists will let patients pay on a sliding scale if they are not telling their parents, and some of them - at clinics and such - are even free.
If you can not convince her to go to a therapist - or her doctor, which would also be very helpful! - you will have to tell her mom. If your friend told you this, she knows that she needs help. She may get mad at you for telling her mom at first, but she will eventually realize what a huge chance you took for her, just so she would be safe.
Your friend needs help now and you have to give it to her. Good luck!
2006-08-10 17:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Urge her to seek help. There is help for this. This behavior is dangerous. Emphasize how much you don't want to lose her, which, if she continues to not eat, is going to happen.
Continue to be the one she confides in.
Tell her that, without knowing who she is, there's a bunch of total strangers here on YA that really wish she would get help and save her life. She will be better off in so many other ways, too. When she's deals successfully with this problem, she will be much happier for it.
Tell her to do it for herself, for you, for her boyfriend and mother, for everyone one who cares about her, including a bunch of total strangers (or at least this one).
If she refuses, try calling a help line and asking if there are effective strategies for persuading someone in this situation to seek help.
2006-08-10 06:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if the clinics can no longer help her and that's no ask your self, this would be an quite perplexing self damaging ailment to assist, not at all strategies treatment. All i'm able to advise is which you be her buddy for as long as you're able, that's amazingly perplexing to stand by utilising and watch some one commit suicide very slowly and have not have been given any thank you to resign it, additionally undergo in strategies if she would be able to no longer provide up herself, she would be able to no longer provide up for you, so do no longer even circulate there, and use it as a condition of friendship
2016-09-29 03:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by bugenhagen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing some research with eating disorder organizations. Find a facility near where you live and maybe speak to someone who works there. Good luck.
2006-08-10 06:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, don't you think she's bulimic? That's the definition of the word. She has to get medical help right away, her digestive system has almost shut down!
2006-08-10 06:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by sethle99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, honestly, the best thing I think you could do is tell someone, because this is a serious medical problem and if it goes on long enough she could die from it... She may be angry at you, but if you tell and she gets help, you could be saving her life...
2006-08-10 06:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by ses34243 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her first about your concerns. intervention in eating disorders doesn't always mean that they will stop. tell her that if she doesn't try to stop on her own, then you will go tell people. she trusts you enough to tell you, she may be silently asking for you to help her. go to her first, and then start telling if she does nothing.
2006-08-10 06:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by jack spicer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah....she needs some help....you HAVE to tell her mom!!!! she will hate you at first....but once she gets better she will see that you cared..your the only one that knows...and your letting her do it....can you live with that?
2006-08-10 06:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by gooterscooby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋