What happens when you're in your mid twenties, and you've never had a relationship or been on a date!?

Question

It's not like I'm on the hunt, nor am I 'not looking' ...but I just don't understand...where am i supposed to meet people? Pubs and clubs? meeting people in there never seems to work, I'm at uni, and still nothing, it's so hard and i can't really see how things will change??

Answer 1

Hey don't worry too much about it. You sound like the kinda person who has got a good head on their shoulders and doesn't just rush after any one she sees. We all date when we are ready. For me that wasn't until i was 19. I just never met anyone i really liked. So i know where u are coming from. So far it sounds like you are doing the right things by going out to public places where you have the opportunity to meet new people. But try actually striking up conversations with people, be more open. Not just when you go out, but everywhere at school, at the supermarket, you need to build ur confidence. It will also help u to be more comfortable striking up conversations with strangers.
Also use your friends as a resource get advice, hang out with some of their friends people you may not normally associate with. I met a few of the guys i dated through mutual friends, but none of them was boyfriend material at first. Then i met a great guy while spending time at my cousins place. He was one of her husbands best friends and we just had a really natural chemistry all of a sudden. I didn't go out looking for him but when the time was right we found each other, and we are now engaged and he is the love of my life. So there is hope for us all, good luck!

Answer 2

It will change when it is supposed to change. Most likely when you go out into the world-you never know who you are going to meet.

You say that you are not on the hunt, so just let it flow. I know that you are seeing other people with their significant others and I am sure that sometimes you feel a little lonely or just that you wish you could find that. There is nothing wrong with that. There's two things about that though: First, you don't know if those people are really happy. You might not want what they have at all. It's easy to look at and take for face value. Second, when you finally find someone, you will know who you are and what you want. There are a lot of people out there who jump into situations and realize that they are not ready for a relationship or that they have to modify who they are. When you find someone, there is a good chance that you will wait for someone who is really right for you and not someone who you want to make fit your idea.

I hope I helped.

Answer 3

Don't worry im 20 with no relationship either, but that's because I don't want one yet. Want set up for the future then find a wife. But I have a few lined up, mainly from friend of friends. Or go to a club and meet new people to hang out with, then you'll maybe get introduced to the right guy.

Answer 4

Dont freak out just yet. You meet people everyday, you just dont know it coz it happens through mundane things, it doesnt always have to be in clubs and pubs. If there's someone you like right now, try and get to know them. Hang out where they do etc, try and get to be their friend first. If they like you too, then things build up from there and before you know it, you are in a relationship.And if the one you like doesn't feel the same way, there's plenty more fish in the sea.You'll find someone who does, or they'll find you. Remember, you r not the only one looking. Have fun while at it and good luck!

Answer 5

You have to believe in yourself and wait on God. HE knows when the time is right for you so don't mess things up by trying to sort of force a relationship when its not your season. I hope you know what that means but if not it just means that you are an incredible woman but maybe its just not time for you to be with someone maybe Jesus wants to do a great work with you before HE gives you to someone. I don't recommend clubs, pubs, etc. Just wait on the Lord cause HE has MR. Right already for you and if you mess it up by doing things on your own instead of waiting on the Lord then you will have to start all over from the beginning when Jesus had your man right there for you. Why rush it anyway?

Answer 6

Well I had a total of three relationships in my life (and I'm 21) Both the relationships I made in college at 18 I have hated. I met my current girlfriend on www.match.com and we've been together for 1 year and two months. You meet people wherever. Connections are hard to make but if you believe in soulmates, then it will come when it comes. You'll find your relationship when you least expect it. (You have to not want it or care about it anymore, and then bam it happens. That's how it happened for me)

Answer 7

The university setting is a fantastic place to meet people. Try chatting up boys in your class, ask THEM out for coffee. Sniff out parties and go to those. Join a club or a sports team. Anything to meet new people and don't be shy to organize an event or invite someone to the movies. Many nerd boys would be euphoric if a girl asked HIM out.

Answer 8

A university is a great place to meet people...who are in the same situation you are. I get the impression that you may also not have any close male or female friends who could help you in this area. Maybe you don't seem open enough to people. People aren't just going to come to you, you have to put forth an effort.

Answer 9

Enjoy your life. He will come to you. Sometimes it just takes time. Have you told your friends that you would like to meet some guys??? Clubs and pubs are where most players hangout. Try going to Church or to sporting games. There are allot of guys at race car tracks.Maybe not the type you want...But you need to go where guys hangout,even if you don't like sports.

Answer 10

You need to behave in a more approachable manner. University is a great place to meet people if you actually go to parties or other social events. You can also be more proactive: strike a conversation with someone you like: you never know where it may lead...