i like this guy...a lot! i told him that i liked him, and he told me that he already knew. i started talking to him through one of his friends. we are friends now, and we talked almost everyday before he started school. he just recently informed me that he likes one of my friends. i want to help him, but i also don't want to help him. i want him to be happy, but i want to be with him. and i wonder if he is only friends with me to get to my friend. i don't want him to use me like that! he hasn't mentioned anything about liking me as just a friend, or not liking me at all. i've dropped millions of hits, and came right out and asked him before, but he somehow always seems to get around the question. i don't want another stupid answer like:are u sure he know u like him? or just tell him how u feel. this is a real question, so i want a real answer! i'll choose the best answer given by who really trys to help, other than just getting pts. HHHHEEEELLLLPPPP!!!!
2006-08-10 06:10:49 · 18 answers · asked by crazy cracker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not 12
2006-08-11 03:44:01 · update #1
One word of all u r in love with tht guy.
2006-08-10 06:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by rishabh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you've fallen for him, but unfortunately it doesn't seem as though he feels the same way. If he is avoiding answering you directly, it is probably because he just sees you as a friend (and might be using you to get to your friend, I'm afraid). There is a slight possibility that he likes you but is too nervous to admit it, but don't hang all your hopes on that one. He told you he likes one of your friends, so he is being clear and not leading you on. So if he is using you, you are letting him use you, but at least he is being honest.
Whatever you do, don't become so clingy and desperate that you sound pathetic--that is not attractive in any healthy sort of way. Take care of yourself, hang out with other people and not just him, be the type of confident and happy person that everyone can relate to and depend on for help. He might see some other guy focusing his attention on you and start to realize what he's missing (just don't use another guy to make him jealous--you are better than that). If he comes around and starts liking you, great. (My mom and my dad were just friends for years--he even got married to someone else and then divorced while in his twenties--but my parents ended up getting married and will be celebrating their 27th anniversary in November.) If not, it is his loss, and you'll find another guy. I know that may seem harsh, but it's true. Don't be so blinded by infatuation for Mr. Mayberight that you don't see another guy that could be quietly waiting for you.
2006-08-10 13:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by alcachofita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not interested in you. You have told him how you feel about him and I think that he is trying really hard not to hurt your feelings by not answering your question. And if he's told you that he wants to date your friend, then it is time to move on. I know that it hurts, but you don't want to chase after a guy who is not interested in you because then you take whatever he gives you and you deserve better than that. Plus, the fact that he can't be honest and straightforward with you when you ask him a direct question-he might have been using you to get to your friend and you don't want a guy like that.
As for your friend, let this guy get your friend on his own. You do not have to feel guilty about not helping him. Your feelings for him are real and you should not try and hide them or push them down. I think it is great that you want him to be happy because it means that you truly care for him, but if you help them get together, you are going to feel 10 times worse then if they found their way to each other. The best thing for you to do is step back and if they get together to support them.
My only other piece of advice is that if it doesn't work out and he tries to become a part of your life again, think really hard about allowing that. We sometimes want to believe in the fantasies that we have, so we lie to ourselves about reality. I'm not saying that it wouldn't work out between the two of you, but wouldn't you be second choice? You want to be first choice--ALWAYS.
2006-08-10 13:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't like you. He hasn't "picked up" on your hints because if he does he's going to have to hurt your feelings and tell you he doesn't feel the same. By ignoring your "attempts" and asking you about a friend tells you that he is not interested. You have been put in what I like to call the "awesome friend" category, try telling him how you feel and I bet you 1 million dollars he's going to say something like, "But we're such awesome friends, I don't want to mess that up..." The reality is he just doesn't dig you. Find someone new.
2006-08-10 13:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by wild_orchid_1988 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess...youre 12
Forget about him, ignore him. Guys don't like if you're obsessed about them. By ignoring him you'll make him question why he "let you go". You'll see him during school and thats when he'll try to connect with you again. Then you can build your relationship to a level better than friends.
If hes not interested in you from the beginning, then my advice of ignoring him still works
2006-08-10 13:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the way I read the situation, based on what you've told me. He likes you as a friend, but that's it. You've already told him how you felt, and he's sidestepped the issue...that means he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Translation...you are just a friend, and that's all. Be his friend, but move on with your life and find someone who will love you in return.
Good Luck
2006-08-10 13:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does not love you, just like you as a normal friend. Dont' be a fool; stay cool and help him get your friend. Don't be selfish, help them be together. That way, he might like you more (but still as a friend).
You are young, you can find someone who really loves you.
2006-08-10 13:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Henry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are all friends and would like to be told by each one the same thing to feel important for the other.
2006-08-10 13:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the fact that he never actually answered any of the hints you gave out should tell you something, he doesn't want to hurt your feelings but doesn't like you that way,i don't think he is using you to get to your friend it just might be his way of letting you know he doesn't like you that way but he DOES like your friend that way
2006-08-10 13:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by jeanette98070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with the guy, dress nicer and ask him out more or hang out with him more. That way he or his friend will know that you like him and say something to him
2006-08-10 13:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋