ok...My friend told me that this guy that I have liked for about 4 years asked My best friend out. He told me that He really liked me and that when I was allowed to have a boyfriend He will wait for me. He told me I was sexy and He loved me. I told my Best freind that I loved Him and she is now going out with Him. I need Help!!! LOVE HURTS
2006-08-10 06:04:47 · 27 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same problem with my best friend,too.
I had a crush on this one dude for like 2 years and she new about it. He ended up asking her out this year and she gladly accepted it. I kicked her trifflin butt to the curb.
The moral of the story is that we (females) are a very competitive species. She was probably jealous of u 4 whatever reason, why else would she go after what u want? That is not ur friend ! Leave her alone . She is afloosy and a waste of your time!
2006-08-10 06:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by bkempress718 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound young. Yes, love hurts. Does it hurt more that he said he loved you and asked someone else out or that you told your friend you love him and now she is going out with him anyway?
You are being too dramatic and over-romanticizing things. Just stop and think for a moment. He doesn't love you with an undying love because he is dating other people. In that sense he's not "waiting" for you. Your best friend isn't behaving like a "best" friend because she is doing something that she knows is going to hurt you.
For now, you need to let go of your romantic ideas about this guy. Focus your attention on something else--like doing well in school or learning how to do something new. Talk to your friend about how she is hurting your feelings, but consider this, do you want to force her to choose between you and this guy? Is he that important to you? If your friend really doesn't care about your feelings at all, it's time to find a new friend.
Whatever you do, try to step back from all of your feelings and think--use your mind--to really think about what is the best thing for you to do.
2006-08-10 13:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then let it go hun, I know it hurts, but your guy (though you were not into a relationship still) told you he liked you and your best friend (whom knew so well you like him) betrayed you.
They are not worthy of your love and attention. Your galpal lost someone as great as you and the guy? forget him.
Do not cry, you'll meet someone far greater and will not hurt you this much. And you will meet him when it's right to have a boyfriend. Cheers, you just have been blessed! 2 bad people were stripped off of their true colors and you are so lucky.
If I were you, your best friend is no longer your friend. If she really love you as friend she will know this will hurt. So stay away from her, she might hurt you more..
For the guy, he only wants your body and does not see your real worth...your more precious than silver and gold, so hold your head up high sweetie, and just learn from this experience.
2006-08-10 13:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This may not be what you wanna hear but it will set you free. If that guy loves you so much and cares about your feelings why would he date your best friend and not you. Did he at least ask you out? What you need to do now is forget about this guy and watch your so called best friend closely. If I were you, I'd keep her away from anyone I had my eye on and tell her nothing about them. If she started dating your crush AFTER you told her you like him, you need to slowly get rid of her. Don't have long chats with her and don't call her. I know this sounds harsh but ask yourself this: "If she'll go out with this guy, what would stop her from going after my boyfriend or husband one day?" It's a matter of loyalty and integrity, and she has neither. If she found you liked him after she started going out with him, it would be selfish for you to ask her to stop especially if you're not allowed to have a boyfriend right now. Crushes rarely work out happily ever after but don't let one dissapointment stop you from seeing the good in others. They're will be other boys, and you will find one that not only you like, but that likes you too. If he likes you but goes out with your friend instead, not only does he not like you, but he's a liar. Good luck!
2006-08-10 13:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry. That really stinks! It seems like the "friend" that is going out with the guy you like is not your friend. I suggest you focus on building friendships with people who care about you and who are trustworthy. You all seem very young, so I am sure that they will not be dating for long. When it is over, your "friend" will be sorry for stabbing you in the back and will miss you, but you will be having the time of your life with you new and improved friends. Her loss! As far as the guy goes, it sounds like he liked you so I don't know why he went for your friend. He sounds like a typical male who does not know what he wants---don't worry, men NEVER grow out of this stage! Hopefully, you will meet someone soon who is more worthy of your attention. Until then, hang in there. It will hurt for a while and no one will be able to make you feel better, but time will mend everything. Just let this run its course.
2006-08-10 13:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by purple4k 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I find it strange that your "Best Friend" is old enough to have a boy friend and you 're not. Unless your best friend is your mentor. Sounds like your crush is too old for you in the first place. By the time you are old enough to have a boy friend you will probably think back and wonder what in the world you saw in him in the first place. Hang in there sweetie. Your day will come.
2006-08-10 13:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Vida 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Shes not a real friend if she went out with your crush. Its a rule! Shes a skank and you dont need her as a friend. And if this guy said he would wait for you then ask your friend out, then hes a jerk and you dont need him either.
2006-08-10 13:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you are young and honey there are plenty more fish in the sea, don't waste your time on someone that is going to go out with your best friend despite the fact that he "loves you"
what kind of friend does that anyway. move on and find someone else.
you are right love does hurt! lol
2006-08-10 13:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by puppy love 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that's rude but if you love him wait for him and when they break up then he is all yours and if you are one of the people that don't date you friends x then go and find some one different then your happy but good luck with your friend don't let a guy tear you two apart
2006-08-10 13:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by silly little fairy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love, most of all, is about respect.
The mere fact that he told you that you were sexy means that he sees your body first before your heart.
2006-08-10 13:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by stardustalpha2010 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋