ok i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 6 months now but i ahve no more feelings towards him now and i want to break up but he still loves me and i dun't want to break his heart...i just want to be friends....wut do i do?
2006-08-10 05:57:28 · 13 answers · asked by jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Omfg!! that's the same thing I'm going through. The exact same.
Listen, I understand what you mean, you feel a more friendly vibe towards him, but you know he is head over heals for you. So what do you do? Well, i think that you need to tell him face to face. Say casually, so that you don't get him thinking something bad is going to happen, that you would like to see him for a little bit in a cafe or someplace. And break it to him slowly. You know he is going to ask the ever so popular question "Why?" So ahead of time write a list in your head about the reasons. And make them clear. Tell him you would love to be friends. But when i say that, i mean talk to him like a friend, and just like a friend call him as well. So he doesn't feel like a huge piano was just droped on him. Keep a good connection, just make it clear that basically, you and him, are D.O.N.E.
now.. all i got to do is the same, but for me im not sure if i like him or not, so its slightly different.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-10 06:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to tell him. Don't make a huge production out of it, adding drama just makes it harder on both of you. Let him know you respect him tremendously, and that's why you need to be open and honest with him, and let him know you just don't feel the same way about him you used to. This happens to people; it's why we date people, it's a chance to find out if there's real compability or just flash-in-the-pan infatuation, which usually does fade within a matter of months like that. It'll be hard for him to just be friends--for a little while, at least, he's probably not going to want to have much to do with you. But if you tell him calmly and directly, being honest with him and answering as many of the questions he's bound to ask as directly as possible, there's a much better chance that in a month or two, after the initial pain has faded, he'll realize you're a good person, and someone worth staying friends with.
Good luck with it!
2006-08-10 13:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no way not to break his heart. You need to tell him how you feel. Believe me when I tell you that his love will not be enough to sustain your relationship. You have to do what is right for you. And when you stay with someone that you know you are not in love with because they love you, you are robbing them of truly being loved-of finding someone who will love them the way that they love you.
Tell him how you feel and move on. Also, if he is in love with you, I think that you should let go of the idea of the two of you being friends. I'm pretty sure that he is not going to want to be friends (at least not at first) and if he does, he might be doing it just to be close to you. You need to make a clean break and in about six or seven months, see if the two of you can still be friends.
Good Luck!!!
2006-08-10 13:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend what you need. Tell him that their is a part of you that cares for him, but the things that you want and need in a realationship he isn't giving. Tell him that he is not the one for you. And the things that you recieved from that relationship and the things he recieved from your relationship has helped you both. And will help you both in determining the person you need to be with. That is what relationships are for, to help you grow into the person that you need to be when you find the person that you need and want to be with.
2006-08-10 13:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jon T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Tom Cruise said in "Cocktail", "If relationships didn't end badly, they wouldn't end." Quit worrying about breaking his heart. It will hurt initially, but he'll get over it.
2006-08-10 13:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD ok look what your doing is wrong you need to tell him what you feel or else your gonna really get a big drama goin
2006-08-10 13:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by william_murtaugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just gonna have to break his heart. u just go gotta tell him slowley like example : dear (name) , u see, i know dat u love me and i just want to be alone right now cause my brain is hurting.lie if u hav to.or just say da truth
2006-08-10 13:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you lead him on, the worse it will hurt him. If you truly care about his feelings, do it now before he starts naming your imaginary children.
2006-08-10 13:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but u have to bite the bullet.....and move on...tell him you no longer want to date him as you want to date other people....yes, he will be hurt but much better than him believing something that is no longer true...sometimes one has to do what one must...and sometimes it helps him...if u can make him angry at you...won't help u...but you will be helping him.
2006-08-10 13:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a big girl and tell him baby
2006-08-10 13:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋