I found out by his b-friend that he had people over when i was out of town. I'm not mad cuz i know the friends he had over but he keapt it from me and i found out from some1 else. It makes me wonder what else his keeping from me. We share the same circle of friends...i used to go and hang out with his b-friends all the time & i took it upon myself to stop going around them without him. Now my friend wanted to thank me for a side job i gave him. His friend had been calling to go over for bbq as a ty and i just didn't want to go without my boy. Yesterday he insisted on coming over just for a bit w/another friend he just wanted to thank me personally. I finally said ok cuz i had a friend over and i knew that they were only there for a bit. Now i don't know how to go about the situation i'm mad he keapt it from me but not mad cuz he had friends over. Now i think he will hate the fact i had his friends over. (i live on my own) I called to let him know & he didn't answer or c back.What 2 do?
2006-08-10 05:46:31 · 5 answers · asked by dodgergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u are creating a problem where one does not exist...let it go---say nothing...the guy is entitled to have friends over even if you aren't home. So what...and yes i am a girl
2006-08-10 05:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is complicated. i'm guessing that she regrets ending issues with you and he or she appears like she's co-depending..and ought to't be on my own. She hasn't enable go of you yet. So why do not you help her out and purely tell her to offer up calling or you'll change your style? tell her you aren't any further going to come again consisting of her. once you would possibly want to textual content or digital mail this that way you do not might want to confer jointly with her. i imagine you're doing the right component, yet she might want to listen it from you...once back..that that is over!! as well you probably did date for a good at the same time as so that is likely complicated for her to settle for that you aren't any further in her existence! good success!!
2016-11-29 20:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by petrich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... here's one key thing that i got from ur problem. u have a communication problem with ur bf.
1st of all, u should not be scared to bring up Anything to ur guy, especially when it has to do with hurt feelings
2nd of all, he should never get upset, put down, or ignore your feelings even if he thinks ur "wrong"
the reason why is, you need a Man who can satisfy ur needs. mentally, emotionally and physically. once u find that, u will never be afraid to talk to him about something, u will never feel like he is taking advantage of you, and u will never feel like he doesn't validate ur feelings. u will never fight about this kind of stuff. not because u are "right" and he is "wrong" and just does whatever u say... it will be because he chooses to Communicate with you, and WORK ON anything he and u need to do to fix the situation.
for example, if u feel neglected and tell him, his first priority should be to find out why u feel neglected, and do something to Not make u feel that way. not because he did something wrong or stupid..but because he didn't now what was going on, and now that u've told him, he can do something to make u feel better about the situation.
one time my ex bf (he lived 2 1/2 hours away from me) told me he didn't want to make plans w/ me on a weekend. i asked why, and he said cuz he might hang out w/ his friends. and i was like, what about me? and he said, i drove up last weekend. and that made me feel sad and bad, because i wanted to see him, and he made me feel like 2nd place. i told him, and he exploded, saying "why can't i hang out w/ my friends? i already drove up to see u last time!"
all he had to do was say, "i'm sorry, u are very important to me, but i only have weekends free and want to spend time w/ my friends this week. let's make sure to do something awesome next time". then i will feel safe, and loved, and cared for, instead of shoved aside. but because he was too stubborn and immature to understand that he wasn't satisfying my needs, he ended up blaming it on Me...even tho i wanted to be with him. who's in the wrong here? the thing is, it's not about wrong or right. i don't care if he wants to hang out w/ friends. but i do care if he makes me feel neglected. if ur guy cannot distinguish that you have feelings that are not being taken care of, regardless of other factors, then u are going to have problems
communiate, nip it in the bud. if he doesn't care or doesn't know how to make u happy, u need to find someone who will take time out to find out what makes u happy. not cuz ur a b*** and need all this stupid attention, but because you need to satisfy each others needs in order to have a happy, healthy and satisfying relationship.
2006-08-10 06:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bf and gf should be just that, but friend w/benefits is and should never lead into bf/gf relatiuonships beacause of that reason you are having.
2006-08-10 05:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by ZACHARIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
2006-08-10 06:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by hoboken134 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋