i have depression and anxiety disorder i have a wife of 20 years who has been my sole support and i have treated her as of late very badly i want to know how other people who has similar problems deal with this without destroying a marriage i don't want to destroy my marriage i love her dearly my mental health consumes me i am afraid my wife will leave me i been calling her bad things which hurts me at the end i keep on saying sorry but to start all over again i have talked to my doctor he says things take time well i don't know how much time there is left i take paxil for it but nothing
2006-08-10 05:38:41 · 6 answers · asked by moose 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds like it is time to get back into therapy, inpatient treatment and/or med changes. Situation won't get better on its own.
2006-08-10 05:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by argosy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, 39 yr old with bi-polar and bi-personality order. I was on Paxil and I had trouble with it. All these antidepressants take time to take to your system, at least two years. If you feel yours isn't working well, ask for another choice, there are many. I am On Lexapro and it is the best for me . I've tried others. I can be a real disaster and my poor husband has been to hell and back with me. On Paxil I had a Psychotic episode and did two weeks in a mental ward. I have been messed up all my life but was not diagnosed until 1999. I am now balancing out. I am not perfect can't seem to work with people as a group, so I stay home now and keep busy and keep myself on an even keel. You need to reduce stress as much as possible and get rid of caffeine. Water drink plenty, get protein in your diet, if your not getting enough you aren't thinking straight and hunger makes us angry. You may need to focus on what it is that is behind your outbursts. Fear sounds like what may be there? Focus on the love between you, learn and give forgiveness. We have been together for 11 yrs. Married 5.He married me after the episode.
2006-08-10 06:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I have ruined a very good relationship because of my depression.
It sounds as if your wife is very understanding. Please show her the question you posted so she knows how you feel about her.
Paxil did not help me, but everyone is different with medication. Please keep trying. It is worth it.
Good luck and God bless you and your wife.
2006-08-14 01:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a person with mental illnesses...i have put my husband thru hell.i know i hurt my husband feelings when i have episodes n he knows i cant help it.hes very understanding n all but i feel bad when i get evil with him.im very lucky to have a patient n understanding husband..i had to stop taking ant-depressants cause they was making me have alot of violent tendacies...i feel alot better since theyve changed my meds..im not as mean as i use to be.feel free to contact me.
2006-08-10 05:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by purrdykitten2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does depression make you an *** h ole to her? I do not get it.
2006-08-10 06:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wife is you life support; she understands you are in troble but you have no right to abuse her.
2006-08-12 09:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋