Just an over all question. Most of my friends are guys, because I honestly get along with the opposite sex better. Ive become .. a bit of a diary " journal" if you want to make it masculine. A lot of them tell me their secreats and ive seriously noticed. Guys are a lot more deeper than I assumed. A lot more sweet, and sensitive then what they potray them selves to be.
So why put up an act ?
2006-08-10 05:32:43 · 15 answers · asked by La Princesa 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys seem to be more afraid of intimacy that women. Society has trained them to be that way, not not show their feelings (which guys perceive to be "weaknesses").
You are like most women who avoid other women. You are non-threatening to lots of these guys so they can trust you not to judge them when they are open, honest, and share their dark secrets with you. There is no need to compete with you.
Hanging out with guys only gives you the validation you need. if it works for you, keep at it. It makes you feel more feminine and important. Other women make you feel like you're lacking something, because women tend to compare themselves to each other and feel like they fall short of traits they admire in other women. Some women are uncomfortable arond other women...(too much competition for guys' attention).
You are more comfortable around guys because there is no competition. Nothing wrong with that.
Guys put on an act because they don't trust that some people will like their true self, or think they're weak. They portray themselves to others as they wish other people would think of them.
You are their soft place to fall, and that is a nurturing, female thing to be. Have fun and take care!
2006-08-10 05:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's instinctive in guys not to show weakness. Imagine a prehistoric man living 10,000 years ago. He's built a big wall around his house to protect his wife and kids. And then a stranger approaches. The man runs up to the stranger and says, "Hey there, look over here where my wall has a big hole in it."
Not a smart thing to say when you don't know if the stranger is Friend or foe, right? You probably wouldn't want to marry a guy who showed every stranger where the hole in the wall was, right? Well, that's why guys instinctive don't open up to strangers.
Showing the sweet sensitive side is like showing where the hole is in his personal protective wall. The 'guy act' is just his instinctive way of protecting himself from strangers. A guy has to get to know you before he will trust you enough to open up.
2006-08-10 12:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I rather have male friends too and i have been there for alot of them and when i found out the situation is that they don't know who to trust they are afraid to fail in love so they wonna be tough and they are not to do that because you are right when you say that they are sweet and sensitive they just can't take the fact that they don't want to be loved they just want to have fun but i tell you my friend always change after awhile because they are going to get older and they are going to realize the importance of family.
2006-08-10 12:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by cute_girl_shantie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a male bonding thing that lets them be sensitive until the good time buddies show up. Generally, they grow out of it with some time and maturity. They are afraid the other guys will see them as weak.
2006-08-10 12:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 brothers and it took a long time for them to show there real smart, shy and sensitive side to there girls. my little brother said that it was because up until they started to notice girls the only girls in there lives where my mother and I and just felt weird to be good to other girls like they where with us. he said that it kinda felt wrong so he alway came off as big and macho when around girls and other guys.
2006-08-10 12:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by emily b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't want to let people know how they really feel. They fear that it will take away from being a manly man if they show sensitivity and all that mushy stuff.
2006-08-10 12:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by liliw24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u put up an act to look tough/cool/etc but one on one like your friends do they tell you things to show you how mature/sensitive/caring/ whatever you want to call it - its all part of the master game plan(mostly subconscious -) to get your panties off
2006-08-10 12:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bcuz if they r gentl n caring n nice at first (sum) girls assume he's a mamas boy r a loser n therfore she ends up losing intrest bfor getin to no him.
2006-08-10 12:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Vypa69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because of low self esteem?
2006-08-10 12:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lorla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could be like that...it's bcuz of their friends ya know?
2006-08-10 12:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋