x-wife problems with my mans heart?

Question

after they got married she did not want sex anymore. i love haven sex with him he is something else in bed ..... but ....... he thinks i will do the same..and he will not say he misses me or loves me .... but he will write me notes just to let me know he cares about me .. how do i let him know just becuse she did it that i will not?????/

Answer 1

Tessa
You have confused love and sex. You can accept what he is willing and able to give or you can move on. Have you considered counseling?

Answer 2

When he compares you to her in anyway.... (actions, looks, certain things you do...etc. It's so obvious that he's not completely over his last relationship. He must have really loved her enough to have such a scar from it, that it carried over into your relationship. He won't tell you he loves you or misses you because he's afraid of getting hurt again. You can tell him you won't hurt him but he's going to be guarded. He's only trying to protect his heart. Just be patient and let him get over what he needs to get over. Just be there for him and love him. Don't force him into doing or saying things he's not ready for. Its more special when he knows for sure how he feels. He is writting you notes telling you he cares for you, that's a good start. Just don't ruin it by using his last relationship against him. If you want him to forget her don't bring it up. If he does... let him vent and get it off his chest, because once it's out he can move on. Good luck

Answer 3

Tell him he need to work on his insecurities and stop pre judging you with his past relationship and since it's his past, I say get past it and move on before he destroys his relationship with you.

If you do turn out the same , there is many more beds he can choose from just like he got you after his ex, he can get another.

Don't just focus on sex because it can cause many problems and just enjoy the present you have and stop trying to predict the future unless you are a astrologist.