I think it wrong but just asking to see how many people think it is okay
2006-08-10 05:15:04 · 77 answers · asked by Cutie_Pie21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would like to thank everybody that answered my question. I was touched by the ones that have actually been in a situation like that. I just can't imagine how that feel. But the one that I choose is..........
2006-08-10 05:59:07 · update #1
From my own personal experience....NO!
In high school my best friend was dating this guy. It never was a serious relationship and she complained the whole time they went out how they had nothing in common. What I didn't realize was that this guy liked me and wanted to date me.
So after they split up, he started calling me. Before I pursued the relationship, I made sure to ask her what her thoughts were on the subject. She said if I liked him to go for it. She thought we made a cute couple.
So we started dating and getting very serious. After about 4 weeks of us dating, when she saw we were getting serious, she decided she was made at me. She wrote me a 4 page letter on the night of our graduation from high school. She never spoke to me again after that.
Me and they guy ended up getting married and stayed married for 13 years, but I never spoke to her again. It cost us our friendship.
So even if the other person says yes that it is okay with them, the answer is still....STAY AWAY! That is forbidden fruit.
2006-08-10 05:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is no clear cut right or wrong in the dating world but it definately is a bad idea! Women who do things like this are looked at as whores! Usually . . this judgement is correct. If a person even has to ask if it is ok to do something then they already know it probably is and they also are telling themselves they don't think it is entirely ok. If your best friend isn't worth more to you then a roll in the hay with this person. . well. . then go for it. However. . .just remember. . . what kind of person would date someone and then date their best friend? Usually pepole who do this kind of thing end up on Jerry Springer with the other trash of the world.
2006-08-10 05:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not alright, and I know from personal experience.
My best friend dated my ex boyfriend for over 2 years. She became pregnant with his child and had an abortion. She kept the relationship and the pregnancy from me for 3 years (I had moved to another state and she visited me twice a year).
The whole time I trusted her and considered her my best friend. She moved to my state and became my room mate recently. On Valentine's Day she told me the whole thing. No, it is not OK to date your best friend's ex.
My situation may be more drastic than most, but there is no need for explanation as to why it is wrong and hurtful to date a friend's ex.
2006-08-10 05:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kung Fu Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can be a tricky situation. Mostly the answer for me is NO! However, there are situations that it can be okay. If it's an ex-boyfriend that your best friend wasn't very close to, or she wanted to break up with him because they weren't a good fit, it would probably be okay. If your friend says it's okay with her, and you know she really means it, then go for it.
2006-08-10 05:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe everybody has somebody out there and if u meet them thru exes u will find its very commom, dont feel under threat, at the end of tha day whats meant 2 b is meant 2 b! go 4 your life, follow your heart!!!!!!1
2006-08-10 05:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by anita s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've seen this happen before and it turned out fine. It depends on the type of relationship that occured between the best friend and her bf. If they broke up mutually but stayed friends because they both know very well that it wouldn't work out, then it is fine to date him. It is better if you ask for your best friend's opinion. However, if their break up was not complete or filled with hatred, then I suggest no.
2006-08-10 05:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by pingtinggege 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me it is wrong. Cause you put the friendship on the line. Friends stay longer than lovers do, and for me dating a friends ex will only create rivalry.
Although he is an ex gf/bf, still they shared some wonderful and bad memories. And what if you two clicked longer than with your friend? Your friend might think there must be something wrong with her/him, it just creates tension and stress.
2006-08-10 05:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on the relationship your friend has with her ex. If your friend has moved on and doesn't have a lot of bad feelings, it could be okay. If it bothers your friend and affects your friendship, it probably comes down to a choice between your best friend and your best friend's ex.
2006-08-10 05:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at my first instinct i thought it was wrong too..but i though about it and it depends on the situation...lile if the ex and u were really cliking..like you were sure you would get something good of the relaationship..well go for it..as the best friend would have to understand..but then again if the ex is a horn dogg well no
2006-08-10 05:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no no no no
and no.
i have someone that is doing this trying to do this to me right now. she told me that she likes my ex boyfriend of nearly 2 years who dumped me 2 months ago. she is my best friend but i guess she doesn't feel the same way about me!! i am having a hard time with the break up and she continues to do it! so now i'm dealing with a break up and a backstabbing best friend. nice huh?
don't be like that.
oh and, if they are not good enough for your BEST FRIEND then what the hell makes you think that they are good enough for you?
personally, i'm always first in line ready to kick my friends' ex boyfriends' asses, not date them!=-]
2006-08-10 05:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by xochewyx 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋