I broke up with him because he did not appreciate me or respect me. He made me feel awful about my appearance (and I am told I am quite cute and am beginning to think so again myself after months of being put down), looked at other women where we are out in public, was selfish in bed, criticized me for being sensitive and having emotions, and never took into consideration my schedule or life plans or goals. He was very unromantic, never did nice things for me, and was incapable of expressing emotion unless I was upset with him, which, in the end, was all the time.
So, my question is, why do I still want to talk to him? I know if I talk to him, I am not going to get what I need or want. I know he is not good for me or worth my time. I am so frustrated that I even care how he's doing or want him to contact me. How the hell do I move on?
2006-08-10 04:50:48 · 10 answers · asked by AbbyM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can relate. Me and my ex broke up 5 weeks ago after a 5 year relationship. I can't seem to get over her even Noni that she cheated on me and I took her back. What hurts the most is that is seems that she so easily is moving on and I'm still thinking about her. I think it has to do with me not having somebody and most of my friends live far away so I'm pretty lonely. If you need to talk to somebody I'm here.
2006-08-10 05:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by lionsfourme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're going through is very normal. You dont say how long you were together, but ususally after dating someone for a long time it is extremely hard to move on with your life without them. The sudden realization that your mate is no longer part of your life is horrible and perhaps one of the hardest pains you will ever experience. Despite all the bad and the ugly of the relationship, you still miss the good, but always remember why you guys broke up. Although time does heal wounds, seven weeks is not enough yet. I had a relationship that lasted for three years and it took us over a year to finally get completely over each other and see each other as nothing else than just friends. (Actually he is now engaged and I am very happy for him) The pain will not go away right away, you put a lot of yourself into this relationship and that is the hardest thing to get over. Take support on your family and friends and in God, he can heal your heart like none other. But girl, I gotta tell you this - THIS TOO SHALL PASS, so move on. Dont look back, soon it will all be a memory and nothing else, i promise. :)
2006-08-10 05:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by priscie808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl!
Do you know what? That was exactly how i was feeling not so long ago.....I split with my ex 9 weeks ago now. You have basically answered your own question! honestly they are not worth it and the only reason you want him to contact you is to show you that he cared....well if he hasnt then he obviously didn't. He sounds exactly like my ex and now I feel so great about myself even all my friends and family have commented. The pain will ease with time and thats how you move on. Take up a few hobbies and do things to get your mind off him. There is not a day that goes by without me thinking about my ex but I know I am a hell of a lot better out of it than I was when I was in it! Honestly I thought I would never be able to move on but guess what.....I have and no I dont have a boyfriend (even tho my ex has a gf) but I am starting to enjoy life now. Good luck with the future hun and a tear cried now is a lot better than a whole lot of heart ache in the future, take my advice and NEVER go back, it would never be the same but worse. Wish you all the luck in the world xx
2006-08-10 04:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbellcarly86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to declare darling yet as much as you adore this guy this relationship is poisonous. Love isn't continually adequate, extremely in case you're continually hurting and dissatisfied, useful all relationships is a conflict yet in contrast to this. I say decrease your losses and circulate on. of direction it is going to take a on an identical time as, that is purely been a week and you will have different unhappy moments yet I PROMISE you that for the time of a pair of years from now, you isn't sorry.you'll be superb.good success
2016-11-04 07:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by ravelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. There is everything wrong with him. You have the right not to see him anymore. If he can't take a hint, tell him that you do not want to see him anymore. If that doesn't work, you may have to get a court of law involved by restraining order.
In the meantime, do not answer any more of his calls. Do not see him. Do not even think about him. Start moving on by dating and seeing other guys.
2006-08-10 04:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's him that you miss. I think you miss being with somebody. I think that you are lonely and you are confusing that with missing him. He is a jerk and it's good that you realized that you deserve better. The next thing you need to do, is go out and meet new people. Start talking to a lot of people and eventually, you will find someone who makes you happy. There is nothing wrong with you! He was a part of your life and its natural to take some time to get used to being with out him.
2006-08-10 04:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the simplest answer is not always the easiest. Just do it.
Question for you, when your single, how much do you date. What you really need to do is to start dating again, get your friends to help. help. start out slow, go fast whatever you're comfortable with. Even if you hate everyone your meet you'll accomplish two things. You'll get to see what else is out there. and you'll desensitize yourself to him.
I was miserable after I lost my ex. for months I hated her and couldn't get over her. Now, 7 months later, I'm so comfortable with the breakup. We are seeing other people and best friends again.
2006-08-10 05:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by mreff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up is always difficult!it is good that u broke up with such man! u deserve something better and u must understand it! think about how hard it was to stand his behaviour towards you! Do u think its normal for u to accept it?i think no!u have to know how precios u are!everybody must know that u are the best! so show them all who u are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and forget the idea of calling him!
2006-08-10 05:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there,done that.You will be ok.Start getting into you,and FIND a way to put your focus on other things.He sounds like an asshole girlfriend.Do you!!!Forget that punk!!!!!
2006-08-10 04:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all there is nothing wrong with you yall probably had a lot together and it takes weeks and months to get over a relationship
trust me i know
and there is nothing wrong with you its normal
2006-08-10 04:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by kayla d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋