Bullies at school.?

Question

My 7 year old is being picked on by a kid his own age, any suggestions how to help me tell him how to cope?

Answer 1

Yes. As a child I was bullied. The best thing you can do is tell your son to stand up for himself and don't hang around that kid if he currently does. If the bullying persists go to your child's teacher and report it because these days you never really know how far the bullying will escalade. Depending on what the bullying consists of..ex. physical or verbal..you must take equal amount of action to get it stopped. Both types of bullying are terrible but if it is physical I would take immediate action by going to a teacher or principle because your child is in direct harm. If the verbal bullying keeps persisting I would go to a teacher or principal and report it that way they have it on record and can keep an eye on the situation. Try to get it stopped in a peaceful way as soon as you can because being bullied affects children more than people realise.

Answer 2

Tough question

I have an eight year old and I am still unsure what to do.
Our school is "bully free" yeah right but that is the goal of the school. I don't think they work on it very hard though.

I have thought tell the teacher, recess lady, the principal. Ok this is alright if something is really done about it. But will it really make the bully stop. (Maybe) Or will it make it worse. When I was a kid if I told on the bullys then I was picked on even more by them.

I have thought if the kid hits my kid then my kid should hit him back and that will make it stop. (again maybe) The problem is I don't want my kid to grow up thinking the answer is violence. Also I don't want him to get punished for protecting himself.

When my kid is being picked on (verbaly) he responds with "whatever" and walks away. He says for the most part they have nothing they can say back to the word "whatever" It seems to be a good tatic for him to ignore and not let them see him get upset. He said when they see him get mad or cry it just gets worse.

I did have a talk with the principel last year. He had a kid who was pushing him and taking his hat away. I told the principal that my son tried to tell the recess teacher but nothing was done about it. I told the him that I gave my full permission to my son to clobber this kid if he does it again. His pricipal is more laid back and understood.

My son did end up tackleing the kid down. The kid leaves him alone now. My son did warn the kid many times before doing this. They both had to go to the principals office. The other kid got in trouble but my son did not. I think he would of got in trouble if I wouldn't of talked to the principal first.

Hope this helps or gives you some insight.

Answer 3

Talk to the teacher and/or the prinicpal. Also perhaps to the parents of the kid. No kid should have to deal with this and in many schools today there's a zero tolerance policy regarding bullying. I work in a school, by the way. Make sure to follow up on things because change may or may not occur. If you don't get satisfactory results and nothing else works, consider changing your child's school. Also tell you child to learn to say," No! Don't talk to me like that." And tell your child to say that in the presence of others, so that they can be witnesses to what is going on.

Answer 4

My 8 year old is been picked on by her classmates all the time. I found her counceling and worked closely with the teacher/principal to find a solution for the problem. At the begining of next year we will get together with the other parents and talk this through. If that doesn' t work, I'm moving her out of school. Let me know what you'll do, every situation is different so this might not be what work best for you.

Answer 5

We went through the same thing only the bully was/is 2 years older. You really need to let the school know what is going on. I had a meeting with my son's teacher and it was one of the best things I did. They are aware and know that my son isn't just complaining about something stupid. The second best thing we did was call this kids mom, of course she denied anything bad about her own kid but has kept him away from our house all summer. School starts next week and hope it is finally over but we'll see.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

I don't think he has to "cope", this other kid has to stop! They are at a very young age, but this could lead to future bullying. Have you talked to your son about why he thinks this kid picks on him? You may even think about talking to teachers or even this bullies parents. You have to stop this NOW, your son does not have to 'take it'. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Speak to the school principal and arrange a conference with the other child's parents. They might not care that he's picking on your son but it's a step in the right direction.

Answer 8

Tell him that the only reason people bully other people is because they don't feel good about themselves and the only way they think they can make themselves feel better is to pick on other kids.

Answer 9

Have your kid enroll in a karate or boxing school or any sports activity. If he gets bullied you have to get him to be able to take care of himself. That is the only way to deal with bullies.

Answer 10

Sorry to hear this. Bullying is never acceptable and I wouldn't recommend telling your child to be violent. That's not a solution - it just exacerbates the problem. Two links below should help you.

Best wishes.