okay. so i babysit this kid..and shes just plain anoying... she likes to fight with me and she thinks shes right and when i tell her she isnt she just gets sossy only she knows shes not right .. and shes a little spoiled. so she demands things and gets what she wants and if not she gets amd.. i tried a lot of things... like confronting her that shes not being nice and she says things like .. well its bugging me or.. well i want to or .. i should know , i dont know how to get this kid to stop its like she cant excpet the truth . she has to make things complicated by saying something so its her way, anyone know what i can do AND SHE DOESNT LISTEN TO A THING I SAY :| , but always says her friends dont listen to a thing she says.. shes bossy and she is a hypocrite.
2006-08-10 04:42:11 · 11 answers · asked by somethingcorporate<3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She enjoys the interaction with you. She keeps you interested by goading you into an argument. When children seek our attention in a negative way, we still need to give them our attention. If you ignore them, they will find bigger and "badder" ways to MAKE you pay attention. So be with her when she talks to you. You don't have to respond to anything mean that she says. If you keep quiet, eventually she will ask you why you aren't talking to her. Then, when you have her attention, tell her you do not respond to insults or mean talk. Tell her you will talk to her if she wants to talk about TV, movies, things to do for fun...
First, think about doing the opposite of what you feel like doing around her. If you feel like correcting her, agree with her instead. If you feel like ignoring her, pay attention to her.
Second, listen to her. You can listen without having to agree with her. Instead of responding to her with answers, try asking more questions. Like, "Why do you think that is?" or "Tell me more about that." Since she doesn't listen to you, teach her to listen by listening to her.
Third try to "catch her being good." When she is doing what she should, when she says or does something nice, tell her how much you like it when she does that. Spend time with her, do projects together. Show her how you want to be treated by treating her well.
Finally, tell her what you want her to do in certain situations. After you have shown her how you can be a friend, tell her how you want her to treat you."Please come and say hello to me when I come in. Then you can tell me what is wrong." OR "I don't want to help you when you whine at me. Use a nice voice when you ask for something."
2006-08-10 05:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by acornfullfilled 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time she tries to give you any lip just give her a taste of her own medicine. If she can't accept that then discipline her. She may get away with hell with her family but you are the boss, not her. You need to enforce it without violence or yelling but just be frank about it. Once she knows that you are not playing around she will stop (hopefully), or they will just get a new sitter, worst case.
2006-08-10 05:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all u need to tell the child to calm down and put the child in her place and if it continues tell the parents.
2006-08-10 07:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she understands that she has to get use to your rules when her parents are not around.And talk to her parents they might be the problem.All of ya'll need to talk about this and figure out a solution.
2006-08-10 04:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Desperado 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents first then if they dont understand find another job are you 14 or something?
2006-08-10 05:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't babysit for her anymore??! Why be miserable, find a new family to sit for.
2006-08-10 05:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by dixi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so find another babysitting job or quit and get a real JOB
2006-08-10 04:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by lala08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit babysitting for her.
2006-08-10 04:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get her parents' permission and start using disciplined punishment on her for everytime she disrespects you, i.e. dont let her play with her friends, lock her in her room, etc etc. if the parents are not up for discipline then leave!
2006-08-10 04:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pull a something out and beat the hell out of that kid all she needs is a good *** whooping and i for sure you after that whooping she will be saying yes mam and no mam to you. i can't stand bad *** kids. and you got one.
2006-08-10 04:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by nay- nay' 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋