well i m in a total fix i met this guy two yrs back and we were in a on -off relation but things didnt work and last month we decided to part ways and move on in life he found a girl and i too tried my level best to move on i showed him that i was forgetting him and when with much difficultyi was moving on till again bcoz of my boyfriend i started talking to himin being his friend he started sharing things withme and told me that he wasnt happy with her and that he had finally realised that he is only oin luv with me and that he wanted me back in his life and promised that he would never leave me ever again the problem is that i am confused on wat to do coz i really like this guy and after so much patience i think i might have finally got him and on the other hand isthe guy i am currently going on with he liked me for almost 1 and a half yr and when i finally said yes to him he seems totally diffrent he doesnt talk properly fights with me doesnt listen to anything i say . plz help me
2006-08-10 04:39:59 · 19 answers · asked by cupid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave both of them and move on.
2006-08-10 04:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by its all about me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Devil you know or the Devil you dont...
I'm thinking if the new guy isn't who you thought he was, get the heck away from him.
The old guy.. well, it's hard to say. He may have realized he's happier with you but is he "Happier with you then he is with her." or "Happier with you then he will ever be with another woman."?
I can't judge that for you cause I don't have enough information.
If he's ever cheeted on you, dump him like the trash he is.
If he broke up with you and then went with this other woman, (and didn't cheat on you) then there may be some honor in him... but, will he stay with forever like he claims or run off with the next woman he thinks is better then you?
You could give him a 2nd chance... if it is his 2nd chance. Anything after 2 though, dump him like the trash he is.
Leaving you once and realizing he was wrong to may stregnthen your realationship with him the 2nd time around.
Leaving you more then once, then you're just his fall-back girl. The one he goes back to between others. No one needs to be a fall-back person.
So, there you go. The choice is yours: Be strong and go with what you head tells you and not what you think is your heart.
Edit:
In other words, "Do the math."
Break-ups greater then two equals dump the jerk.
Cheating greather then one equals dump the jerk.
Break-ups less then one and you like him equals try again.
.... Do the math... not feelings or the heart. Feelings can lie to you, and the heart can be decieved....
Love is like gold. Don't fall for the fake stuff!
2006-08-10 04:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by My Two Cents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love springs between two diferent sexs only.and that too after the body undergoes some harmonal changes that kindle certain feelings . i am not elaborating on the obvious. But this feeling is impetuous , sudden and new and has a strong grip on our mind and virtually haunts it and blocks all other thinking.people when the mee to explore love take much car to attract he other sex and do all that theat would impress the other party and show themselves in a light that is totally false . it is true of both th parties . Initially just like a hunter luring the prey into trap , generally men show up a different and attractive character. Once the prey is got in thetrp , justlke the hunter they put the catch into the bag and walk away with confidence to eat it up whenever they please . the partywho is naturally placed in a disadvatgeous position is the Girl all the time . they must use their brain to decide on heior partners on factors othr than words . lies and physicl strenght ,false shows and on factors behaviour ,manners character and and capability if life situations . all the rest will end up in misery only . People fail to learn ,because of the fact thet they allow theirfeelings to guide them and fail to master their senses . Control the senses . you can know the truth with clarity.
2006-08-10 04:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Infinity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your message was difficult to understand.
So this new guy is treating you poorly, doesn't listen to you, picks fights? Dump him.
The old bf...that's a tough one. Do you want to be back with him? Are you willing to give him another chance? Your heart is a great thing, and you should protect it. If you think he just wants someone to be there since this last girl didn't work out, forget him. He will do the same thing when another girl comes along.
I think you should move on from both guys. Find someone who respects you, treats you well, appreciates you. He is out there somewhere! Just don't settle!
2006-08-10 04:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think the choice is obvious, I think you know what it is. Take a chance and see what's there again. Your current boyfriend isn't all that, and he likes to fight. Just admit it to yourself and give it a try. Me and my husband dated many times before we clicked just right and now we have been happily married for 5 years.
2006-08-10 04:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hAVING GOT U AS A PRIZE TEY ARE WILLING TO MOVE ON.
BECAUSE THE LOVE SO CALLED IS BASED ON WANTING.
This arrangement wid both is what i say ownership.They are treating you like they own you.
u need to talk to both and may be move on.you need a relationship where every moringyou choose ,do u want to live together and the respect for each other will deepen
2006-08-10 09:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hai friend.. i think u are in a total confusion... this is not movie to dream about.. its reality.... its not the fact that ur current boy friend is not loving u.... even the fights are sweet parts of LOVE... so try to convince him in every perspective... handle softly with smile always in ur face. there is no other powerfull weapon in the world other than the smile.... then about ur previous b.f, he is like a bear,tempts to change his mind often... concel ur best friend... before taking a decision.. bye.. all the best.
2006-08-10 07:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by prassanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a no brainer to me. He got the prize now the mystique is gone! Go back to your ex and give it another shot.
2006-08-10 04:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that guy may be right.. i mean he maybe really in love with ya but ya said ya have been dating ur new boyfriend for a yr and a half.. don't ya think it's a long time for your ex bf to realize he's rly in love with ya.. dump ur bf and let ur feelings judge ur ex
2006-08-10 04:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Vivid Pink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your not happy with the current boyfriend. maybe the breakup with the one you really wnat to be with was good for both of you. It sounds like you allready have made up your mind.Trust in your heart it wont let you down.
2006-08-10 04:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by sweetiecrc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 07:05:07 · answer #11 · answered by ravelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋